Full transcript of Liz Wright’s TEDx Talk: Getting Rid of 1000 Things at TEDxBedford conference.
Notable quote from this talk:
“A lot of the stuff we have has an emotional attachment, either from when you bought it or when it was given to you. And about your own stuff that’s quite an easy judgment to make, but for other people’s things actually more difficult, and it’s about encouraging them along the journey.”
Liz Wright: Today, I want to talk to you about living your life with design, and thinking about the things that are in your life.
We’ve heard about big ideas today, so I want to talk about something smaller and closer to home.
A couple of years ago, I read a book called The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin. One of the things that I took from that personally is I thought a lot about the big things in my life. So I thought about who I married, where I lived, what I did for a job, and how those contributed to my happiness.
But what I didn’t really do is think about the day-to-day things, the things I brought into my house or took out of my house, all the small decisions I made, and how they led to my own happiness.
So it started me thinking about a project to get rid of 1,000 things.
Before I start, I don’t want you to think I was a hoarder, my house wasn’t crazy, it was a normal house filled with normal things.
But I do think I was a perfect storm of a generation in terms of I had my parents’ post-war values about holding on to things, saving things for best, what happens if you don’t have anything, look after the pennies, look after the pounds, that whole kind of: “You need to keep stuff because you might not have it forever.”
But also being an 80s child and being a consumerist child and part of the MTV generation, I definitely had those things on my bike from the Kellogg’s packets. I had all of those things. So I had this weird mixture of values, which were basically like, “I need to keep hold of everything I have, but equally, I need to buy a lot of stuff, and that makes me feel good and the consumerism element.”
So suddenly, I had a house full of stuff and I didn’t really recognize some of it or didn’t realize I had it.
So I started to think, “What would happen, how would I feel, and how would that affect my happiness if I just got rid of 1,000 things?”
Being an auditor, I wanted scope and definition and rules, so I gave myself a list of a few to-dos. I wanted to count things that were usable in one item. So a pair of shoes would be one item for the purpose of this project, but an earrings and jewelry set that you could use independently would be two items.
I didn’t want to do this to raise money although I did sell some things as part of the process; the process was about getting rid of the stuff.
How, why, and where it went to was of less importance to me. Although obviously, I made sure that I could donate or recycle as much as I could, the essence was about it leaving my life and the happiness that I would open up.
And finally, it was okay to get rid of some stuff that people are giving you. I definitely was a product of: “If someone gives you a gift, even if you don’t really like it you keep it because it’s rude not to.” So I definitely gave myself permission to get rid of things.
One thing I did find was hard, though, was getting rid of my husband’s things. It’s very easy to get rid of my own, but actually, increasingly more difficult to get rid of other people’s.
A lot of the stuff we have has an emotional attachment, either from when you bought it or when it was given to you. And about your own stuff that’s quite an easy judgment to make, but for other people’s things actually more difficult, and it’s about encouraging them along the journey.
I have to say he’s getting better, but he certainly hasn’t got rid of 1,000 things like I have. So I set myself some challenges and encourage you to use some of these tools if you’re going to embark on something similar.
One of the things I did was set myself challenges. So I would say, “I’m going to the charity shop on Saturday, I need to take 50 things with me.” That helped me to be a little bit more ruthless when I was going through things.
The second thing I did was something I called the hanger challenge. I went into my wardrobe, and I turned all the hangers the wrong way around, and then over a course of a few months, if I wore that item, I turned the hanger back around and hang it back in.
At the end of the time period, I could see all the clothes I had worn and all the clothes I hadn’t. Particularly as a girl, I was quite emotional about some things, I was going to get slim and get back into that dress, or I was going to find the perfect accessory.
In reality, you often don’t, so it was just kind of: “Right, categorically, those things I haven’t worn in a period of time, so they need to go.”