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Alan Watkins: Why You Feel What You Feel at TEDxOxford (Transcript)

And most importantly you can track where you are, so you can enter some notes. You visit the planet of, I don’t know, popular, you know, I felt popular today, people came up and gave me various messages and I felt popular. And you could enter how popular you felt or you didn’t feel and actually keep an audit trail, and you can socialize this with your mates. You can either share on Facebook or tweet it or Gmail it and see well who else is in the solar system of sociable or even on the planet popular –who else is out there and I can track, it does with these audit trails of where I’ve been. So this is your start point – starting to get a grip of do you even know which planet you’re on and which of the nearest planets and how you can start to move around and start to get some navigational capability within that universe. So that’s the first thing is you’ve got to learn navigational potential, and this is designed to help you build your emotional repertoire. So you’re not just stuck with twelve emotions, or in some people frankly two, I’ll go yacht or OK, the only two motions they’ve got.

So you’ve got to build a repertoire and what you’ll discover, as you start to build a repertoire some emotions are better antidotes than others. So you can start to navigate around the second maneuver once you’ve started to navigate around the universe is really once you get to a more constructive planet, there’s no right and wrong to this — but is this emotion really serving you? When you get to a more constructive planet, can you stay there? And that really requires you to do a separate maneuver, it’s called Mastery where you actually take the emotion which is subject to you — it’s a subjective experience, below the level of your real awareness, you’re sort of subject to it, i.e. it’s got you.

So if you’ve got anger, if anger is going through your system, if you’re on the planet of anger, it’s got you. You haven’t got it, it’s got you. So the way to get control over is to objectify it. On earth is anger, so you take it as a subjective experience and you objectify it. And if you can objectify it you can get a grip of it, and if you can do that with your positive emotions, then you can move yourself over to the positive side of the universe and stay there. So you really don’t have to feel anything you do not want to feel. Misery is optional, you don’t have to feel that. But if you haven’t got control, if you haven’t got control, then who has. And the answer is usually somebody outside of you.

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So I’d really encourage you, if you want to transform your life forever, because ultimately emotions will predict your health, they’ll predict your performance, they’ll predict your wellbeing, they’ll predict your sense of fulfillment, they’ll determine your ability to make effective decisions, emotions drive all of that, your motivation and so on. And if you don’t know anything about them and you haven’t got control over them, it’s a little bit of a lottery as life.

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So if you go away after today and ask yourself one question: What planet am I on and what planet would I like to be able on? And start to work to be on the planet that you want to be on rather than wherever life has pushed you. Imagine a world where all of us could be on the planet we wanted to be on, or navigate around that kind of solar system or the galaxies that we wanted to experience. Imagine a world where when you go to the bar to chat up that attractive person at the bar you didn’t need four pints of Dutch courage before you could go there. Imagine you could just do that yourself.

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Imagine a world where you didn’t need to feel anxious going into an exam or job interview, where you didn’t need to feel terrified coming on stage. Imagine a world where your children on the receiving end of bullying didn’t feel terrified or bullied. If you could control your emotions, you can change your life completely. So I’d really encourage you to start wondering about what planet you’re on and start putting yourself in the universe, in that part of the universe where you really want to live your life.

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Thank you very much.

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