In conversation with Impact Theory host Tom Bilyeu, author and speaker David Bayer explains how to use visualization to figure out precisely what you really want, then breaks down the exact steps you need to take to get into a powerful, creative mindset in any situation.
Notable quote from this talk:
“The fastest way for you to eradicate a limiting belief is to actually see the limiting belief as untrue. The moment that happens there is a reorganization in your brain. You can’t unsee it, once you see the lie is a lie.”
Tim Bilyeu: Everyone welcome to Impact Theory!
Today’s guest joins us as an author, speaker and seven-figure entrepreneur who is widely recognized as an expert on mindset and business.
But ten years ago he was addicted to drugs and alcohol and asking himself: ‘If this was really all life had to offer?’
After discovering firsthand that money cannot buy happiness, he embarked on a process of getting clean and not only diagnosing but solving the cause of his suffering…
Starting a 12-step program and stumbling upon a book on Buddhism in an airport bookstore made him realize that the root of his problem lay directly between his own ears. After spending years studying and coming to understand his own mind and also working with a bevy of world-class teachers, coaches, mentors and spiritual leaders from around the world, he has emerged with a system that he believes can help anyone get unstuck and achieve their full potential.
He’s not the only one with faith in his methods. He’s been featured on Businessweek, Fox News, Bloomberg radio, MSNBC and the Los Angeles Times. According to Inc., his program called ‘The Powerful Living Experience is one of the top three must attend personal development events for entrepreneurs!’
So, please help me in welcoming the man who has helped countless people transform their lives. The author of ‘Mind Hack’ – David Bayer.
Tim Bilyeu: Welcome to the show!
David Bayer: Thanks for having me.
Tim Bilyeu: Absolutely. So anybody that can go deep on the notion of getting unstuck is a friend of mine so I want to start there.
You’ve talked about how there are three areas of your life that you need to master and how does that help us get unstuck?
David Bayer: Yeah. So I mean there’s three areas of your life that I think are important. One is really mastering your mind, your thought process and that’s nothing new. The real question is you know at what level, how do we become more self-aware of the thoughts that are driving all of our process? But more importantly, how do we change our thinking? How do we change the habitual patterns of thinking that we have become addicted to.
So that then cascades into our emotional responses that we have with life around us and in our perceptions.
So how do we reorient ourselves in a way that is congruent with the life that we actually want to create? Or the business that we want to create? Or the relationships that we want to create? Or the health that we want to have?
Because we tend to just continue to experience the same experiences over and over and over and over and there’s nothing fundamentally wrong with us in the fact that we lived a sort of Bill Murray ‘Groundhog Day’-type of existence. It’s the way the technology and the operating system of the human being has been designed.
But now we’re entering this really interesting period where I think personal growth is evolving into the next level – where we’re able to utilize the tech to really tap into higher levels of intelligence and become you know what a lot of people refer to as ‘Superhuman’.
Tim Bilyeu: So what gets people stuck in the first place?
David Bayer: There are a number of things that get people stuck. I mean let’s talk about beliefs for a second.
What are our beliefs? Beliefs are the meanings that we gave the experiences of our life, mostly before the age of seven, before a significant portion of the prefrontal cortex is fully formed. We gave meanings to the experiences of our life or other people gave meanings to the experiences that we were having.
I remember distinctly one time – I grew up in Orange County, California and I don’t know why in first grade they had to choose which mission we wanted to build the long, we had Mission San Juan Capistrano.
So I had a paper mache and clay and I’m building Mission San Juan Capistrano in my garage. And my dad walks in and he says, ‘Hey! Let me show you a better way to do that!’ The meaning I gave that experience was – ‘I didn’t know how to do it right!’
And just because of the way technology works what happens is that it starts to shape the lens through which we experience the future experiences of our life.
So the next time you have an experience you know you’re approaching that experience through not knowing how to do it right. And because the brain is a goal achieving machine that’s all we start to notice – is what we’re not doing right. And there is really no recognition of what we’re doing well.
So we get caught in this in the psycho cybernetics loop. If you’re not aware of it there’s really no way out of it. Because in every new experience you’re just going to continue to focus on that which reinforces the belief systems that you established, or the meaning that you gave your experiences early on. And you’re going to ignore everything else.
You become trapped right – in my own thoughts, by your own thoughts, by your own belief systems. Now we’re really understanding that those meanings aren’t just some sort of like ‘marshmallow fluff’ or kind of esoteric concept. They’re actually wired into the neural networks of your brain. Like we can’t do that today, but in the future I would imagine we’d be able to brain scan you and go – “Oh! Those are the neural networks that light up!” — when you feel like ‘There’s not enough time’ or ‘Money’s hard to make’ or ‘You’re not good enough’ or ‘You’re not as far long as you should be!’
And for years, I struggled in the current model of personal growth. Because it’s one of those things where the current model lends itself to self-awareness. When I’m speaking on stages I say you know, ‘How many of you are aware of your limiting beliefs?’ And everybody raises their hands.