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Priya Parker: The Fear of Missing Out at TEDxCambridge 2011 (Full Transcript)

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Priya Parker

Watch and read here the full transcript of Priya Parker’s TEDx Talk: The Fear of Missing Out at TEDxCambridge 2011 Conference.

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Priya Parker – Founder, Thrive Labs

Fourteen months ago, I was on a [Southwest] flight and my eyes rolled back in my head. I slumped into my seat, unconscious. I woke up to the plastic rubber floor of the airplane, right in the middle of the seats and I was wheeled off in a stretcher in Atlanta Georgia, and I ended up in an emergency room, followed by months of tests, months of doctors’ visits, a number of gluten tests. I got really good at making those quinoa loaves for breakfast.

And, I finally got a very unsatisfying explanation. Ambition and stress placed the body on a war footing, my doctor told me. I’d been running hard for ten years through my twenties, and my army had simply run out of supplies. I took some time off and the strangest thing happened. Hard charging, high performing people started coming up to me, often in whispers, and told me that they too had collapsed recently. That they’re suffering from insomnia, from lockjaw, from losing chunks of hair, these invisible diseases all around me due to stress and anxiety.

I started to rebuild my body, and during that time, my 93-year-old grandfather said something to me that really stuck. He said: “Priya, do you know what the word ‘Svastha’ means?”

And I said, “Yes Nana. It means health in Hindi”

And he said, “Yes, that’s how we use it in modern day Hindi, but it actually derives its root from Sanskrit. And it has a two-fold meaning: ‘Sva’ means self. And ‘stha’ means seat. So ‘svastha’ or health, means to be seated inside yourself.”

I began to build myself. To regain my strength, I spent a lot of time dancing. I also spent a lot of time alone, in silence, creating. And I realized that in trying of making something of myself, I had somehow lost the thread. And I realized that I in fact was not alone. I decided to do two things once I healed.

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First, to conduct a study of the next generation of socially concerned globally minded leaders — basically the TED demographic — to find out what are their unique anxieties. Then, to work with individuals and organizations who were experiencing critical inflection points, to build bold visions on how they can thrive and how they can build a vision off of their internal core. I called these sessions, visioning labs.

As I conducted these labs and I conducted these interviews, I found that there were in fact things that this generation uniquely suffers from. Two stood out. The first is that we become untethered. The people that I work with, more than their parents, more than their grandparents, are less and less tethered to anything. We have full choice to make a decision about who we marry, whether we marry, what we want to study or eventually do. And this prolific rise, you could say, of choices, has made our life full of more variables and less certainty.

A doctor I was working with, a very successful young doctor crystallized this for me. She said, “I’ve become a skeleton. The layers have been stripped away. I no longer have institutions or tribe or family. It just no longer exists for me.” What happens when we lose our traditions, our cultures, our ways of being, our inherited ways of being, is that all of a sudden, we began to look and live our lives in a social mirror. We spend our lives looking at a mirror and all we have is the people around us to reflect back to us what normal is. And what has happened is that, we’re spending our time looking at this guy and saying, “Should I be doing what he’s doing?” Or, “What does she know that I don’t?” We’ve lost our organizing principles.

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