Following is the full transcript of educator and activist Brittany Packnett’s talk titled “How to Build Your Confidence – And Spark It in Others.” In this talk, she shares three ways to crack the code of confidence — and her dream for a world where revolutionary confidence helps turn our most ambitious dreams into reality.
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Brittany Packnett – TED Talk TRANSCRIPT
So when I was a little girl, a book sat on the coffee table in our living room, just steps from our front door. And the living room is a first impression. Ours had white carpet and a curio of my mother’s most treasured collectibles.
That room represented the sacrifices of generations gone by who, by poverty or by policy, couldn’t afford a curio of collectibles let alone a middle class house to put them in. That room had to stay perfect.
But I would risk messing up that perfect room every day just to see that book. On the cover sat a woman named Septima Clark. She sat in perfect profile with her face raised to the sky. She had perfect salt-and-pepper cornrows platted down the sides of her head, and pride and wisdom just emanated from her dark skin.
Septima Clark was an activist and an educator, a woman after whom I’d eventually model my own career. But more than all the words she ever spoke, that single portrait of Septima Clark, it defined confidence for me before I ever even knew the word.
It may sound simple, but confidence is something that we underestimate the importance of. We treat it like a nice-to-have instead of a must-have. We place value on knowledge and resources above what we deem to be the soft skill of confidence.
But by most measures, we have more knowledge and more resources now than at any other point in history, and still injustice abounds and challenges persist.
If knowledge and resources were all that we needed, we wouldn’t still be here. And I believe that confidence is one of the main things missing from the equation.
I’m completely obsessed with confidence. It’s been the most important journey of my life, a journey that, to be honest, I’m still on.
Confidence is the necessary spark before everything that follows. Confidence is the difference between being inspired and actually getting started, between trying and doing until it’s done.
Confidence helps us keep going even when we failed. The name of the book on that coffee table was “I Dream A World,” and today I dream a world where revolutionary confidence helps bring about our most ambitious dreams into reality. That’s exactly the kind of world that I wanted to create in my classroom when I was a teacher, like a Willy Wonka world of pure imagination, but make it scholarly.
All of my students were black or brown. All of them were growing up in a low-income circumstance. Some of them were immigrants, some of them were disabled, but all of them were the very last people this world invites to be confident. That’s why it was so important that my classroom be a place where my students could build the muscle of confidence, where they could learn to face each day with the confidence you need to redesign the world in the image of your own dreams.
After all, what are academic skills without the confidence to use those skills to go out and change the world.
Now is when I should tell you about two of my students, Jamal and Regina. Now, I’ve changed their names, but their stories remain the same.
Jamal was brilliant, but unfocused. He would squirm in his chair during independent work, and he would never stay still for more than three or four minutes. Students like Jamal can perplex brand new teachers because they’re not quite sure how to support young people like him.
I took a direct approach. I negotiated with Jamal. If he could give me focused work, then he could do it from anywhere in the classroom, from our classroom rug, from behind my desk, from inside his classroom locker, which turned out to be his favorite place.
Jamal’s least favorite subject was writing, and he never wanted to read what he had written out loud in class, but we were still making progress.
One day, I decided to host a mock 2008 presidential election in my classroom. My third graders had to research and write a stump speech for their chosen candidate: Barack Obama, Hillary Clinton or John McCain.
The heavy favorites were obvious, but one student chose John McCain. It was Jamal.
Jamal finally decided to read something that he had written out loud in class, and sure enough, Jamal stunned all of us with his brilliance.
Just like Jamal’s dad, John McCain was a veteran, and just like Jamal’s dad protected him, Jamal believed that John McCain would protect the entire country. And he wasn’t my candidate of choice, but it didn’t matter, because the entire class erupted into applause, a standing ovation for our brave friend Jamal who finally showed up as his most confident self for the first time that year.