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Why Broken Hearts Hurt: Yoram Yovell (Transcript)

Here is the full transcript of Yoram Yovell’s talk titled “Why Broken Hearts Hurt” at TEDxBeitBerlCollege conference.

In this TEDx talk, Yoram Yovell, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist, shares his personal journey and professional insights into the nature and purpose of mental pain. He explains how emotional suffering, deeply rooted in our brains, is crucial for forming and maintaining human connections, and likens it to physical pain in its intensity and impact.

Yovell discusses his research on endorphins and mu-opioid receptors, and how they can potentially treat mental pain. He also describes his team’s efforts in finding safer alternatives to narcotics for pain relief, highlighting a promising direction in treating both physical and mental pain with minimal side effects.

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TRANSCRIPT:

Hi, I’m Yoram Yovell, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. And when I was 14 years old, my father died. I was sitting in class when my mother and my grandfather knocked on the door and asked me out to the corridor. “Your father’s very sick,” my mother said.

“Your father’s dead.” And then I felt it, a crushing pain in my chest. I can still feel a glimpse of it whenever I think of my father. He was a doctor, a scientist, a paratrooper. He was a young, strong, happy, healthy man. He was my hero. And his death broke my heart.

Understanding Emotional Pain

Do you remember the pain you felt when someone broke your heart, when your best friend or your mother died, or the man you loved told you that he doesn’t love you anymore? You probably do. But why do we feel mental pain at all? And what’s the relationship between physical and mental pain? And most importantly, how can we make mental pain better?

Together with many scientists and physicians, I spent years searching for answers to these questions. Now, growing up, I never heard the words, “We want you to be a doctor and a brain scientist like your father.” But somehow, that’s what happened. Twelve years after my father died, I was a graduate student at Dr. Eric Kandel’s lab at Columbia University.

Scientific Journey and Discoveries

Eric, who won the Nobel Prize for his work on the molecular basis of memory, was the ultimate mentor, passionate, energetic, and inspiring. Under his guidance, I studied a receptor, it’s a protein that’s part of a synapse. And synapses are structures through which nerve cells communicate with each other. Now, that receptor was a GPCR, that’s a G-protein coupled receptor.

I’ll explain what this means in a minute, and then you’ll understand what this stack of markers is doing here. And when I did that, I didn’t really realize that work on that receptor, which seemed completely unrelated to my future work as a clinical psychiatrist, would one day help us in our search for better treatments for physical and mental pain. Now, a big step along that way was the work of Jaak Panksepp my other great scientific mentor.

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The Essence of Mental Pain

In a classical experiment, Panksepp separated puppies from their mothers for 15 minutes. Never more than that, because he loved animals. When puppies lose their mothers, they make a sound, which is called the separation distress cry. And it goes like this. “Puppies do it, kittens do it, babies do it, all young mammals do it when they’re in pain or when they miss their mothers.”

And we all know how this cry makes us feel inside. Panksepp and his colleagues then traced the brain circuits that produce these cries in guinea pigs, and they made a startling discovery. These are the very same circuits that are active when humans feel sad and when they experience depression. And these circuits are also part of the brain’s pain matrix that mediates our sensations of physical and mental pain.

Purpose of Mental Pain

But why are we born with this terrible gift hardwired into our brains? Well, probably because, like any pain, mental pain is an alarm system. Its task is to prevent damage. When babies lose their mothers, they hurt and they cry, which brings their mothers back and it also makes them seek their mothers. In the wild, this is life-saving.

Puppies and babies cannot survive without their mothers. So now we know why we have mental pain. It is the glue that keeps us together in couples, in families, in communities. And when someone we love goes away or is taken away from us, it’s this pain which draws us back together.

The Nature of Love and Pain

And once we realize this, then we can answer an age-old question that poets and philosophers have been asking for thousands of years. Does love always hurt? What do you think? Does love always hurt? Yes, love always hurts, of course, because that’s what it’s supposed to do. Mental pain is simply the high price, the very high price that we pay for our ability to love.

And personally, and you know I’ve been around the block a couple of times, personally, I think it’s worth it. But we’re not entirely defenseless against pain. Because our brains produce endorphins, or endogenous opioids, our very own feel-good molecules, the natural remedy for both physical and mental pain. Endorphins are released in the brain during aerobic exercise, or when we’re close to someone we love, and immediately after severe injuries.

The Science of Endorphins

And we now know what endorphins do. They attach to special receptors in the brain. And the most important among them are mu-opioid receptors. And just like the receptor I worked on in Kandel’s lab, mu-opioid receptors are GPCR. Here’s how they work. Like all GPCRs, mu-opioid receptors are made of seven spirals, or loops, that are stacked together, sticking through both sides of the cell membrane. Like this.

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And when endorphins attach to mu-opioid receptors from the outside, they cause them to change their shape, like this. And this triggers a series of events inside the neurons, which eventually ease the pain.