Here is the full transcript and summary of Tameka Montgomery’s talk titled “5 Parenting Tips for Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant Kids” at TED conference.
In this talk, business owner Tameka Montgomery discusses five strategies that parents can use to raise entrepreneurial kids who are self-reliant and resilient. She believes that curating a perfect life for children often leads to a lack of confidence in taking risks, while an entrepreneurial mindset can enable individuals to take control of their lives and do amazing things.
Listen to the audio version here:
How do we raise self-reliant kids who have initiative, who are resilient, and who could be problem-solvers? Kids who have the skills and the courage to step outside of their comfort zone and take advantage of what life has to offer.
I’m a mom to these three boys, and if you’re a parent like me, you’ve probably asked yourself those very same questions. And while I’m sure that every caring parent wants those same things for their children, I think we’re going about it the wrong way.
We want our kids to be happy and successful, so our instinct is to shield them from hurt and disappointment. We worry about their self-esteem, so we praise them for everything. We are concerned about whether or not they fit in, so we indulge them. And we don’t want them to fail, so we step in and take over.
And we do all of this in an attempt to curate a perfect life for them. But what we’re really doing is raising kids who are afraid to take risks because they fear failure, kids who lack the confidence in their ability to figure things out, and then young people who are afraid to launch into adulthood. More young adults are living at home and for longer stretches, and this was occurring even before the pandemic.
A Pew Research study found that 52% of young adults are living at home, which is the highest percentage since the Great Depression. And what we’re finding is that young adults are stuck between adolescence and adulthood, and that’s the generation of people that we’re raising. And in fact, we hear this in the language that young adults even use when they have to make responsible adult decisions. There’s a term for it. Who knows what that is? “Adulting,” yes, the practice of behaving in a characteristic of a responsible adult.