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Why We Should Teach Our Children To Think Long-Term: Mara Luther (Transcript)

Here is the full transcript and summary of Mara Luther’s talk titled “Why We Should Teach Our Children To Think Long-Term” at TEDxHieronymusPark conference.

In this TEDx talk, Mara Luther emphasizes the importance of teaching children to think long-term rather than focusing solely on short-term solutions. By doing so, we can create a-supportive and respectful mother-child relationship that promotes decision-making abilities and the ability to navigate through dangerous situations. 

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TRANSCRIPT:

There’s a phrase that never fails to focus me. And that phrase is Mom, I think something in the bathroom is on fire. I’m immediately arrested from whatever I was doing before and all of a sudden, all of my focus is on one thing. I want you to remember that phrase Mom, I think something in the bathroom is on fire.

Because we’re going to come back to that in a little bit. In order to talk about having farsight in a short-term world I thought we should probably define a couple things. So short-term thinking or short-termism is focusing on projects or investments that have an immediate objective often at the expense of long-term interests. So short-term thinking would lead to shoving toys under the bed instead of actually putting them where they belong.

Apologies to my nine-year-old for using her as an example on this one. Shoving toys under the bed might clear the space between the bed and the door and make it safer to walk. But when she needs a toy she’s just going to have to pull them all back out again and by then something might be broken.

Short-termism also led to my use of duct tape on the exterior of my groovy 74 Prowler camper. I was able to sleep dry while camping for a season but as the tape peeled away it became apparent that by avoiding the necessary maintenance I’d let another year’s moisture get into the wall.

I use myself as an example to illustrate possibly where my daughter gets some of her short-term thinking. Short-term thinking also we see daily on a larger scale. It might lead to a politician behaving in a way with the focus of just being re-elected instead of actually making helpful policy in their career. So short-term can be on the small scale but we also see it on a larger societal trend scale too.

And I’m not even saying that all short-term solutions are bad. Sometimes we need that quick fix. There’s sandbags around your home would protect you from the flood. But I think the problem comes when we forget that short-term solutions are meant to be temporary. We sort of practice short-term solutions instead of practicing thoughtful long-term plans.

We don’t really stretch those long-term muscles very often. So that’s where I come to farsight which is just what I consider sort of extended forethought. I know it’s early in the day so I’m only going to define two things today.

But extended forethought. So forethought would be having an evacuation plan in place before an emergency occurs. Farsight might be designing a building to be safer from emergencies in the first place but farsight doesn’t stop there.

Once we start thinking of solutions farsight might lead us to using sustainable materials that the building lasts longer than maybe a cheaper material would last. Farsight might lead us to tackling societal and ecological imbalances that lead to the emergencies in the first place. It really builds on itself.

So if short-termism is my duct tape, farsight would be some kind of camper siding made of one-use plastic manufactured locally in a safe environment, giving people a living wage and also it’s biodegradable. And so when you put it into the earth it encourages nutrients to return to the soil. You see how it really grows on itself whereas short-term thinking stops after one solution.

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Alright, so back to that focus arresting phrase. Mom, I think something in the bathroom is on fire. Now my nine-year-old has a prefrontal cortex that’s still under development. That little spot in her brain that helps her predict outcomes is still growing. And I am a big fan of the scientific method in most cases, but it means that she’s in constant experimentation for every single curiosity that she has. And that can be inconvenient in a roommate and also dangerous.

So when she wonders something like is this bench wobbly? I’ll just sit on it and rock back and forth to find out. How does the wall heater in the bathroom work? I’ll just shove bits of toilet paper in the vents to see how hot the little coils actually get.

Now to help protect her from innumerable ways she could hurt herself or burn down the house, I could reinstall all the baby locks, cover all the corners of the tables with little bumper pads or better yet retrofit my camper into a windowless doorless tower to just keep her in until that prefrontal cortex is nice and mature. But overprotection in this case would be a type of short-termism. It’s not actually reflective of the kind of parent that I want to be.

The truth is she will make mistakes and find herself in dangerous situations her entire life. So I want to teach her how to behave after mistakes are made and how to maybe see dangerous situations coming before she’s stuck in the middle of them. I also want my relationship with her to be built on respect and support so that maybe when she’s in high school and she makes a mistake she knows she can call me.

Here’s a good example of a vulnerable moment. Thanks, Brene. Maybe even after having this kind of relationship with her, the foresight might be that when she moves out into the world she treats people with respect and gives them a little bit of grace when they make mistakes.

If she chooses to be a parent she might take that kind of parenting into her own philosophy and build and enrich on that.