Abria Joseph: Removing Negative Self Talk at TEDxYouth@NIST (Transcript)

So why did you feel like that? My words flowed over to you, you heard them, processed in the processor Pentium whatever it is now, and now you started to feel uncomfortable, maybe — maybe not. And in that I started to control a little bit, manipulate, shift your thought process, because you weren’t here, you were here; is that right? So if that’s true, and this instrument that plays music can be tuned, I started to realize and shift my ideas of how I would go through life and this is my idea. I believe passionately that we can shift the negative voices and stories that are going on in our minds into positive ones.

How do you do that? Well, there’s three main questions. The first question is: Is it the truth? Is whatever I’m sharing with someone or what you’re hearing from someone else that’s giving you feedback about your life true? You know a 100% that it’s true. First question.

Second question: Is it necessary? Is what I’m saying to myself in my head, is it necessary in the exact moment in what I’m doing with my life right then?

And the third question is: Does it improve upon the silence? This instrument is so powerful that it improved upon the silence of the room, you could feel it, you could see it. And then once you see and feel, you started to know.

So here I am and I’m thinking about the first time that I was going through my ideas in creating my lifestyle. I being very similar to the students at NIST was educated and around a lot of very creative people that influenced me in a positive way, which is just north of San Francisco and a city county called Marin, and growing up there, the people that I was around helped shift my mind to believe before I even knew it was possible.

So I was thinking of in creating within the same age range as most of you around 15, 16 when I first started practicing yoga. And at that time I didn’t really know what was going on because I was really focused on sports and yeah, other things, you know what I am talking about.

So what ended up happening was, I started creating this idea of this lifestyle where I could travel around the world, learn as much as I can, teach what I was learning and pass it on.

How was I going to do that? In the last five years as I was traveling, pretty much since 2002, consistently every year I’ve been back to Thailand for the last 14, 15 years. And the reason that I come back is to study, is to practice, is to breathe, is to learn about myself. I mean it’s rare that you have a 21 year old go off into a monastery for 10 days and be silent when other friends are in college playing. So there was something there that kept pulling me back here and in that time I created what’s called Pranaforce yoga. And Pranaforce is our company and the whole idea or our vision mantra is dream it real, live your dreams, make it happen, just do it right now as if it was already happening.

So I had to really shift my mind, and as I shared the story with other friends and family, you know what I was so excited that I thought everyone would also believe in me. But what I found out was, it wasn’t that, some really close friends, some really close family did not see or believe in what I was seeing and believing. So this is what happened. They would say wow, this is a great idea but here’s a laundry list of things why that won’t work. And I thought, wow, oh my gosh, really? Is that true? Is that necessary? Is that improving me help with my dreams?

So what I started to realize is that a lot of people are going to share with you ideas. I have no idea what your experience is within work, education, anything. But let me tell you this: if you share something with me personally, that is not where I wish to be relationship wise, business wise, finance wise, spirit wise, doesn’t matter what it is; I don’t have to believe you. I can agree with you, I can nod my head and say yes you know I totally understand. But I don’t have to believe you, because once I start to believe you that can shift the whole chemistry in my mind.

Because the thing is this: the subconscious mind and the conscious mind doesn’t know the difference between negative or positive energy; it just knows it as energy. So the subconscious mind if we’re saying things to someone, you’ll never be able to do that, that person’s subconscious mind, mine will say, “Wait, I can’t, oh gosh! OK, put that away.”

But the conscious mind, educated, smart, very cerebral, will say, “Wait, no; I’m smarter than that. Wait, I can stop that.” As long as I’m aware, how do we become more aware, we have to question the thoughts and the stories or the voices that we have within our mind. If you do not, it’s fine. You’ll be probably very successful, super happy, maybe even being of service on this planet right now. But if there is something that you’re passionate about, that you love, a dream, live it.

van Gogh, an incredible artist from the Netherlands, Vincent van Gogh said, “If you have voices in your mind that say that you cannot paint, by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” The idea is this: Only we can conceptualize and understand what’s going on in our mind. So only we can really acknowledge it and start to notice if it’s a benefit to us.

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