How to Avoid Rejection and Get Connection by Marisa Peer (Transcript)

Marisa Peer

Here is the full transcript of Amazon best-selling, hypnotherapist Marisa Peer’s TEDx Talk: How to Avoid Rejection and Get Connection at TEDxGoodenoughCollege conference.

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TRANSCRIPT:

That’s just my little prop for later. Hi, thank you for listening to me. So I’m going to teach you today how to be amazing at connection. But to be amazing at connection, you’ve got to be equally amazing at not letting in rejection. You have to be able to deal with rejection in order to be fantastic at connection, because we come on to the planet with two very very powerful needs. Our first need is we must always find and maintain connection. And our second need is that we must always seek acceptance and avoid being rejected.

And avoiding being rejected is very very important. These are actual tribal needs and we will run by this instinctive need that we have to avoid being rejected, because when we lived in a tribe, you couldn’t survive unless you were connected. We were born instinctively knowing that we would make it on the planet, we would survive if we were connected to a group. Because as tribes people you couldn’t hunt for food, you couldn’t build a dwelling and you couldn’t raise a family unless you were connected. You needed that group to watch your back.