So the most important choice is: from which state do we want to live our life, from which state do we want to relate to the people in our life, from which state do we want to achieve and fulfill every vision of our life? Sadly, our education, the entire system of our society, our parents, our religion do not bring sufficient attention to our inner state.
In fact, the very structure of education at school makes us compete, makes us feel jealous of another’s progress, makes us feel ashamed of being less. It is a total compromise on the essence of being human.
Let us get back to our story again. Yesmi represents the beautiful state, and Nomi represents the stressful state.
Nomi has created a problem in his mind and is paralyzed with it. Yesmi solves the problem of a fellow human being and continues with his peaceful walk. Nomi is agitated before the event, during the event, and after the event. And his thinking becomes incredibly stupid and complicated because of his inner agitation.
Yesmi, while in action, is fully present, and once the action is complete, his departure from the situation, too, is total. In a beautiful state, there is no compulsive illumination of the past or anxiety over the future. It is a state where you experience inner simplicity and a brilliance of an uncluttered mind. It is a state where you are connected to the present.
Nomi is lost In a stressful state, you are lost; you are disconnected from the others. You might be amidst people, but yet feel lonely.
Yesmi is different. He is connected to the lady’s plight. He helps her. He understands Nomi’s distress and tries to help him out with a wise remark. In a beautiful state, you are powerful enough to help yourself and help others around you. You are outright intelligent, and your actions are decisive and powerful.
Let us observe Nomi a little longer. Anger and confusion have mounted over his ideas of duty and virtue. In my observation, when a stressful state mounts over your ideas, however lofty they are, whether they are of patriotism, unconditional love, duty, or honesty, we become insensitive and indifferent. We hurt the very cause we served, and we hurt the very people we love.
Yesmi helped, not because he would be barred entry into heaven, definitely not. Nor did he help because he would feel guilty if he hadn’t helped. He helped because he was able to feel the lady’s pain. He was able to feel her suffering. Actions in a beautiful state arise from a place of connection, not from an ideal.
There have been times when you have been Yesmi; there have been times when you have been Nomi. We have lived under stress and disconnection and caused greater confusion in our own lives and lives of people around us. We have lived in a beautiful state of connection and contributed to the well being of ourselves and people around us. War, division, and conflict of every form can only end when more and more of us live in a beautiful state.
So the big question is, how do we break free of our habitual negative bias of our brain toward stressful state? If pressure is going to be a part of life, how do we live life without being bogged down by stress? How do we address numerous challenges of our life living in a beautiful state?
There are three well-trodden paths people usually take. One: We live in stressful states and plummet into hurting inner states. Two: We try to escape stress. We try to achieve a temporary dopamine high. However, when the dopamine plateaus, we are left feeling emotionally dry and empty.
Three: We try replacing inconvenient beliefs, stories, and ideas into more convenient ones. The problem, however, is none of these three paths has the power to get you off the gravitational pull of suffering or long-term stress. And we succumb back into the vortex of habitual stressful emotions.
We need a greater inner power to get us to a beautiful state. And that is the way of inner truth. About eight years ago, we as a family met with an accident while at Big Bear Lake in California. We emerged safely from the accident. But while in the waters, Krishnaji, my husband, co-founder of One World Academy, realized the root cause of all human suffering.
He saw what kept suffering alive for days, months, and years after a stressful event was over in anyone’s life. Past and present circumstances, other people and their behavior can trigger stress in us. But they do not keep us chained in our unhappiness. While in the waters, he saw the true reason for humanity’s suffering. He saw all emotional suffering arising from obsessive self-centric thinking.
It is a total preoccupation with oneself. It is a total incessant preoccupation with oneself. And it is this preoccupation that separates you from the other. It is this preoccupation that is responsible for war, conflict, and division of every kind that we see in the world today. This truth can be inconvenient for us, but if we can observe our emotional suffering in the light of this insight, then this truth can liberate us, this truth can set us free.