Iman Aghay – TRANSCRIPT
Have you ever wanted to say something, but you didn’t because you were afraid of being judged or getting rejected? Have you ever done something that you didn’t want to only because of others’ expectations? Have you ever missed out on being with your family and friends because you were working for too many hours? Nine out of ten people regret something big in their lives. Think about that; nine out of ten people regret something big in their lives.
Many of these regrets are caused by our own small daily choices, and when we make these choices on a regular basis, they turn into regret-causing bad habits. We spend far too many hours on social media checking fun profile after the next one, video share this, share that, and then hours are gone. We watch for too much TV. An average adult watches five hours of TV every day. We keep buying things that we don’t even need because there are great deals and there are sales.
Among us, there is a small group of people who had a unique life-changing experience that helped them dump the regret-causing bad habits one by one, and very quickly I hope you never experience what these people experienced, but learn from the lessons they learned.
Here is why: the first step of this experience requires you to end up on your deathbed; the second step is asking yourself three most common questions asked on a deathbed; and the third step is to survive your deathbed to apply the lessons learned. Let’s skip step one and three, and just simply ask ourselves the three most common questions asked on a deathbed.
How do I know these questions? One day in October 2010, I started bleeding internally. I was rushed to the hospital where doctors realized I lost 60% of my blood, but they couldn’t find the source of the bleeding so they couldn’t stop it. I was literally bleeding dry. I was told in a way I may not see the next day. That was a heck of a wake-up call. When I was growing up, my dad was an entrepreneur, and he was a very good entrepreneur, but he used to work really, really hard although we were living in the same home.
There were times that I hadn’t seen my dad for three months in a row because he would leave home before we woke up, and he would come back home after we went to sleep, but he had a plan. He wanted to retire at age 53 and go enjoy his passion which was traveling the world, with my mom, going to Europe, and Africa, and Asia, and see the wonders of the world so we’re very happy for him. We were like, “Work hard and retire early and go do whatever you want to do in your life.”
But when my dad turned 50, he was diagnosed with a disease called ALS also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. ALS in most cases kills the patient within three to five years. When my dad turned 53, he passed away; he never retired, he never enjoyed his life. He died with massive regrets. My dad’s premature death made me decide to never postpone my happiness. And there I was, right before my 27th birthday, on my own deathbed. That showed me life can be really short, and it can end at any point with no announcement.