Full text of Darryll Stinson’s talk: Overcoming Rejection, When People Hurt You & Life Isn’t Fair at TEDxWileyCollege conference.
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Darryll Stinson – Mental Health Advocate
Rejection. Do you remember the last time you felt rejected? Was it a guy that never returned a phone call? Or a father that never came around?
Was it a boss who overlooked you for a promotion? Or maybe it was someone in your life who never thought you were good enough, no matter what you did to try to impress them.
We all know rejection hurts. It stings. It makes us feel like we’re not good enough. It causes us to question ourselves and doubt our future. I submit to you that rejection isn’t something we should be afraid of. And it sure isn’t something that should make us get discouraged, depressed, or work unhealthy amounts of hours just to prove to the world that we are somebody worth loving and paying attention to.
Rather, rejection is our friend and not our enemy. I’m going to share two ways that we can see rejection in order to leverage those moments of pain to be the greatest catalyst to our success, and proof of our value and uniqueness.
The first way that we can view rejection is by seeing it as projection. A psychological projection. A psychological projection is when someone subconsciously employs undesirable feelings or emotions onto someone else rather than admitting to or dealing with their own unwanted feelings.
When we can see how the rejections we face may have more to do with another person’s inward turmoil and not our own value, our lives will change. Rather than shrink back, get discouraged, or play it safe, we’ll move forward in life with confidence and high esteem.