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The Key to Navigating Change With Confidence: Kristy Ellmer (Transcript)

Read the full transcript of Change leader Kristy Ellmer’s talk titled “The Key to Navigating Change With Confidence”, at TED@BCG on September 12, 2024.

Listen to the audio version here:

The Life-Changing Realization That Transformed My Perspective on Change

Kristy Ellmer: When I was 24 years old, I heard something that changed the trajectory of my career and my life. I had just started working for an airline that declared bankruptcy. This was a historic company with a rich history of giving the gift of flight to millions. But we knew that saving the company would mean making many hard choices, including layoffs. It was devastating for people to think about letting go of friends and colleagues, many that had spent decades serving this company.

To help us with this very difficult task, a company was brought in to coach us. I will never forget what the facilitator said. He asked, “What if for everyone that is laid off, it is actually a good thing?” I was shocked. How could being laid off be a good thing for anyone? I know if I lost my paycheck, I would be concerned about how I was going to pay my rent, the many other bills I had, worried about health insurance, and paying for basics like groceries. And what would it mean for my career and my future? So how could being laid off be a good thing for anybody?

But I kept my mind open just long enough to hear the research. He shared that he had tracked employees that had been laid off over time and saw that in most cases, it was actually a blessing in disguise. People were forced out of a career rut. With support with severance packages, recommendations, and support from their networks, these laid off employees went on to challenge themselves to do something different. They started new jobs that gave them opportunities that accelerated their career path. They actually went on to start new businesses, learn new skills, and go back to college.

So in that moment, it became a guiding belief for me, for my career and my life, that change is always a good thing. Even if forced upon you, if you’re curious and patient enough, you will find the good in it. So now, whenever a major change happens to me, even if negative or forced upon me, I take the time and ask myself, “What if this is happening for me?”

The Reality of Change in Today’s World

Today, I’m a transformation leader and executive. I’ve helped many companies, small and large, around the globe through transformation and change. Many of these companies you would recognize, delivering billions of value while improving the employee experience. I’ve worked with a global manufacturer to refill their entire organization. I’ve worked with a mining company that was three months from closing their doors to being profitable again. And through the COVID-19 pandemic, I worked with one of the most impacted industries, grocery stores.

So I’ve seen a lot of change. And what I do know is that in today’s world, the only constant is change. Change is not going away. And in fact, it is getting harder and more frequent. Lucky for me, I love to change. I actually speak it out. But for many, they hate change. And in fact, most people hate change.

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Why We’re Biologically Wired to Hate Change

It is true that we are biologically wired to hate change. Our brains are designed to avoid uncertainty and avoid threat. The instant you feel threatened, your amygdala begins to release stress hormones of cortisol and adrenaline. This happens instantaneously and unconsciously.

So imagine you’re walking in the woods and you see a bear. What does your brain tell you to do? Scary animal. Run. But the reality is, that is just the stress hormones talking. What you need to do is tap into the rational side of your brain and realize the next best step is to actually stay still. This chemical cocktail is happening to you regardless if you’re staring at a bear in the woods or your CEO has just announced a merger. Change feels bad.

This is one of the reasons why 75% of corporate transformations fail. Think about the last time you experienced a change. Did people respond with excitement and open-mindedness? Or did they immediately start listing out all the things that would go wrong? Saying things like, “Change never works. This will fail.” Or one of my favorites, “If we wait this out long enough, it will go away.”

It doesn’t matter how good your change management strategy is if the humans you are working with are consciously or unconsciously working against you. It’s what they’re wired to do. So change management at its core is actually about helping people overcome that natural wiring to hate change and tap into their intellectual potential to advance the change.

The Solution: Humanizing Change

So the question is, in a world of constant change, how can we get more people to hate change less? Maybe even get excited about it? The answer is to humanize it. After all, it is humans that will activate the change. We have to think about the human element across any dimension of a change or a transformation. And there are many ways to do that. But here are two of my favorites.

Anytime you’re beginning a change journey, sit down and write down your personal change story and have your teams do it too. This is the why you are motivated to change and why you’re committed to seeing it through. Knowing your why and revisiting it often through the change will help you overcome that natural wiring to hate change.

The problem is when most leaders think about change and talk about change, they talk about the success metrics of improving shareholder value or the stock price or how people will make a lot of money and big bonuses from it. But that is not what motivates most people.

The Five Primary Motivators for Change

I founded the behavioral science lab at BCG to better understand what drives human behavior.