Here is the full transcript and summary of relationship expert Gary Lewandowski’s TEDx Talk: Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken at TEDxNavesink Conference.
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So we need to talk. Hearing those four simple words from your relationship partner never feels good. Your heart sinks, palpitates, your stomach flutters, your palms get sweaty, because it’s never ‘we need to talk about what a great relationship we have, how we’re best friends, and how we’re going to spend the rest of our lives together’, it’s never that; it’s always ‘we need to talk about the beginning of the end.’
And whether your relationship is awful, good, or great, we don’t like endings, we don’t like to lose things. And especially, we don’t like to lose things that are important to us. And make no mistake, relationships are the single most important thing to you in your life. It’s the source of all of your best memories, it’s the source of all of your worst memories.
When you think back on your life when you’re 95 or 100 years old and you look back over the course of your lifetime, you’re not going to think: “‘I wish I owned a better phone’, ‘I wish I spent more time on the Internet’, I wish I spent more time at work or sleeping’”. It’s going to be any of those kinds of things. It’s going to be: ‘I wish I spent more time with the people I loved’, because our relationships they build us, they define us, they sustain us and they can break us too.