Gaur Gopal Das: What Makes Life Complete? at TEDxMITP (Transcript)

Gaur Gopal Das at TEDxMITP

Here is the full transcript of life coach Gaur Gopal Das’ TEDx Talk presentation: What Makes Life Complete? at TEDxMITP conference.

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One of my friends in Mumbai, a Gujarati gentleman, he purchased a very expensive high-end, upmarket car, a slick posh yellow Lamborghini. You know cars are expensive as in Mumbai, things can get expensive than that. If you have watched this Hindi Movie Deewar, Amitabh Bachchan and Shashi Kapoor, Amitabh Bachchan talking to Shashi Kapoor, “I have a car, house, money and servants. What do you have?! Amitabh replies: “I have a mother”.

The rhyme of today has changed, ladies and gentlemen Amitabh says “I have Lamborghini, I have a Jaguar I have a Bentley, I have a BMW, I have a Rolls-Royce. What do you have?! Shashi Kapoor says “I have parking space.” Here, in Mumbai, parking space is more expensive than cars.

This friend of mine, a Gujarati, purchased a yellow Lamborghini and called me up and said “Would you like to bless my car?” Now in India, everything gets blessed — babies, marriages, job contracts, all the stuff gets blessed. So would you like to bless my car, we’ll go for an inaugural drive with it. I said “Well, it’s a Lamborghini. When will Swamis get to bless Lamborghinis. Come here. The gentlemen drove to our temple in the Lamborghini and he said we’ll go on a 15-minutes drive. I sat in the passenger seat and the gentleman sat in the driver’s seat, obviously he was driving. I was the first one! He didn’t even have his wife to drive first. Choose your career wisely, you know!

This gentleman, we went on a drive, the car encountered a traffic light at Peddar Road. And there was some car standing there. I can’t even remember what model. I’m sitting in a Lamborghini. I’m sitting there. And this gentleman in the next car, he turned his head around and his eyes were like big. Never in the streets and the roads of Mumbai, had he seen a slick yellow Lamborghini. And his eyes went even bigger when he saw me sitting inside the car! You should have seen the expression on his face, he was like “Swamiji, you too?!” I wanted to pull the windscreen down and say “Man, this is not my car, I’m the blessing man, 15 minutes blessing and it’s done!

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The 15 minutes drive turned into 35 minutes, I suggested to the gentleman that I think I need to get back because there’s a very important meeting that I need to attend. Ladies and gentlemen, what this man did, when I just suggested I need to get back shocked me to the core. I believe most of you would be shocked to the core when I tell you what he did. This guy broke down crying like a baby. I don’t think any of you would cry the first day when you have possession of a slick yellow Lamborghini and you’re driving it for the first time. And these were tears of anguish, how do you know what tears they are? When tears are cold, they’re tears of joy. When tears are warm, they’re tears of pain and anguish. Check it out next time. When someone is crying, don’t take a thermometer “This is tears of Joy.” Don’t guess for others you can test it for yourself you know.

I asked him what had happened. This man with great difficulty spoke up and said just three days back my wife had filed papers for divorce. He was driving a car, fancy car, he loved his wife, his children loved his wife, for some reason the wife had filed papers for divorce. And this fancy Lamborghini expensive high-end car couldn’t wipe his tears, this fancy expensive plush car couldn’t bring him any hope. And while I was driving with him I was thinking to myself God look at this gentleman, with all of the achievements that he has, a first class business, incredible amounts of money, tremendous influence and affluence, and with all of that he had and the cherry on top of the cake was Lamborghini. Bugged. No hope.

Ladies and gentlemen, therefore I say if you truly want to know how rich you are, then count all those things that you have that money cannot buy. Hope, Love, Respect, Dignity, Character, Integrity, Acceptance. Wealth is a very broad term. Money is not wealth. Money is just a part of wealth. And you must have it obviously — all of you are looking forward to having money and you must obviously have it. But it’s just a part of wealth.

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February 2, 2005, I was lying in a monastery in an ashram on the wooden floor, exhausted, tired from the anxiety last night and suddenly a fellow monk, one of my friends came up to me and woke me up saying “He’s leaving. He’s leaving!” I got up gathering myself together rushing to go to the room where my dear friend Stoka Krishna Das was leaving his body. Memories were flashing through my mind as I was rushing towards this room. He was the monk with me, had stayed together, we stayed together. At a certain point, he had decided to move on and get married. He went out. He’d taken a job at the hospital we run, as a librarian. He’d just gotten married. His wife was pregnant and while the wife was pregnant, he was diagnosed with melanoma cancer. He decided that he wanted to leave the body in the monastery where he spent most of his time. We had brought him to our monastery.

As the memories flashed in my mind as I was rushing there. I remembered everyday I went to sing god’s names to him on the harmonium. My tears filled the eyes, as I cried seeing a dear friend struggling with melanoma cancer. Every single time I looked at him, my vision was blurred. Because it was someone so dear. Yet, this gentleman was amazing, he had a beaming face, all the excruciating pain that he went through hadn’t affected his determined resolve. Yeah, look at his face, look at that smile. No morphine was working on him. I realized, this is how it works.

His wife had given birth to a baby girl, they brought the baby girl right next to him. It was the last time she would see him, it was the last time his wife would ever be with him. Ladies and gentlemen, as I walked to the room, my guru Radhanath Swami, the author of the popular book ‘The Journey Home’, was right next to him, giving him hope. I was astounded inside the little room there were so many people, I was standing right next to him with my guru Radhanath Swami outside were 450 members of our community, all together chanting the names of god. What I saw here was a man who didn’t have Lamborghini. What I saw here was support. What I saw here was people. People who were there to financially support him, people who were there to medically support him, people who were there to spiritually support him, people who were there to emotionally support him. I was amazed at the kind of support this man had.

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You know something, when you’re born people love you and when you die, people love you. In between you have to batch. And this man had managed truly well, he had invested so much in relationships with his people that when he was in dire need people had come to him. Ladies and gentlemen, yes it is important for us to have support. Wealth doesn’t just mean money. Wealth means money plus people and support.

One gentlemen said, do you know what’s the difference between complete and finish? He said if you find the right partner, you’re complete. If you find the wrong partner, you’re finished. But if you find the right one catching you with the wrong one, you’re completely finished. I must tell you, we definitely need partners, we definitely need friends, we definitely need professional therapists. We definitely need people who can support us. And therefore I say if you wanted to know truly how rich you are, drop a tear and see how many hands come forward to wipe that tear. That’s how rich you actually are, that’s wealth.

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