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A Motion for Masturbation – The Naked Truth by Jane Langton (Transcript)

The World Health Organization states, “We have the right to sexual information and the right to pleasure”. It’s our right our entire lives. Some of the most amazing stories come from people in their 60s, 70s, 80s and beyond. Now I’m not just talking about penetrative sex. I’m talking about again intimacy, companionship, touch, connection, whatever that is for you. And I’m talking in part about what Cindy Gallop calls real-world sex in her Make Love, Not Porn TED Talk. She uses it to reframe an open healthy conversation about sex. Imagine if we thought about it that way, how would the world be different, how would your world be different.

I’ve often wondered what it would be like if I was unable to masturbate. Given it some thought, worried about it a bit over the years. Well, over the years I’ve also had the pleasure and the privilege in speaking with a number of people who were facing illness or who are living with disabilities. And I asked them what pleasure, intimacy and sexual expression meant for them. And some of them said it’s often top-of-mind.

Is it not human nature that if we don’t have access or can’t have something that we want it even more? And we may not consider a person with disabilities as wanting or needing pleasure, and how my access to pleasure improved our overall health. And what about the lover that now needs to be the caregiver?

I’m privileged to experience the positive impact I have on those who come into my life, allowing them to feel the freedom to express their own sexuality in their own way; it matters to me. It’s why I’m here. It’s the stuff that feeds my soul.

I had someone recently tell me that because of who I was being, they finally felt the freedom to express their own sexuality for the very first time. I bawled my eyes out when I understood the positive impact I had on their life.

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I want to talk to the people who were curious, inspiring them to completely shift how they think about themselves. When they’re able to let go of who they thought they were supposed to be, they light up. Now they can be curious, and when they are curious, the world opens up. What would that do for the world to unleash that level of self-acceptance? What would that do for you?

I have one more story. It’s about a year ago, I was sitting outside at a coffee shop across from a lady, she was in her – well, I thought she was in her 60s – she was in her 80s, she later told me. And then we started talking about what I did because it always comes out. And then she said — she revealed to me – “You know, about eight years ago, I lost my husband. And it seems like yesterday”.

And then she leaned in close to me, and she said, “You know, we used to have sex every night”. I thought Wow! That is freaking amazing.

And then she leaned in closer, and she said, “You know, some nights that just meant falling asleep while we were holding hands”. Some nights, that just meant falling asleep why we were holding hands.

Well, I had sunglasses on, and I could feel the tears rolling down my cheeks behind the sunglasses. And that was pretty powerful.

Two minutes later, she was off in her cab gone. I sat there for a good long while, digesting and observing how profound that conversation was for me both personally and professionally.

If you are a healthcare provider, please talk to your patients and discuss with your patients and have conversations with your patients, and those who care for, about their sexual health, about intimacy, connection, companionship, touch, pleasure, maybe even masturbation, or at least give them an opportunity to bring it up themselves.

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If you are seeking your own information, be your own advocate. Look for someone who is comfortable with the topic, someone who is willing to listen, someone sex positive, because it’s your own health you are advocating for, and for those after you.

And finally, as I mentioned earlier, sex and all the emotions around sex and intimacy can be perfectly messy, tenderly raw, predictably gut-wrenching and awesomely beautiful. Most importantly, though, have fun, because we need to learn to laugh at ourselves when things don’t go as planned. But really it’s often the case.

So ladies and gentlemen, you know what your homework is tonight.

Thank you.

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