Best quote from this talk:
“Positivity is something worth fighting for, and the fight is not with others — it’s internal. If you want to make positive changes in your life, you have to consistently be positive.”
Lee Thomas – TED Talk TRANSCRIPT
When I was young, I wanted to be on TV: the lights, the cameras, the makeup, the glamorous life.
And from my vantage point, just outside of a military base in Lawton, Oklahoma, I didn’t make the distinction between TV reporter or actor. It was all the same to me.
It was either, “Reporting live from Berlin” or “I shall attend her here and woo her with such spirit when she comes.”
It was all special, it was all the spotlight, and I just knew that it was for me.
But somewhere along my journey, life happened. Ah, much better.
I have a disease called vitiligo. It started early in my career. It’s an autoimmune disorder. It’s where it looks like your skin is getting white patches, but it’s actually void of color.
It affects all ethnicities, it affects all ages, all genders, it’s not contagious, it’s not life-threatening, but it is mental warfare. It’s tough.
Now, I was diagnosed with this disease when I was working on “Eyewitness News” in New York City. I was in the biggest city in the country, I was on their flagship station and I was on their top-rated 5 p.m. newscast.
And the doctor looked me right in the eye and said, “You have a disease called vitiligo. It’s a skin disorder where you lose your pigment. There is no cure, but there a-la-la-la-la”.
Charlie Brown’s teacher. He said there is no cure. All I heard was, “My career is over.”
But I just couldn’t give up. I couldn’t quit, because we put too much into this. And by “we” I mean Mr. Moss, who sent me to speech and drama club instead of to detention, or my sister who paid part of my college expenses, or my mom, who simply gave me everything. I would not quit.
So I decided to just put on makeup and keep it moving. I had to wear makeup anyway. It’s TV, baby, right? I just put on a little more makeup, and everything’s cool. And that actually went very well for years.
I went from being a reporter in New York City to being a morning show anchor in Detroit, the Motor City. And as the disease got worse, I just put on more makeup. It was easy. Except for my hands.
See, this disease is progressive and ever-changing. That means it comes and goes. At one point, for about a year and a half, my face was completely white. Yeah, it trips me out too. Yeah.
And then, with a little help, some of the pigment came back, but living through this process was like two sides of a coin. When I’m at work and I’m wearing the makeup or wearing the makeup outside, I’m the TV guy.
“Hey, how you doing everybody? Great.”
At home without the makeup, I’d take it off and it was like being a leper. The stares, constantly staring at me, the comments under their breath. Some people refused to shake my hand.
Some people moved to the other side of the sidewalk, moved to the other side of the elevator. I felt like they were moving to the other side of life. It was tough, and those were some tough years.
And honestly, sometimes I just had to shelter in place. You know what I mean? Kind of just stay at home till I get my mind right.
But then I’d put my blinders back on, I’d get back out there, do my thing, but in the process of doing that, I developed this — angry, grumpy demeanor.
Anger is an easy go-to, and people would leave me alone, but it just wasn’t me. It wasn’t me. I was allowing this disease to turn me into this angry, grumpy, spotted guy. It just wasn’t me.
So I had to change. I knew I could not change other people. People are going to react and do what they’re going to do. But there was a cold hard reality as well.
I was the one that was showing anger, sadness and isolating myself. It was actually a choice. I was walking out the door every day expecting the world to react with negativity, so I just gave them that mean face first.
If I wanted change, the change had to start with me. So I came up with a plan. Two-parter, not that deep.
Number one: I would just let people stare, drink it in, stare all you want, and not react. Because the truth is when I got this disease, I was all up in the mirror staring at every new spot trying to figure out what is going on. So I needed to let other people have that same opportunity to get that visual understanding.
Number two: I would react with positivity, and that was simply a smile, or, at the very least, a nonjudgmental, kind face.
Simple plan.
But it turned out to be more difficult than I thought. But over time, things started to go OK. Like this one time, I’m at the store and this dude is like staring at me, like burning a hole in the side of my head. I’m shopping, he’s staring at me, I’m going to the checkout, he’s staring at me, I’m checking out, he’s on the other line checking out, he’s staring at me, we go to the exit, he’s still staring at me, so I see he’s staring.
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