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What I Learned From Parents Who Don’t Vaccinate Their Kids: Jennifer Reich (Transcript)

Here is the full transcript of Jennifer Reich’s talk titled “What I Learned From Parents Who Don’t Vaccinate Their Kids” at TEDxMileHigh conference.

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TRANSCRIPT:

So, I gave birth to my second child about a year after 9/11, when our fear of terrorism was the highest we had ever known. It was the first year of the so-called War on Terror, and we had a brand new Department of Homeland Security. At one particularly panicked moment, we were all advised to go out and buy duct tape and plastic sheeting so we could seal our doors and windows in case of a bioterrorist attack. We were told to be prepared at all times, that the air could become poisonous, and that infectious diseases could be weaponized against unsuspecting communities.

The Vaccination Dilemma

The last doors of smallpox in a handful of labs around the world seemed an obvious choice. And so first responders, which included my husband, Dave, and my friends in my health policy fellowship, were asked to be vaccinated against a disease that was eradicated in 1969. At the same time as a mother of a newborn and a three-year-old, I was online reading advice from other mothers, how to find childcare, how to make breastfeeding easier, how to get your baby to sleep.

But among all the usual motherly advice, there was an unusual trend. Mothers suggesting that you don’t actually need vaccines against childhood illnesses, and that in fact they might be dangerous. So here I was on the one hand, watching as mothers said, you don’t really need vaccines against known diseases, like whooping cough and measles. And on the other hand, while health care providers I knew were debating getting vaccinated against a hypothetical risk.

And while I was trying to make sense of all of this, Dave would come home from the children’s hospital where he worked and tell me stories about children with vaccine-preventable diseases. Babies on ventilators with whooping cough, a child paralyzed with tetanus. These contradictions seemed hard to understand.

And so as a sociologist, I set out to study this the way I would any other project. To try to understand why parents were rejecting vaccines, despite evidence that they’ve helped to keep generations of children healthy.

Investigating the Reasons Behind Vaccine Rejection

I set out to interview parents, which turned out to be mostly mothers, because women make most of the health care decisions for their families. We talked about their fear of vaccines and the harms they were afraid they could cause. They told me about their distrust of pharmaceutical companies and the government agencies that are supposed to monitor them. Some told me infections actually is normal and natural, and that the body can heal itself so long as it’s healthy.

But throughout, mothers told me how hard they’re working. Making baby food from scratch, dyeing Halloween cookies with crushed semolina and beets to avoid artificial colorings, growing organic food in their backyards. These mothers were working hard to do what they thought was best for their own children, and that included avoiding vaccines.

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Now, it’s easy to dismiss these mothers as ignorant, selfish, or delusional, to say that they just don’t understand how serious vaccine-preventable diseases can be, or to label them as anti-science.

The Broader Cultural Context of Vaccine Refusal

And if you’re like most Americans, you already have firsthand experience with these conversations. On Facebook, at particularly contentious Thanksgiving dinners. Hopefully not, but maybe on your children’s playgrounds. And while I disagree with their claims, and have fully immunized my own three children, what I’ve come to understand in the course of my research is that parents who reject some or all vaccines are actually responding in ways that are pretty logical to the pressures placed on parents today.

And that this movement is actually a symptom of a much larger problem. So let me explain. Think about what we tell women from the moment they’re pregnant, sometimes even before conception, and throughout their children’s lives, about what it means to be a good parent. From birth plans, to food, to school choice, to college admissions, we mothers are told that our children’s successes or failures rest on our hard work.

We can see this culture of individualist parenting in the way we blame mothers for anything that goes wrong with their children. ‘Your child’s sick, your child gets bad grades, your child’s poorly behaved, it’s probably your fault.’ And when you fail to make perfect choices, someone will let you know, because others are watching.

When I was pregnant, I was stopped not once, but twice while ordering coffee by other women who wanted to make sure I was ordering decaf. And we know that for low-income mothers and mothers of color, the pressures are much, much worse, resulting not just in dumb questions, but sometimes in reports to social service or law enforcement agencies. But we don’t just scrutinize mothers. We also don’t believe that there’s enough resources for everyone’s children to succeed.

Not enough room at the good school, not enough spots on the traveling soccer team, not enough jobs after college. And so we pit parents against each other, competing for what seems like a small pool of resources, trying to do what’s best for their own children. In this light, the recent college admissions scandal starts to make sense. They paid a high price to try to ensure their kids could be successful in a world where there doesn’t seem to be enough to go around. But our problem is not just individualist parenting.

The Misconception of Health as a Personal Achievement

It’s also what we tell each other about what it means to be healthy. Public health agencies, physicians, websites, blogs, magazines, apps, your watch, friends, even family will tell you that health is a personal project. ‘It is your job to stay healthy. Count your calories. Count your steps. Eat less fat. Eat less sugar.