Another one is Eros. It’s a sexual type of love. It gives the feelings of arousal. This is what you feel when you see a beautiful sexy person just walking pass.
And you’re like, oohh… you cannot stop looking at them. You cannot hold yourself together. You begin to fantasize and have all kind of imagination about that person. You are having Eros type of love.
The next one is what Mary J. Blige called Real Love. Y’all know the song real love, oh I’m searching for real love. So I want to make my heart feel real love… and we are still trying to understand what she meant by real love.
You see all these types of love cannot sustain a relationship. They cannot hold a relationship together. But true love which the Bible also describes as Agape Love can hold a relationship together, can keep a relationship for a long haul.
WHAT IS TRUE LOVE?
True love is passionate love. You have two independent words: passion and love fused together to make a strong definition. Passion is the force that drives the love for something. It’s default that keeps love going.
Love without passion is like a body without a soul. It’s like a car without an engine, no movement would happen.
And just in case, you are wondering how you can tell if someone truly loves you, or if you truly love someone? Sacrifice.
Sacrifice for one another will indicate if you truly love each other. And sacrifice is given up something for another thing that is far more important, just like giving up that piece of pie for your girl, that is far more important.
Or it’s the release of something in your possession in an exchange for another thing that you love.
This is exactly what God did when he released and sacrificed his only son Jesus just to have us. For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have everlasting life.
God demonstrated true love, Agape love — love filled with passion and sacrifice.
I had an opportunity to demonstrate my true love. I was in college. I enjoyed galvanizing people for networking and I do this by throwing parties.
And if you know one thing about throwing parties, the more women you have there, the more men want to come in, spend money at the bar, buy drinks, pop bottles.
So my goal every time is to have as many ladies at the party. This, however, opens the door to always have women around me.
I remember after throwing a party three women that do not know each other say they want to spend in the house. They wake up in the morning. One begins to feed me breakfast. The second one gets jealous. She goes into the kitchen, grabs food, comes back, she starts to feed me.
The third one looking like this is crazy, should I join the party or what?
I’m thinking to myself it’s on a dream but no it’s a reality. I’m like you have up in my house with the bunnies.
But that reality was short-lived as I meet a girl that I’m truly in love with. And she’s truly in love with me as well.
But she does not like the lifestyle that I’m living. She does not want to compete with any other woman. This is a deal-breaker for her. And of course, it’s off situation for me, because that means I’m going to have to give up throwing parties and spending time with other women so that I can have and keep her.
So I begin to analyze the situation: what am I going to do, who or what should I pick? Her over them or them over her?
This is my Kairos moment, my moment of decision. This is where true love and sacrifice come into play.
So I made a decision and the sacrifice to give up both throwing parties and spending time with other women, so that I can have and keep this girl that I’m truly in love with.
A few years later, we got married and we have two beautiful amazing children together.
You see true love is the only type of love that can keep and sustain a relationship. It will help you to make the ultimate sacrifice to give up playing games, quit destructive habits, and seek counseling when you can, to acquire tools and knowledge in order for you to have a healthy relationship.
Because of the love problems that people are having is the reason why I wrote my book Revelations of Relationship: What You Don’t Know About Finding True Love and Sustaining Relationship.
I want to admonish you all to find and practice true love in your relationship.
Cheers to your improvement.