Kate Webster on Quiet Power at TEDxIIT (Full Transcript)

Full transcript of Breaking Thru Barriers Founder Kate Webster’s TEDx Talk on Quiet Power at TEDxIIT conference.


Notable quote from the talk: 

“It really broke. And it was a transformative moment. My passive fears didn’t work. My aggressive power didn’t work either, and it’s how I hurt myself. What worked was my Quiet Power.”


Kate Webster – Founder, Breaking Thru Barriers

Twenty years ago, I had lived with lingering doubts whether I was good enough. By winning your constant acceptance and approval, I defined my sense of self.

But it never felt authentic, and I lost my voice.

One day this board showed me a different way. How to find my Quiet Power and, eventually, my voice.

Some of you may have also struggled to find your voice, especially in dealing with difficult people and discussions. Quiet Power can show you a different way to find your voice, to speak up, but also to change the way you communicate and change your world.

So, what happened that day when I met this board?

I found my Quiet Power. I was a newly-minted self-defense instructor at my first instructors’ conference, and I was so excited to learn new techniques and to network.

Then, I found out that the final event was board breaking, and I had so many fears. Fears about what you were going to think about me. I feared that I was going to look ridiculous, I was going to hurt myself, and I was going to fail.

So I did what I did best, and I looked to the outside for answers and was told I needed to use my strongest technique. And they said, for me that was my front snap kick, using the ball of my foot and a strong snapping action of my leg.

I was so fearful, but I just had to practice, and I thought it meant taking on an aggressive stance, mindset and kick. I didn’t know any other way, and I wanted to make sure I succeeded.

The moment arrived, I faced my board.

Thwack! It didn’t break. I looked ridiculous. I had to try again. Thwack! It didn’t break again.

Now the ball of my foot started to hurt, and I was sure everyone was laughing at me.

One more time. Thwack! It didn’t break, I had failed, and all my fears had come true.

Just as I was about to give up, I looked up beyond the board, and a colleague of mine raised her hand and pointed to the soft, fleshy part, just below the pinkie above the wrist. And I couldn’t believe she was encouraging me to break the board with a much less powerful technique. But I had nothing left to lose.

So I faced the board one last time. I took a deep breath in, and on the exhalation, my shoulders relaxed, I started to believe in myself, connect mind and body, and without further thinking – thwack! The board broke.

It really broke. And it was a transformative moment. My passive fears didn’t work. My aggressive power didn’t work either, and it’s how I hurt myself. What worked was my Quiet Power.

When I believed in myself, connected mind and body, I broke the board effortlessly, and I found my Quiet Power. Since then, I’ve discovered that Quiet Power can be used by all of us, in all areas of our lives, to speak up for ourselves.

But it’s not easy, because we disconnect from Quiet Power. I know because I did just recently.

When I was accepted to give this TED Talk, I received a wide variety of opinions on how to give the best speech possible. And many were worried about whether or not I should show my tattoos. I began to worry too; I lost my voice; I disconnected from Quiet Power, wondering what people watching were going to think of me.

But when I remembered what the speech is about, that quite power is believing in yourself, connecting mind and body and speaking authentically, I realized I didn’t need to cover up my tattoos any more – or anything else, for that matter.

And I could be a living, breathing embodiment of Quiet Power on this stage.

What barriers do you have that cause you to disconnect from Quiet Power?

For me, they were my lingering doubts whether I was good enough. But on the outside, I didn’t look like I had those doubts. I have a Bachelor’s from Harvard University, but I never felt smart enough. I have a PhD from the University of Chicago, but I never felt theoretical enough.

And I have a third degree black belt in karate, but I never felt strong enough.

So, to mask these doubts I created an outside world that was strong on the outside. Strong in my mind, teaching at the university, and strong in my body, teaching self-defense.

But I kept those two worlds separate so that I could take on an aggressive power in each one of them and make sure I fit in. It didn’t work. Didn’t feel authentic.

And that is how I lost my voice. I remember trying to feel theoretical enough at the University of Chicago. And I thought I had to take on their aggressive hegemonic discourse way of speaking.

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