Baya Voce: The Simple Cure for Loneliness (Full Transcript)

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Baya Voce – Host of The Art of Connection

Loneliness is an emotional state that we have when we’re feeling disconnected. But our need for connection is ingrained in our DNA. Loneliness is a signal just like fight-or-flight that something isn’t right. Loneliness is a public health crisis.

But one in five Americans suffer from loneliness. Which means if you haven’t personally suffered from loneliness, it’s almost guaranteed that somebody you know closely has. It can cause depression and it can even lead to premature death.

But now more than ever we’re living alone. We’re spending more time online and less time making meaningful in-person connections. So when emotional storms hit, things like losing a job, or going through a divorce, or a death, instead of leaning in towards our communities we’ve learned to suffer alone.

So today I’m going to offer one solution that will bring us more connection and can help cure the epidemic. When I was a kid, I had a really hard time fitting in. I wanted to do whatever I could to belong and to not feel lonely. All I wanted was to find connection.

So my oh-so-wise adolescent self came up with a solution: I was going to be popular. I carried this thought process throughout my teens. But the problem was the more I wanted to be popular, the more it fueled my need for attention and approval. And when I was 20 years old, as fate would have it, auditions for MTV’s reality show The Real World came into town. Now for a girl still starving for approval and attention, this was my ticket.

Now for some of us when we think about reality TV, we don’t really have that strong of a reaction, never really watched it, don’t quite get what all the fuss is about. But for others of us we do have a strong reaction when we think about reality TV, and we generally fall into one of two camps. The first camp is like, you literally could not pay me enough to go on a reality TV show. In fact, reality TV is everything that is wrong with our society today.

And then the second camp is like go on a reality TV show, ‘Honey, I should have my own reality TV show. I would be the next Snooki for sure’. But with a history like mine, I’ll give you one guess which camp I fell into. And at 21 years old I moved to Brooklyn as part of seven strangers picked to live in a house. I love this quote by Jim Carrey; he says: “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of, so they can see that it’s not the answer”. But how many of you have gone after a goal based off of the feelings you thought you would feel once you accomplish that goal? The Real World didn’t bring me connection like I thought it would. In fact, if anything I was lonelier than I had ever been during those 15 minutes of fame.

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