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Reprogram Your Mind Through Affirmations: Marisa Peer (Transcript)

Marisa Peer on reprogramming our mind

Marisa Peer is a world renowned speaker, Rapid Transformational Therapy trainer and best-selling author. Following is the full transcript of Marisa’s talk titled “Reprogram Your Mind Through Affirmations” at Mindvalley University, Tallinn 2018. In this talk, she talks about the power of words and how important the language of the mind is to our well-being.


I’ve been a therapist for 33 years and I really do understand language patterns but I also have a great belief that you cannot fix what you don’t understand. You certainly can’t heal what you don’t feel.

So what I’m going to do with you today is I’m going to take you first through the rules of the mind. They’re my rules of the mind. I made them up but I made them up over 33 years and somebody said to me once, “Well, who are you to make this up?”

I went, “Well, someone’s got to do it.”


I think 33 years of working with royalty and Olympic athletes gives me the right to say these are the rules of the mind and if ever you’re stuck with a client, stuck with a child, stuck with an adult that needs some help and you think, “Oh, I want to do,” take them through the rules of the mind because it actually blows their mind.

They go, “And I never knew that. I didn’t understand that.”

And we will come out of the rows of the mind to language patterns.

Now I’ve given you the slides on language patterns that are really for young children, but they also are very effective for adults. So let’s do a quick little language thing right now.

I want you to close your eyes and I want you to go, “I’m going to try to remember these rules of the mind. I’m going to try so hard to memorize it. If only I could memorize that document. I wish I had a better memory. I hope I can remember that when I’m working with my own client. I really hope I can do what she does. I wish I could do it. I hope to do it. I’m going to try to do it. I really want to do it.”

And just focus on how you feel when you use the word wish, which is wishy-washy. I don’t like wish. Wishing says do your mind. You haven’t got a prayer, but you might as well wish. Because wishing just says you’re not going to do that.

No one says, “I wish I could get up in the morning and clean my teeth. I wish I could pick up that pencil and write a note.”

You don’t say wish. You go, “I’m doing it.”

So when you say to the mind, “I wish I could,” it says, “Yeah, me to get over it.”

When you say to the mind, “I hope I get this right.” It goes, “Yeah, well, keep hoping because you aren’t going to do that.”

When you go, “If only am I, because you never managed it before. So keep on with your phonely, why don’t you?”

But when you do it differently, close your eyes again and go, “I will memorize this.” It’s going in. I have a phenomenal memory. My memory is awesome. I read things and they empower me and they stick. I am remembering it all. I do this. I got it.

I have a phenomenal memory. I have incredible powers of recall and assimilation and I remember everything. It has a totally different effect. And so you learn with language.

I never let my clients say wish. I won’t allow them to say the word, “but.” “I could do that but…” No, we never say but.

And we also never say should. My therapist said to me, excuse me, swearing should is shit and never use that word. “I should.” I say I could. I should go to the gym. I could go to the gym, but I know it’s my fault I’m not making the effort.

So with young children, just changing one word would change their life. Let me give an example.

My little girl would go to school and she’d get to the gate and she’d come back and I’d always say, “What have you remembered?” Could have said, “What have you forgotten?”

There’s only two words. What have you remembered? She goes, “I’ve remembered my swimming kit. I remembered my book. I remembered my bag.”

I go, “That’s fantastic. You have such a great memory that when you get to the gate you remember and back you come.”

And very quickly she didn’t have to come back because I never said, “What have you forgotten today?”

Oh, my God, your mind is like a sieve. What’s wrong with you? You get to the gate, and I never do that, and you forget. Why can’t you be like me? I have my little bag by the door. I have everything the night before and I never did… I said, “What have you remembered?” So here’s just one word.

And my clients really taught me the power of words because I’d see the one who’d come to go, “I wish I could do that.”

“Oh, thanks, Marisa, for all this. I could do that but… I know I ought to do that and I should, but…”

And so I started banning words. I said when you come in this office, you are not allowed to go “wish, but, hope.” I work a lot with infertile women and the ones who don’t get pregnant always say that I wish I could get pregnant.

And then when they get it, they say, “I’m so scared of losing it. I’m not going to tell anyone just in case I lose it.”

I’m like, “Well, but what are you saying to your baby? It’s in the womb, the most developed sense is hearing. I’m not even going to tell anyone you’re here because I have no faith you’re going to make it.”

I go, how about sending the scans out to your parents? And showing them this is my baby. It’s staying. My body made it. My body is so super smart. My body’s going to carry this baby to full term.

This is my one chance in the world to be God. I’m making a miracle here and my body is growing that baby physically and I’m growing and nurturing that baby emotionally and every day.

I tell it today, your spine is forming. This week, your mouth and lips are forming and your ears are forming and it sends a message to the brain that goes, “This is working.”

Whereas running to the bathroom every hour to just see if you’re spotting saying, “Oh, I’m really scared of losing it,” sends a message to the mind.

And one of the rules of the mind, and it’s the best rule is that every thought you think and every word you say forms a blueprint and your mind must work to make that blueprint real.

So when you say I can’t remember anything, I’d lose the eyes in the back of my head, if they weren’t fixed in there, because I just can’t remember anything, your mind goes, “That’s a blueprint. Let me take you to it.”

And when you say, “My memory is phenomenal, full-proof. In fact, I’m like human Google.” When I read an exam the minute I read the question, my mind has already gone to work, found the answer and it stays in my head right through until I write it on the paper.

Then I read the next question. The same thing happens as I read the question. Google says, “Here’s the answer.” I work with children all the time with exam stress and they come in.

I had a little boy last year who had… I think there were 17 children applied for every place in his school and he flunked the mocks. And I’m like, “Darling, you’re supposed to flunk the mocks. It’s great to flunk the mocks.”

You know what mocks are, don’t you? So in England when you’re taking an exam, you have a mock exam maybe six weeks before you take the exam just to see how you do. And then they say, “Well, you did terrible. You did really well.” And because you did really well, you’re going to pass that exam.

In case you did terribly, you’re going to fail. In fact, the ones who do well in the mocks get so complacent, they often don’t do so well in the actual exam. The ones who do badly think, wow, I need to up my game. I need to revise more and study more.

So when he came in and said, “My mummy was so upset because I got really bad marks in the mocks.”

I went, “That’s fantastic. What were you worse on?”

And he said the writing.

“What did you do?”

He said, “I didn’t read the instructions correctly and I didn’t use the right words.”

I went, “That’s fantastic.”

In fact, what do I do, his name is Isaac. Along my website,, I will put that video up and you can watch me working with a small child using language, just go to We’ll put that up in a couple of days.

And so I said, “That’s fantastic. So what did you need to do?”

And just by changing his language, “I didn’t use the right words,” and explained to him that he could do it and telling him that his mind was like Google. Then I was asking him some questions about Harry Potter and I said, “How do you know these answers? Have you studied?”

He went, “No, I just really like it.”

I said, “Well, see how clever your mind is.”

So when you’re working with a kid that says, I don’t know, ask them about James Bond. Ask them about something that they like and go, “How do you know this?”

They go, “I don’t know.”

“How’d you know? Wow, you’re so smart.”

Because when they like something they remember and part of school is liking some things. So with this little kid, he got into that school. I knew he’d get in because he came in like that and he left like that. He was like, “I’m going to nail this. I know what to do. My mind is like Google.”

And I will say to all my clients, whether they’re a seven-year-old taking exam or someone taking a medical exam or the Bar, I say, “Whatever you’re reading, your focus narrows down. You say the word narrow down and when you say narrow down, everything fades away. You’re absorbed in that paper. You have phenomenal powers of concentration, comprehension, recall, retention and assimilation.”

And I say words that help me do the next one. Comprehension, comp — retention, retention, recall, assimilation. I say it over and over again because the mind believes what you tell it.

So let’s go through the rules of the mind.


When you say to a child, “I don’t know what’s wrong with you. Your brother was in my class last year and he was so good. Why can’t you learn? Why can’t you sit still? Why are you so disruptive? What is wrong with you?”

You’re making words that form a child’s blueprint. And exactly the same for adults. I’m referring this a lot to children, but for the therapists here, those children come in as your clients. But it’s just the same for adult.

If your boss says to you, can you do this? And you go, “Oh, my God, I’m going to have to race through it and I’m going to have to rush it. I haven’t got enough time to prepare. I know I’m going to get it wrong. I’m going to go on stage, open my mouth and go, ‘oh-oh, uh,’ and look like a complete retard.”

Well, when you say that, it tends to be realized.

And here’s one of my favorite rules of the mind: THE MIND RESPONDS TO WORDS THAT MAKE A PICTURE.

So in America, they were giving these kids pencils called Don’t Do Drugs. And as they sharpen them, the word Don’t disappeared. And they said, “Do Drugs.” Not very smart. Needed to put that the other way round.

What is expected tends to be realized.

When a child is doing something like climbing a tree and the mother goes, “You’re going to fall. You’re going to break your leg. Oh my God, you’re going to break your ankle.” You can make that happen.

And when you say to the child, “Now, I know you’re climbing the tree. Look where you’re putting your hands. Look, where you’re going to place your feet. Focus on what you’re doing.” That will be realized.

So in powerful language, you can never say, “You’re going to fall. You’re going to mess that up. You’re going to ruin everything, that’s just not going to work out.” You have to say the opposite. Okay.

“I’ve only got 10 minutes to prepare my speech. I only need 10 minutes. I’ve only got 10 minutes to get there. That’s exactly how much time I need. And if I’m late, I wasn’t supposed to be there on time.”

I have a belief now when I get to a party late, it’s because I wasn’t meant to get there early. I no longer go, “Oh, my God, I’m so late. This is going to be terrible.”

I was recently going in a cab across town to get a train to work with a football team and we got stuck in traffic. And so I was playing a game with it. “Oh my God, I’m going to miss the train. This is terrible. I’m going to ruin my reputation. The team are going to be so upset,” and I felt really sick.

And then I started to say, “The trains run every 20 minutes. It doesn’t matter. What’s 20 minutes? My material is so great. They have lots of time. After all, they finish practicing at 3:00 and…”

And it was fine.

So all the way there, I was playing a game and I actually got the train on time, but they really wouldn’t have minded, but I could’ve ruined my day, made myself panicky and sweaty, by going, “Oh my God, I haven’t got enough time and now it’s all ruined,” and it’s never ruined. You can come back from anything.

And then I worked with a client who had cancer and had to go into the MRI scanner and every time I saw him he was like, “I can’t do it. I can’t get in that scanner.”

I said, “Well, I feel like I’m in my coffin. I feel like it’s a premonition of my death when I get in the scanner and I think when I’ve got cancer and I’m going to die.”

And he said, “Well, I freak out. I press the button, I have to come out.

And I keep saying, “Look, you’ve got to go –.”

He goes, “I can’t. I can’t even be in there for two seconds,” which is not true. “I can’t do it for even a second.”

He probably was in there for a few minutes.

I said, “Look, the words you say to yourself in that scanner, ‘this is a premonition of my death. I feel like I’m in a coffin. I feel like I’m suffocating and I can’t do it. That’s the blueprint.”

And your mind doesn’t like those words. So how about these words?

How about saying, “I’m in my bed at home and I’m just so chilled and I could lie here for hours. I’m chilled, I’m relaxed, I’m blissed out.”

You must use words that make a picture. You can’t go, oh, I’m okay, really. I’m quite good. I’m not bad. This is okay.

Because when I say the words, okay, not bad, what is the picture? There’s no picture. It’s what I call fluff.

When you say, I’m chilled, I’m blissed out, I’m ecstatic. I’m just lying here and I could do this for hours. It’s just so cool. The mind goes, “You’re right,” and when you go, “I’m in a coffin and I’m suffocating,” your mind goes, “You’re right.”

See, here’s the great thing. You can choose any words you like. You can go, “Well, we’re all going to be negative and this half’s going to be positive.” That’s your choice.

You know what you can’t choose? What you do to yourself when you say, “I’m an idiot, I’m a moron. I’m a retard. I’ve got rocks for brains, everything goes wrong. Who’d ever like me? I’ve got cellulite. I’m a single parent. I’ve got no chance, blah, blah, blah. I didn’t go to college so I couldn’t possibly do what you do.”

I got kicked out of college, by the way. So you can definitely do what I do. And it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I can look at my life and say, being fired, being dumped and being kicked out of college, thank you God for putting that up to me because it changed my life. It was the best thing.

Rejection has been one of the best things that ever happened to me. Being the least favorite kid. If I could have my life again, I’d go back and be the least favorite kid because I thought, “I’m going to show my parents that I’m something.”

And if I was the favorite, I wouldn’t have done that. I would’ve had a totally different life.

So with my client I was saying, you know, these words are really important. So he got in the scanner, he stayed there for hours and he said that when he came out, all the nurses and doctors came in and gave him a standing ovation. He said it was more powerful than his last business deal because he felt so good.

Some years later, I had to go in a scanner. I thought, “Well, I’m just going to play with this.” I love playing with words.

So I lay there and I was going, “I’m so chilled. This is so good.”

How many of us have said, “I would love 20 minutes to myself.” Well, here I am, 20 minutes to myself. I can lie here and do nothing. No one’s going, “Can you proof this copy? Can you answer this email? Can you speak to this client?”

My daughter going, “Mummy, my boiler’s broken in my apartment. Can you come over right now and fix it?” I had 20 minutes to myself and I was going, “I’m so chilled.”

And then I thought, let’s do the opposite. So I started to go, “I’m in a coffin. I got claustrophobia. I feel like I’m trapped,” and all the buzzers went off and I didn’t even know I was moving and then they speak to you, like, “Marisa, you have to lie completely still. Stop moving.”

So I had to go back into, “I’m chilled, I’m ecstatic. I’m blissed out,” and I love doing that. It’s a really good thing to do to yourself.

“I’m late. I ruined everything. I have all the time I need.” You see, you have a choice. Every day you get to choose how to speak to yourself. You know what you don’t get to choose? What you do to your body when you say, “I’m an idiot. I knew I’d mess that up. I knew that relationship wouldn’t work. I’ve been waiting for it to go wrong. In fact, the day we got married, I stuck stickers and all my stuff so that when we got divorced there’d be no confusion. I was already planning the miscarriage. I didn’t buy anything for my baby.”

I mean, who does that? Lots of people, apparently. They’re all my clients and they plan for stuff to go wrong. They say, “I sent my kid to college and I said, don’t worry, you’re probably going to hate it. Here’s a credit card so you can get a return ticket back in a week’s time.”

They plan it and you don’t want to plan it. You want to ban it. So words are really powerful. You can choose to be negative or positive. That’s your choice. But you cannot choose what you do to yourself when you use negative language.

So the first rule of the mind, What You Expect Is Realized. Who thinks that’s true?

So here’s my advice to you. EXPECT AMAZING THINGS, THEN.

If what is expected tends to be realized, expect the best. Expect love and success and an amazing life. Because you know what? It will probably be realized really fast if you expect it.

Imagination is more powerful than knowledge when dealing with your own mind and the mind of others. If I said to any of you, “Come and stand on this chair.” Who would come and stand on this chair? I’ll give you $100 to stand on this chair. Sure.

If I said, well, now the chair is on top of that spire on the highest building in Tallinn, who’s going to climb up and stand there for $100? Who would do that?

Some people would because they’ve got a good imagination. They go, “If I can stand on it there, I can stand…” And most people go, “No, I could fall.”

If I had a little tiny plank up here, you can walk the plank when it’s on the floor. Put the plank between two high rise buildings. Who’s going to walk it? Not many people because the imagination that you could fall and kill yourself is way more powerful than the knowledge that, “I did this on the ground.” It’s wide enough. The fear of flying.

Knowledge says it’s actually the safest place in the world. The most dangerous part of a flight is actually the drive to the airport. That’s way more dangerous than being in the plane. Do you think the imagination cares? We’ll go, “I’m in a flying coffin. I’m hurtling through the air and that guy looks like he’s come straight out of ISIS and he’s in the bath — I think he’s going to blow up the plane.” And then you feel terrible.

The other person is going, “I’m watching a movie. I’ve always wanted to watch The Shape of Water. This is so great. Here’s my time again to do nothing.”

So whatever you imagine will defeat logic, will defeat knowledge and when dealing with children, people do logic. “Why are you so bad? Why can’t you get it? What’s going on? Why are you so naughty?” And that doesn’t work.

I never say to kids, “Why are you bad?” I go, “What happened to you?”

I was working with a little kid recently who always played up before lunch and would get hysterical after every meal, and I’d actually been in an orphanage in Zimbabwe and I’d seen that a lot, that at the end of the meals, the kids start weeping uncontrollably because they don’t know when the next meal is coming and they go, “Look, you’re in an orphanage. It’s fine. We have food. You will be fed three times a day.”

It takes about two years for those children to stop crying as they remove the plates, because the emotion is, “When’s the next meal coming?”

So this little boy was really difficult at school and he’d been to three different schools and one of the teachers contacted me and I said, “When does he do that?”

“He always does it before meals.”

And I said, “You should ask him not why he does it, but what happened to him?”

And then the mother came in and said, “Well, when I adopted him at one, he was born to crack heads. And he used to cry when I left the room.” And when I read his notes, his parents would leave the room for three days and he didn’t get fed very much. And so he’s got this panic about not being fed.

And I said, “Well, you should tell the school that.” And of course you can’t logically say to a child, “Look, you’re going to be fed every four hours.” You have to go, “Look, you have some memories, they’re really sad, but mommy is going to put some nuts in your bag and you’re always going to have something.”

And you can’t do it logically because feeling is more powerful than logic. The feeling you’re going to die on a plane will always wipe out the logic that this is the safest way to travel.

One of my clients said, “Please help me.” She said, “I’ve done the logic. I went to British Airways’ flying course. I walked into the cockpit wearing shorts and I lost control of my bowels in front of everyone. Now I’m even more scared about flying because this was a course to make you better. They were logically showing me all the controls when they said they were taking off. I had a terrible accident. I knew it was bad because the pilot put a mask on and I had to be taken off that plane and now I’m even further back from ever flying.”

Because logic doesn’t work. Emotion does, and so I would talk to her and say, “You know, you have to pretend you’re at the fovea. You have to say when you’re on the plane, “I love it. Oh my God. Flying thrills me. It elates me. It empowers me. It delights me. I love flying.”

You mind goes, “You’re right.”

And when you go, “I’m going to be blown out of the sky to smithereens,” your mind goes, “You’re right,” because here’s another, rule of the mind.

It does not care if what you tell it is right or wrong, good or bad, true or false, healthy or unhealthy. It just lets it in. So let me show you.

Put your hand in front of your mouth. You may have done this before, but let’s do it again.

Put your hand in front of your mouth like you’re about to eat. Close your eyes and imagine you have a big, fat, juicy, gorgeous lemon in your hand. I want you to breathe in that gorgeous, gorgeous lemon smell. I want you to squish that lemon and feel the waxy surface. Open your mouth still with your eyes closed. Shove that lemon in your mouth and eat it. I want you to bite the flesh of that lemon. Suck out the flesh. Suck out the lemon. Start chewing it, eat that whole entire half of a lemon. Keep going. Keep sucking, chewing and swallowing and open your eyes and put your hand up if you made saliva.

So here’s a question for you. Where was the lemon? Where was it? Say that again? Yeah.

I heard people say there wasn’t one. Oh, there was. That definitely was a lemon. It was in your imagination. You know there’s no lemon. You go, “What’s going on here? I know there’s no lemon. Why am I pumping out saliva going like that? What am I doing that for? I know it’s not there,” but your mind believes it.

The mind will believe everything you tell it. Tell it great things. Don’t use wishy washy. I hope, I try, maybe who knows? You know, I had a partner years ago who was very ill and I took him to see a doctor and the doctor got out the notes and went, “I’ll try to make you better. I’ll do the very best.”

I’m like, I said, “This is not the doctor for you.”

He’s like, “Look, this is my illness.”

I’m like, “I know, but I’m a therapist. We have to interfere. It’s our job. It’s our calling. So you cannot go to an oncologist that says “I will try and I hope this works and if it doesn’t, we’ll try something else,” because it’s filling your mind up with nothing. So I’m very lucky.

I mean, the book in London for the best doctors in England. I’m not a doctor, I’m a therapist, but they’ve very nicely put me in there very happy about that because I can speak to all the other doctors.

So I said to some doctors who is the best one? They went, “Roger Kirby” without a second’s hesitation. So I called Kirby and said, “Look, we’re in the same book. I have this friend with cancer.”

He said, “Oh, that’s my area of excellence. Bring him in.”

I brought him in and when he said to him what he had, he went, well, “I happen to be the best oncologist in Europe for your problem and I will fix it. You’ll be fine. You’ll still be here when you’re 75.” Which one do you think he liked?

And he did say, “Well, I’ve already got someone.”

He went, “Who is he?” He went, “Oh, I trained him. He’s not as good as me.”

He went, “Right. I’m going to the teacher, not the student,” because the words, I am the best. I know what to do. You’re in good hands. I will save you. I will cure you. We’re allowed to say that in the UK. I will make you better, very different to, well, I’ll try. We have this new drug. It could work. If it doesn’t, there’s something else. We can only hope. I mean, that puts fear, “we can only hope.” Let’s try. Don’t do that.

This is amazing. This is awesome. This is phenomenal. I use the same words all the time when I’m teaching my students, my RTT graduates. You are elated, you are empowered. You are thrilled. You’re delighted. This is awesome. This is amazing.

When I meet clients who go, “I love the words. Where did you get those words?”

I’m like, “Well, I find the most negative ones and I flip them over. I’m useless, I’m spectacular. I’m terrified, I’m delighted.” And by the way, fear and excitement are exactly the same. You can be on a funfest screaming your head off and going, “Oh, look at that. Are they scared or excited?” I don’t know. Do you? Because it’s the same.

When you’re excited, you scream and when you’re scared, you scream. So whatever you’re doing, say, “I’m excited,” and you’ll feel excited or go, “I’m terrified.” And you’ll feel terrified.

[In the battle] between emotion and logic, emotion always wins. Your mind does what it thinks you want to do. This is probably one of the most powerful rules of the mind.

Here’s your mind’s job. It’s got a very clear job. I’m your mind and I’m going to do what I think you want. And when you say, “Oh, this commute is killing me, my boss makes me want to die. My kids are making me go up the wall. I am stressed out of my mind by the freeway.”

Your mind goes, “Oh, you keep telling me that something is killing you. It appears to be your job or your commute. Why don’t I just give you a lovely ulcer and then you can stay at home and avoid that place that’s killing you?” It’s…that’s its job. Why don’t you do your job and talk to your mind better?

“The commute is a pain, but I have great CDs to listen to. I have stuff to do. My boss is difficult with everyone. It’s not me. He’s not there while I’m having sex with my wife. He is not in the room when we’re having a lovely dinner. This is temporary. He’s an unhappy person.”

Do it better. You will get what you want when you tell your mind what you want but here come the words.

Let’s imagine you’re going to give a speech and the words are, “Oh my God, I’m freaked out. I’m terrified. I’m going to go bright right open my mouth and go, I haven’t got the time. I’m so nervous.”

Your mind goes, “Do not get on that stage. If you walk to that stage, I’m going to give you a massive panic in the middle of the room because you told me you don’t want to do it and I’ve got to do what you want.”

Or you can go, “I am fantastic at speaking. I’ve got something to say. People like me. What I have to say is of value. Speaking to a stage is like speaking to my wife or husband.”

And then your mind goes, “Get on that stage and do it.” You always have a choice, but your mind’s job is to do what it thinks you want. When you go, “I want a week off.” Who’s ever done this? What I would give for a week of lying in bed. Your mind goes, “Leave that with me. Now you got the flu. How cool am I? I listened to you. You wanted a week off laying around watching Netflix. Now you got it.”

That’s not what you wanted.

You need to say, “I need some time and I’m like a battery. I need to recharge and I’m okay at working full-out all week because at weekends, I recharge like a battery.”

Now your mind understands, but saying, “I’d give anything not to have to chair that meeting,” your mind goes , “How about a nice dose of diarrhea? I can bring that for you. You don’t want to chair that meeting? You said I’d do anything not to go.”

“I’d rather kill myself than give that to my boss.”

Your mind goes, “Don’t kill yourself. I’ll just give you a really upset stomach. Now you can’t even leave the bathroom. There’s no chance you’re meeting your boss; done what you wanted.”

I know I’m making it funny, but it is funny that so many people don’t understand your mind’s job is to do what it thinks you want and it bases that on one thing: the words you use and the pictures you put in your head.

And here’s some great news, you can change those words and change those pictures like that. And when you do that, it changes everything.

So your mind tries to move you away from pain and towards pleasure too, varied. I mean, so many kids are going, “I want to ask out this girl. I want to talk to that boy, but I’m so nervous they won’t like me and they’re going to reject me and laugh at me.” And if they keep doing it, then the mind is going to go, “No, don’t go there. Stay the way you are.”

So you have to say, “People like me. I’m a great kid.”

I get all my young kids to write on their mirror. “I’m an awesome kid. I’m enough.” And it really changes them because they start to feel it. “I’m an awesome kid. I can talk to a girl like I can talk to my friend,” and then they feel okay.

But if you keep linking pains, your mind goes, “Don’t go there. Don’t go there.”

And if you link pleasure to it, you go there because you’re giving your mind an easy job. I’ve got to work on my website all weekend and all my friends are in the bar so I can link pain. It’s not fair. It’s not fair that I’ve got to spend all weekend writing when I could be in the pub.

Now, your mind is going to go I think you should tidy up your sock drawer, make sure all your forks face the right way, then plump up the cushions and then go to the pub because it’s very clear you do not want to work on your website, but oh boy, getting those forks and knives in line is really compelling.

Who’s done that? Most of us do that. I suddenly need to do the laundry, which I don’t even know I have. I’m tidying up my house because I’m doing I don’t want to write that bit of work.

How about saying, “It thrills me to work on my website. I’m elated working on my website. There’s nowhere I’d rather be in the whole world right now than sitting in my office working on my website.”

Your mind goes, “I’m going to set you on fire now. You’re going to be doing this till 2:00 in the morning. You told me you love it and it thrills you. Let me fill you up with energy and passion.”

I’m a writer. I know how this works. I never go, “Oh my God, I’ve got to write a book. It’s so lonely. It’s so isolating.”

And what if no one liked it? “What if it goes on Amazon and they go, ‘I hate that book,’ and it gets no stars?”

or I can go, “I love writing. How cool is that? I get to write and people pay for my books and they like them and they give me great reviews,” because there’s a choice going on again.

So whatever you want, you must link massive pleasure to what you want. And you can link pain to what you don’t want. But I don’t bother to do that. Let’s think of all the pain; your book’s never published. You go into your coffin, it’s still in a drawer. You don’t have to do that. Just focus on the pleasure bit.

“I’m a writer, it’s amazing. My book is published.” I used to always imagine my book in stores. I’d imagine going to an airport, see people who were reading my book.

And when I did, it was like, “Wow!” but your mind went, “Well…I took you there because you showed me very clearly what you wanted. I had that image to take you to,” because what you want wants you and what you are moving towards is moving towards you. Don’t move towards fear. Don’t move towards failure. Don’t move towards it going wrong. Move towards it going right.

So we’ve actually done the next bit.


The fastest way to change anything is to change the pictures and words and it’s such an easy thing to do. I’m terrified. I’m elated, I’m useless, I’m amazing. I have no memory. My memory is compelling. I can’t speak to people. What I have to say is easy. I find it easy to speak to anyone.

This is the most vexing rule of the mind for every therapist and coach in the room. It’s the one my clients have the hardest time with.


If your mind could choose, it will stay with what’s familiar and never go to what’s unfamiliar. We’re in a walled city and that’s interesting because years ago, at night they shut the door and we stayed in the wall. We didn’t think, “Do you know I feel like going for a midnight stroll. I think I’ll wander. I’m bored of being in this same old, same old. I want some variety. I think I’ll open the gate, wonder off and find another tribe.” They might’ve killed you or eaten you.

We learned familiar made us safe. Who here notices with their kids, they literally want the same cup, the same bowl, the same cereal? I took my daughter to Finland to see Santa Claus. She watched the little mermaid in Finnish the whole time and she didn’t… That was okay in Finnish because she knew she’d watched it 110 times where I’m like, “Babe, here’s Father Christmas.”

“Mummy, I want to watch The Little Mermaid.” It’s like, well, next time we’ll just stay home and watch a movie, then.

She did actually get into it, but it made her feel good. She used to play this game. She had so many Barbies and Ken would come up in his car and he always picked the same one. He never picked another one to go to the ball because they like familiar. It makes them safe.

You know how many kids you have. They want the same story every night. But familiar also makes us safe.

So here’s a rule of the mind and it’s a very important rule to put into practice.

My mind likes what is familiar and it doesn’t like what’s unfamiliar. Okay?

But I can make anything negative unfamiliar, and anything positive familiar. Let’s start with praise. It’s the most simple, but the most powerful.

I’ve met clients who were never praised. I met one girl whose dad said, “You’re so rubbish just like your mother. God knows what you’ve got going. If any man asked you out, snap them up because you are nothing. You’re not interesting. You’re not attractive. When you get pregnant, you’ll blow up just like her and be a big fat mess. So if anyone wants to be with you, I can’t imagine why. Take them.”

And she heard that a lot. So she had this interesting read, “I’ve got nothing to offer the world.” And I did a lot of work with her and she went out, she was just amazing. It was like magic. “This guy came up and he asked me out and he was so nice. We actually made another date and he picked me up in his car and took me out for dinner. Told me I was amazing. I’m never seeing him again.”

I’m like, “Really?”

She went, “No, he was too good for me.”

I’m like, “Oh, let’s change that wording to his behavior was so unfamiliar, I don’t recognize praise or nice as somebody believing I’m worth something and I want to run back to the familiar guys I have to beg to take me out or seeing my friends. I pay the bill and they remind me of my dad,” and I’m like, “Well, guess what? You’re not supposed to have sex with your dad. So there’s a clue. If someone is like your dad, I don’t think you should be getting into bed with them. And I think you need to make that…”

People like it when you make them laugh. So she went, “Right.” So I said, “You need to go out with this guy and this is what you do. You keep saying, ‘I will make this familiar. He rings me when he says he will and make it familiar. He texts me, I’ll make it familiar. I will make it familiar.'”

And she ended up marrying him. She’s very happy.

How weird the other guy called me and said, “What happened to me?”

She went, “What? The guy who never called me? You never called me. So I just let you go.” So you have to say. Let’s do it with all of you.

How many of you find praise a little unfamiliar? How many of you find praising yourself even more unfamiliar? Okay.

So if you were never praised and you’re criticized a lot and criticism is familiar when someone goes, “Wow, I love that T-shirt,” you go, “I got it free. It’s got a hole in it. I’ve had eight years.

I loved your speech.” “Didn’t you notice I missed out the best bit?”

“No, I thought it was amazing. I hear you’re the best salesperson in your team.”

“Yeah, but not in my county. There’s another guy way better than me.”

If praise isn’t familiar, you will reject praise, but you’ll add in some of your criticism.

So one of the best things you can do that will change your life is to make praising yourself familiar and to make criticism unfamiliar. Don’t do that. I’m going to go look at my hair. Oh, there’s a stain on this jacket. I’m an idiot. Oh, I didn’t buy any nice food. Now I’m going to have to eat donuts. I’m such a moron. I didn’t charge my phone. I’m a retard. I haven’t got enough time to get there. I’m a loser.”

If someone said over your work and was, “It’s not very good. Look at that, you haven’t even spelled it correctly.”

Then all the way home they went, “You haven’t left enough time. You’re an idiot. You haven’t got any nice food. Moron.” How quickly would you kick them out of your life? Pretty fast.

But when it’s you, you can’t kick yourself out over it. And when a friend is mean, you go, “They’re having a bad day.” But when you’re mean, your mind goes, “Well, it must be true. Everything you tell me is true.”

So you need to make praise familiar. It’s really easy. I’m amazing. I’m kind. I’m nice. I’m real. I’m authentic. I’m a good person. I have something to offer the world. I have a unique skill. That’s easy.

Don’t go, I’m an idiot. I’m a moron. I was telling my little girl off one day, she goes, “Mummy, you’re a silly billy.”

And I thought, “Well, that’s a great word.”

So next time I’m about to say, you idiot, I go you silly billy, because it’s just a word.

If I said to my husband, “Oh, you silly boy,” he doesn’t go, “How could you offend me like that?”

Because it’s a word. It’s how I say it. “You’re so naughty.”

He doesn’t go. “I know. I’m trying to do some therapy. I’m so bad.”

I go, “That’s your, so bad.”

So you can make words. So I want you to think of the worst words you have for yourself. It’s always the same stupid bitch, airhead, idiot, loser. And I want you to change it to silly billy, because when you say silly billy, because you can’t help it. I was changing a light once and my hand was wet and I nearly electrified. And I was going to go, “You stupid effing…,” and I went, “You silly billy. Don’t do that again.”

Because why beat yourself up? There’s enough people in the world who’d like to beat you up. Why do you want to be one of them? Be nice. Show the world that you’re worth it.

So up praise massively and minimize criticism. If you wanted to change your life today, this will change your life. Praise yourself a lot and don’t criticize yourself.

And if you do go, “Yeah, but I did something really bad.” Go, “Well, I learned. I learned from that mistake. I’ll never do it again.”

If it taught you something, it’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up. You’re allowed to make a mistake. You are not allowed to beat yourself up, berate yourself and call yourself names and punish your body for doing what everyone does. They make mistakes.

So to make a mistake is human, and to forgive yourself is really divine and to call yourself a silly billy feels even more divine. So that’s something I recommend you all do.


How many of you sat having an injection going, oh my God, that needle’s going in and it really hurts. You notice that babies don’t do that because they don’t know.

So whenever I have to have blood taken, I get my phone out and I get completely and I go ahead and I don’t really notice it. But if I look at it, it’s not the same. If you focus on pain, it hurts. If you focus on stress, you’re more stressed.

In fact, I had a client come up to work on stage with me and she was like this. She was shaking so much and all my class are going — my husband is like, “Wow, I’ve seen you get people out with that. But I’ve never seen them start with it.”

And she was just shaking so much. I’m like, “Okay, I want you to shake more. I want you to really shake. Come on, Gwenn, you can do better than that. Shake. Keep shaking, shaking, shaking.”

I said, you know, have you ever seen a deer pursued by a lion? And when it gets away, it doesn’t go, “I need therapy now, this is so traumatic.” It shakes. It stands and shakes and it goes back to the herd and life goes on.

And when I made her shake, what was happening is she began to think, “Oh, I’m in control of the shaking. I’m doing it, then I can stop it.”

And so when clients go, “My knees are knocking,” I go, “Knock them together louder. I want to hear it.”

“My hands are clammy.”

“Can you make them even more clammy? Can you turn up that sweating so you’re dripping?”


“Go on, then.”

And then I say, “And you see that you’re doing it. What you focus on, you get more of.”

When they focus on it, “Oh, I did that and I can turn it down?” It feels better.

So don’t be scared of clients that shake or sweat or start to laugh as though…When they laugh, I go, “I want you to laugh even more. I want you to almost wet yourself with laughing.” Actually, I don’t say that too often because that does put a good picture in the mind.

When people laugh, I say, laugh more, cry more, I laugh with them. Sometimes as I cry with them. Whatever you focus on, you get more of. If you ski and you focus, you’ll go. If you’re on the freeway and you focus on an exit hard enough, you’ll take it without even planning to.

So whatever you focus on, you get more. Focus on great things and you’ll get more of them. The strongest force in every human being in the world is that we must act in a way that utterly matches and is completely consistent with our thinking.

“I know I’m going to fail. I know I’m going to mess it up. I know it’s going to hurt. I know it will go wrong.” Now you have zero choice but to act in a way that is consistent with your thinking.

“I know it’s going to be great. I know I’m going to sail through it. I can ace this. This is easy.” Change the words. It changes your whole language, but everything starts with a thought. Everything, everything, everything begins with a thought and here’s the great news:


It’s actually incredibly easy when you learn that everything starts with a thought. A thought is a word, and if you use words — elated, empowered, ecstatic, blissed out, amazing, phenomenal, incredible, I’m stellar, I’m just amazing — and you can repeat the same words over and over again.

I feel ecstatic. I’m elated when I work with people who say, “I can’t stand up to my boss. I can’t tell my mom that she’s actually the biggest bitch in the whole world who ruined my life.”

I go, “Well, how about thinking if you say that it makes you feel elated, it makes you empowered. It’s sets it free,” because outrage is just rage that needs to come out.

I said, well, listen, your anger is like gas. Better out than in. She’s not in the room. Let’s do it now. I want you to say to your mom, “Mom, you know I want to love you more and I can’t because I resent deeply.”

And suddenly they go, “You absolute bitch. You biggest bitch in the world. How could you do that?”

And then they’re like, “I feel so good now because it’s out and now I can go home and I can love my mom better because I’ve let the resentment out.”

So I never tell people to keep it in. I think feelings do the most damage when they’re kept in, when they’re repressed and pushed down. And most of my clients who binge and drink too much are pushing down feelings. The stomach is the seat of all emotions. You can’t heal what you can’t feel, but you should let feelings out. And if you keep it in, you always suffer. You always feel repressed.

Many clients I see who say they are depressed are not depressed. They are repressed and they are suppressed because they can’t say, “I resent you for always saying my brother was smarter. I resent you for marrying six different guys who were hideous to me and never putting me first.” And then they make their peace and then they move on.

You have to be aware of it, you have to accept it, and you have to articulate it. I call it TRIPLE A. Be aware of your feelings. “My ex-husband drives me crazy and I’m so angry with him and I can’t tell him because he’s the father of my kid.” I get that. Shut the bathroom, turn on the taps and say, “You are the biggest ass in the world. Thank God I’ve got a great ass because I realize I don’t need another one in my life.” And make it funny. “God gave me a great ass. I don’t need to marry one. I’m done with you.” But say it and then you feel better and make it amusing.

So you don’t think, “Oh, I feel terrible.” “She said I can say I’ve got a great ass. I don’t need to date one and now I feel good.” I remember that. They remember stuff that’s funny and significant.

So remember, YOUR THOUGHTS FORM THE BLUEPRINT. What you present to your mind it will present back to you. When you go, “I’m not enough.” It goes, “Of course.”

And when you go, “I am enough.” It goes, “Of course.”

So we’ve already covered this rule that your mind doesn’t care. We’ve covered every thought you think.

Here’s a great rule when dealing with the subconscious mind. THE GREATER THE CONSCIOUS EFFORT, THE LESS THE SUBCONSCIOUS ONES.

Who’s tried to relax? Who’s tried to sleep? Who’s tried to remember the name of that restaurant? I don’t know. And suddenly they go, “Oh, my God, it’s just popped in my head.” Your mind actually is like Google. If you need to remember, don’t go, “Where’s my keys? Where’s my keys and my passport? Oh, my God, I’m going to miss the plane. I’m going to get fired. It’s all a disaster.” Don’t do that.

Say to your mind, “Tell me where I put my keys. Remind me where my keys are,” and do something else and it will pop in. “Oh, of course. I came in and I put them next to the fridge. Tell me the name of that restaurant I went to.”

Do something else. Your mind will do its job. You give it an instruction, “Mind, go ahead and tell me where my keys are, where my wallet is,” and it will tell you. It will pop it in your head.

But when you try and start, you know the thing where you have to check the drawer and then you go and empty it out again and now you’ve emptied it out three times looking for your passport. You know it’s not there.

But for a fourth time, let’s tip our hand bag on the floor, pull out the drawer. “I’m missing the flight. Oh my God, everyone’s going to hate me. My kids are going to be furious.” Don’t do that.


When you’re stressed, your mind goes, “There must be a lion somewhere. Let me pull all the blood away from your brain into your heart and lungs so you can run.”

I saw this in action years ago. I was walking home and this guy was following me. I lived in a basement and I got halfway down the stairs and I knew that he was going to come down the stairs, too. I got my key in the door and I couldn’t work out. I thought, “I’ve lived here for five years. I don’t know how to open the door.” So I was so scared.

But I had the foresight to pull the key out and I had to stand back in the shadows, flatten myself against the wall, and he came halfway down and he couldn’t see me and he left, but I wasn’t going to keep trying to open that door because when you’re scared, your mind just disappears. You can’t even remember your own phone number.

So you have to fill up your mouth with saliva and pump it around. Push your shoulders down and then you’re not stressed. But it’s very important when you want to remember something, don’t try. Ask your mind to remind you.

And if you’re in an exam and thinking, “Oh my God, my mind’s gone blank.” Fill up your mouth with saliva, swirl it around. Push your shoulders down and your mind goes, “A wet mouth. It’s a sign of someone who’s relaxed.” That’s why we kiss, by the way, before we have sex. A wet mouth makes you relaxed.

And so don’t do that. “I can’t remember. I don’t know where I’m going. I’m lost on the freeway. Oh, my God, which road shall I take? I’m just panicking.” Fill up your mouth with saliva and say, “Subconscious mind, remind me. I looked at the map. Which road is it?” It will tell you because it’s foolproof, but you’ve got to do it, too. Your mind works for you. Put it to work.

I mean, if you had a PA and went, “Okay, I’m going out now. Just do the job,” or, hey, I’m going out to Tallinn, could you decorate my house?”  Do you think you’re going to come back and they’ve done it, right? No, you’ve got to go. “This is exactly what I want.”

The more specific you are with your decorator, PA, or hairdresser, the more you get what you want. You don’t go to a restaurant, go, “Okay, get me something to eat.”

“I didn’t want that.”

“Well, you said anything would do.”

You got to talk to your mind that way, too.

So I think we pretty much got that the mind can’t hold conflicting beliefs.

So let’s go on to HYPNOTIC LANGUAGE PATTERNS. We have just enough time.

Children can only work in the present tense. They don’t understand tomorrow. My little girl used to go, “Mummy, is it tomorrow today?” She didn’t know what yesterday, today and tomorrow was. Is it tomorrow now? Is it tonight today?

Because they don’t understand. They only understand now. That’s why with a baby, when you leave the room, they think you’re never coming back. And so children aren’t really great at future pacing. Children can only respond to words that make pictures. The more vivid the picture, the more powerful they respond.

So don’t say, “You’re a good kid.” Say, “You are an amazing kid. What I love about you is you’ve got a natural gift for science.”

Or, “What I love about you is you’re so good at cooking. What I love about you is how much you love learning. It doesn’t matter if you don’t get great grades, you love learning.”

The more you can make the picture good. See, I have so many kids who are twins. Who go, “I was called Twins.”

“Twins, lunch is ready. Twins, get in the car,” and they had no identity. Don’t do that. Don’t dress your kids the same. Don’t say, “I love you because you’re smart.”

Because when you label a child, you limit them. Even a good label. “I love you because you’re beautiful.” Kids say, “And if I wasn’t, you wouldn’t.” Don’t do that.

I love you because you’re lovable and when you grow up, people are going to love you. One of my clients said, “I can’t find love. My dad used to say to me every day, ‘No one’s ever going to love you like I do.'”

Well, there’s a program. You say to your kid, “You’re so lovable. You’re going to find so many people who love you like I love you.”

So a child’s mind doesn’t recognize neutral words. How many people say to a baby don’t touch and then they touch because don’t is a neutral touch. They know what touch is. Don’t touch. Don’t… you keep touching it. Stop touching it. They can only hear the words “touching it.”

You could say that it’s very fragile and it’s very important to mummy. As I said to my little girl, when you’re walking across the house with a drink. I don’t, “Don’t spill it. Oh, look, you’ve spilled it. Now, I knew it. You always spill it.”

I go, “Darling, you got to look at… when you look at the cup and not the television, and if you look at the cup, you’ll keep it upright. And then everything will stay in the cup.”

They understand stuff that makes a picture. Don’t spill your juice. I guarantee they’re going to spill it and you’re going to go, “You just can’t stop spilling it. You’re just a messy kid.”

Unfortunately, they go, “I’m so messy. I’m always spilling stuff. What’s wrong with me?” You are conditioned. That’s what’s wrong with you. But you can be unconditioned like that.

So a child’s mind responds better to specific words and instructions. So they don’t understand later. They do respond to positive words. You must, with children, eliminate every negative word. “You’re bad, you’re naughty.” Good kids do bad things. Smart people do silly things.

Say to a child, “You’re a great kid. Why did you do that? That’s not you. You’re a good kid.”

And they go, well, “You said you liked her more than me.”

“No, I didn’t.”

“Well, I heard that.”

And so if you start with, you can’t do it all the time. Our kids push our buttons. I used to say, “You know you’re my teacher, darling? You’re teaching me how to cope with someone who gets paint all over the carpet.” My daughter’s an artist, untidy. She’s messy. I wasn’t designed to give birth to myself. How boring would that have been? She’s nothing like me. I’m nothing like her. We learn from each other. It didn’t make our life perfect, but it made it easier.

So children also respond to “you are, you can, you always.” You do, you all know the story about the class that were given to a teacher and the teacher told these kids they’re geniuses. We predicted the best. And you are the genius teacher who’ve done these secret tests. Genius kid, genius teacher. We know you’ll get genius results, which of course they did.

And they went, “Well, we picked you at random and we picked the kids at random.” But if you believe something, it becomes true. So let’s go on to the very last one.


So when they’re feeling sadness, it feels like it’s going to be for the rest of their life. And they do this thing called tagging. “I can’t make my mummy happy and it’s always going to be this way. I don’t have a dad. I don’t have anyone to love me. It will never ever change. We don’t have enough money. It’s going to be like this for the rest of my life.”

And so when you’re working with children, I say to them something which I love. I say, “Look darling, this is your life today. It’s not your life. I know your dad’s an alcoholic. I know your dad’s in jail. I know your mom’s working all the time and you live with babysitters and I know that is your life today, but it’s not your life. One day you’ll have a totally different life.”

They’re not good at future pacing, but that one expression, “it’s your life today.” You have no friends. I mean, I worked with a little girl who had no friends and was so bullied and now this girl has got so many friends because I would always say, “Remember, it’s just your life today and probably tomorrow, next week…”

And I taught her not to want friends because when you have a little thing on your head that says, please like me. Kids don’t like that. They like, “I like me. If you want to like me too, good. If you don’t, your loss.”

And I taught her to do that, change her energy. She was inundated with friends. But they really respond to that word. And because children can’t future pace, that’s like when you’re below two and the mother goes out, kids think she’s not coming back. When you say, “Oh, my child is so greedy, I want it to wait to eat.” They feel like they’re never going to get fed again because they cannot future pace.

And so when you’re a therapist or a coach, you run into people who say, you know, “I wolf down donuts. I mainline jelly beans. What’s wrong with me?”

Somewhere somehow their parents have made them wait and wait or remove food as a punishment. “You don’t have that because you’re bad or we can’t afford that.” And because the child’s mind thinks it’s forever, they act as if it’s forever, even 40 years later.

So the job of the child’s mind is just the same as the adult mind. It does what it thinks the child wanted. “I don’t want to go to school. I’m scared of school. And now I’ve got all these anxiety attacks and hives and eczema.” I worked with a little kid who had eczema.

And I said, “Darling, I know this is a crazy question, but if the eczema had a job, what would it be?”

And he said, “Well, when I stand like that and mommy puts the wet bandages on my eczema,” he called it his sensible skin, couldn’t say sensitive. He said, “When she puts the bandage on my sensible skin, she doesn’t put any cream on that baby.” And there it was. He told his mind as the mother did that… “I want that. I want massage.”

I worked with another kid who had migraines at six. Very unusual. As if the migraine was your friend. I know that’s crazy, isn’t it? But we wanted to help you.

Well, “When I get migraines, mummy and daddy stop shouting. They turn off the light and we sit in the dark until it goes away.”

So he’d obviously said to his mind, “I wish I could stop my parents fighting.” And the mind goes, “Let me come up with a solution.” It may be crazy. It may be harmful. But the mind doesn’t do– “Just let me have a solution.”

It doesn’t think is it good, bad, helpful, unhelpful, beneficial. It’s just a solution.

So children tag on to these painful issues of painful experiences and you can change it by getting rid of the tagging. “It’ll always be this way. It will never change. It will be like this for the rest of my life.”

You can help them incredibly, and I’m talking about…but adults come into my office and go, “Look, I know I’m a millionaire but I can’t spend money. I’m a so worried it’s going to run out.”

Because when they were a kid, they couldn’t spend money. They didn’t have it. So people hold on to this stuff. So I think we’re just about out of time.

But since we’re talking about it, I’m going to tell you a very funny thing that happened to me.

So I work with a lot of children and there’s nothing better. One little kid said to me, “Marisa, you are the magic person and you stop me wetting the bed because you did a magic.”

But all I did was tell her that when her tummy was full of weewee, can’t say bladder, that this magic Barbie light went up to her brain and she woke up and she sat up and she ran to the bathroom. And then the next day she called her grandmother and said, “Grandmother, I’m dry,” and then she went to sleepovers. I excited her imagination. I did it several times in 20 minutes. That kid never wet the bed again and she said, “You did a magic with me.”

Then I worked with another kid who said, “Marisa, you’re so cool. You do magic.”

And then I worked with a big hulk again. He went, “You’re the bollocks.” And I thought isn’t that interesting, the words for men’s genitals are a massive compliment for women. It’s a massive insult. So there’s your language patterns.

Being the bollocks is a huge compliment and being the female equivalent is a huge insult.

So you have to make of words what you want to make of words. But if you use powerful words, you’ll have a powerful life. If you understand the rules of the mind and put them into practice, you will be running the ship.

Your mind is like a Ferrari and you’re like a driver trying to run that Ferrari. The subconscious is the Ferrari, the conscious is the driver. I don’t even know how to run this, but if you learn, you can handle a Ferrari.

Think of your mind like a Ferrari and think of you like a hugely competent, highly skilled Ferrari driver. Take that Ferrari where you want it to go. Make your life incredible.

Go to and we will put this up for you and we have lots of products that we give away completely free, self-esteem, your relationship with money. We like giving stuff away because it’s really easy to change your life. It’s really easy to change your mind if you know how.

And now you all know how and you can never again say, “I haven’t got a clue what I’m doing. I don’t know why I feel like this. I guess I’m just messed up.”

You go, “Nope. Here’s the rules of the mind. I know.”

So thank you for listening. Put it into practice.

Thank you.

For Further Reading:

How To Teach Your Mind That Everything Is Available To You: Marisa Peer (Transcript)

To Reach Beyond Your Limits by Training Your Mind by Marisa Peer (Transcript)

How to Avoid Rejection and Get Connection by Marisa Peer (Transcript)

Kristin Rivas: The Life-Changing Power of Words at TEDxRainier (Transcript)

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