Why What We Feel Matters More Than What We Think: Natasha Sharma (Transcript)

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Natasha Sharma – Psychotherapist

Have you ever made a bad decision?

We all have.

Most of the decisions we make are based on how we feel: Overeating, cheating on an exam, maybe staying in a bad relationship or ending a good one. The majority of our decisions are guided by our emotions. So it’s important that we understand this.

We make about 35,000 decisions in a single day. Now, I don’t know how many of these are bad ones, but what I do know is that most of them are guided by our decisions or emotional process.

People say funny things to me all the time. They say things like, ‘I’m not an emotional thinker’, and they say funny things to other people like this.

Have you ever been called an emotional person? “I’m not an emotional person”, but that always seems very funny to me because all human beings are emotional people. It’s part of being a human and yet we hear this all the time.

Here’s something else funny that people say.

They say that when they get old, they’re okay if their body breaks down, they’re fine if they need help going up and down the stairs. They need a little assistance getting in and out of bed, but they want their minds to be intact.

Ever heard that? They want to be of sound mind, and yet how many of us actually take the time to become emotionally fit?

I’ve never met anybody who’s older who actually wishes that they knew how to play more Sudoku. But I have met people who are older who wished that they’d connected more with other people, who wished that they’d experienced more of what life has to offer.

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And yet we don’t learn about how to become emotionally fit.

We take care of our bodies all the time. We go to the gym, we put protein in our shakes. We wear a little devices on our wrists that track every single movement that we make in a day, and we put turmeric in our lattes. We drink turmeric lattes.

But what do we do for our own emotional health, our own emotional fitness?

Unfortunately, we’re not actually taught to live in the world emotionally. We’re taught social skills. We’re taught lots of important things, but our parents never came around and said, all right guys, gather around the table. We’re going to talk about how to manage our emotions today. It just never happened, at least not in my house.

What we’re taught is important things, how to read, how to write, how to talk and walk, how to make friends, how to not piss off your boss, but we’re not taught about our emotional health.

Now I’ve conducted in my career close to 500 psychological assessments. And this basically involves me running a bunch of tests and I measure things like IQ and attention, and academic knowledge, and social emotional functioning and memory.

And then I deliver the results and there’s always one score that everybody wants to know and they’re like, ‘I don’t care about the rest of this course. Just tell me my IQ. I want to know my IQ.’

That’s the one they want to know the most, especially when they think it’s high. And that’s because we still have a very strong association between conventional smart or conventional wisdom, and success and happiness in life.

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