Dr. Danielle Sheypuk – TRANSCRIPT
So, just recently, I went out on a Match.com date, and it was fantastic. We liked the same things, we liked movies at the Angelika, unknown restaurants, Central Park; he had a job, a career, a graduate degree, and the first date was fabulous. Soup dumpling, Tsingtao beer, chemistry flying all over the place.
By the third date, I thought I was off the hook. I got my hopes up; I was thinking: “This could be the one. This is the third date, this could be the one.”
When over an intimate dinner at a sweet Italian bistro, in the Lower East Side. I noticed he was sitting further away from me than usual, and then the question started. I’ve been thinking, “How are you going to be a mother? How are you going to do the duties that are going to be required of you? And even as a wife, how — I’m not sure how that’s going to work.”
And I said: “Well that’s simple, I’m just going to hire someone, like every other New Yorker.” That was the last time I heard from him. I tried to convince myself that this was like any other relationship, but deep down, I knew the reality. Who wants to date someone in a wheelchair?
Sex is one of the basic drives of humanity. Sigmund Freud proposed that human organisms are born with drives, and one of those is sex, and if this drive is not met, a negative state of tension occurs. Therefore, dating and relationships rank very high in life’s priorities. But this priority is much, much more complex for someone with a disability. \