Programming your mind for success by Carrie Green (Full Transcript)

There were quite a lot of obstacles in this room, maybe you’re so far at the back, and you just thought, “Oh, my goodness. I am so far away, it’s dark, there are lots of tables in my way up, if I fall over, I might look like a fool, and I just can’t do it, it’s too difficult, someone else has to volunteer for me.”

Or maybe, it’s just the lack of MOTIVATION. Maybe you just couldn’t be bothered to move and come up here. But, no matter what your reason was, your decision started up here. In your mind. Because the moment I said, “Please, can I have a volunteer?”, thoughts would have started putting into your mind, that little voice inside your head would have started talking to you. And maybe for some of you, it was saying, “Oh, God, what is this girl going to get us to do? I don’t want to go up there. Please don’t make us do anything really stupid.”

And then, maybe for some other people, you were thinking, maybe down in the front you were like, “Oh, gosh. I don’t want to do this. Look away, avoid eye contact, avoid eye contact. Then she won’t pick me.”

And then, maybe for some of you the moment I said, “Please can I have a volunteer?”, maybe fear and doubt and worries had flooded through you at the prospect of actually coming up here, of coming up here in front of so many people.

And then, for those of you that did volunteer, you were thinking something entirely different. You were thinking things maybe like, “Woo! She wants a volunteer. I wonder what she is going to get us to do. How exciting! I’m going to do it!” Or maybe some of you thought, “Oh, my gosh. This is really awkward. No one is volunteering. So I’m going to have to step up and do it.”

But those of you that didn’t volunteer, you missed out on the chance to win 20 pounds. But this experiment isn’t about the money. This experiment demonstrates the power of your mind. The fact that what is going on up in your head has such a huge impact on the actions that you take, on the decisions you make, and the things that you experience. And it’s not just in silly situation like this where people miss out on amazing opportunities. People are missing out on incredible opportunities all of the time, because of what’s going on in the head. Because they are making bad decisions, based off a really bad frame of mind. Those kind of self-limiting thoughts, like, “I can’t do that.” “I’m not good enough.” “I don’t have the time or the money.”

Or maybe you think, “I can’t be bothered. I’ll just do it tomorrow”

But then, you never do it. And so these wonderful ideas, and these incredible potentials, stay locked up inside, and you never do anything with them. And that is exactly what was happening to me a few years ago.

It was the summer of 2005 and I just finished studying my first year of law at the University of Birmingham. And I had completely run out of money. And I was like. “What am I going to do!” And so I started to look around for jobs, and I was looking around and found absolutely nothing appealing. So I was looking around for more opportunities, and eventually found this opportunity.

It was to start my very own mobile phone unlocking business, which basically meant that if you had a mobile phone, and it was locked to a certain network, and say you wanted to go travelling to Australia, and use an Australian SIM card, then you could come to the website and unlock your phone. There was just a few massive problems with this.

First off, I didn’t really know much about mobile phones, beyond the fact that made calls and sent texts, let alone mobile phone unlocking, and I had no idea how to build an online business. But the only other opportunity was [indiscernible], start my own business, so obviously went with the idea of starting my own business, and found it way more adventurous.

So I got started and I realized really quickly that when you don’t have a clue what to do, the only thing you can do is ask for help, and that is what I did.

So, I asked for help and within a few short weeks I put together probably the world worst website. And I discovered Google Adwords as the way to drive traffic to the website. And with the credit card, and a spending limit 30 pounds a day, my business was officially up and running.

Then over the next couple of years, when I was studying my law degree, I was learning how to build this business. I was reading books, I was listening to audio programs and in my final year, I went to night school to learn more about web development. I graduated in 2007 with an amazing degree and a business that was flying. And I decided that being an entrepreneur was going to be way more fun than being a lawyer.

So, I set my sights high and I decided to build — to take the business global, to build a successful global business. So we got a new supplier based in America who could unlock practically every phone under the sun. We redid the website, we expanded the team, we got really good online marketing. And within a few years, we were receiving over 100,000 hits to the website every month. And we were selling thousands and thousands of codes every single month. And I had reached my goal to build a successful global business.

But there was one massive problem. I was miserable.

I was running this business predominantly from my home office, where I lived in an apartment, my second bedroom was turned into an office. And I felt completely lonely, totally isolated and lost. Something that I think so many people experience, but not very many of us talk about. And I crumbled. I started to question everything. And I started to think questions like, “What am I doing?” “What is the point of all of this?” And more I thought about those questions the more confused I felt, and then the more confused I felt, the more these negative thoughts would cloud my mind, the more I began to doubt everything, and worry about everything, and just question everything.

And as the months rolled by, I became more and more negative, more and more self-defeatist, and literally, this positive, optimistic and go-get-person I once was, had just disappeared. I’ve become totally negative and self-sabotaging. I’d come up with ideas and shoot them down and talk myself out of it.

And it got to 2010, and I felt like I was in complete despair. And so, I packed my bags, I knew I was traveling to Australia in the hope of having an epiphany. I spent 3 months travelling around Australia, no epiphany. And I was just like what I’m supposed do.

So then I came back to the UK, and I felt even more miserable than before. Because all of my problems are still waiting for me. And the weather was rubbish. So then I was just like what am I going to do. The next few months I found myself being suffocated by my problems. The way you feel, like you just can’t get rid of these doubts and worries. And it was all I used to focus on. I would come up with ideas, I would find opportunities, and I just taught myself out of it, thinking that I couldn’t do it.

And then finally, in 2011, I figured out where I was going wrong. And I believe I was going wrong for 2 massive reasons.

The first reason was that, “Yes, I wanted to be successful.” And quite frankly, doesn’t every single person in this room want to be successful? But mobile phone unlocking was not my dream. And at the time I was reading the book by Michael Gerber called The E-Myth and in the E-Myth, there is a chapter on primary aims, and Michael Gerber says, “Imagine walking into a room. Inside in the room are your friends and family. And as you walk down the center of the room, you see a box. And as you get to front of the room, you realize that you are in the box. And it’s your funeral.” And he says, “What kind of things do you want people to be saying about the kind of life that you lived, about the kind of person that you were, and the kind of things that you achieved.”

And I realized I had no idea. So that was no wonder that I felt so off-track. I had never ever been on track.

And the second reason why I think I went wrong, is because of what was going on up here? What was going on in my head? All these doubts, all these worries, all these self-limiting belief. And I came across a quote by Anthony Robbins that said, “Your destiny is determined by the choices you make. Choose now. Choose well.”

And I realized that I was responsible for this misery. I was responsible for the fact that I was stuck in a rut. I remember looking at my life thinking I’m waking up every single day and focusing on my problems. I am waking up every day, and giving so much focus and attention to all of these awful thoughts, these doubts and worries. I’m coming up with ideas, and I’m shooting them down. And I’m talking to myself out of doing anything whatsoever. And I realized that if I wanted to live an incredible life and achieve amazing things, and I really did, that I had to get my mind to be on the same ways like Anthony. I realized that I had to figure out what it was that I wanted to achieve, why I wanted to achieve it, why it actually meant something to me. I had to figure out the kind of person that I needed to become in order to make it happen. And then I had to program my mind to make it happen.

I had to program my mind for success. And that is exactly what I ended up doing.

Mission, success began. And so, I started this off by thinking about what do I actually want? And so when I looked at my life, and I thought I love being an entrepreneur, and I love coming up with ideas and turning them into reality. It’s so much fun. And then I looked at my problems and thought, I felt really lonely and lost as an entrepreneur. And I looked at them with a different perspective, rather than feeling really bad about that, I thought what can I do about it? There must be other people out there that are in exactly the same position as me. So I came up with this idea to create the Female Entrepreneur Association. And it sounded so official. And I was doing it. And I had these massive idea, I would create this global network of thousands of women from all over the world and help to inspire them and connect them and just how to empower them to build successful businesses. I had no idea how I was going to do this.

And so then I was like right, I need to program my mind to make this happen. So I started by becoming consciously aware of all the things I was thinking of every day. And whenever I catch myself thinking something like, “Carrie, who is going to come to this website?” And — you give advice to anyone? “This is rubbish. No one is. This is ridiculous idea. You’re never going to be able to do it.”

Every time I call myself saying something like that, I would stop myself. And I realized I had the power to take control over my thoughts, rather than letting them control me. I knew that I could stop myself from thinking these things. And I did. And I replaced the negative, rubbish, annoying thoughts and told them to shut up. And I replaced them with positive thoughts that were empowering me. Thoughts that were actually helping me to move towards my goal.

I also started to listen to guided visualizations to program my subconscious mind for success. And I got really into doing visualizations. Vividly picturing what I wanted to achieve. Seeing it happen, and feeling it happen, like it was happening right then and there. Just like all the top athletes do.

I got so clear on why I wanted to make it happen, and since then, my life has totally changed. I thought one of the largest online networking groups of female entrepreneurs with over 100,000 women involved. And then I came up with this crazy idea to launch a digital magazine, which then became the fastest growing digital magazine for female entrepreneurs. And when I created it, I made a wish list to my mind of all the people I wanted on the front cover. These best-selling authors, these incredibly successful entrepreneurs. I had no idea how would make it happen but I was so convinced I would.

I then put the faces on the mock ups of the front cover, printed them off, stuck them on my goal board, and just visualized them being on the front cover, visualized what it would feel like the moment I would send out an email to my network. And I could say to them, “Hey, everyone, this person is on the front cover this month. How exciting!” I got so unbelievably clear about what I wanted to do and people would come up to me, and say, “Carrie, How are you going to make this happen?” I was like, “I don’t know. But I’m going to make it happen.”

And it did happen. So then I thought to myself. “What other crazy goals could I make it happen, what else is possible?” So I set more crazy goals to myself, I was like, “I want to go to Buckingham Palace. I want to go to the House of Lords. I want to speak at the House of Commons.” And I set more crazy goals to myself. And last year, every single one of them happened. And I realized that if I could get my mind to be certain that I could make something to happen. That somehow, I would figure out a way. And I always have. Because success is no accident. Living an incredible life is no accident. You have to do it on purpose. And it starts by knowing exactly what it is that you want to achieve. Knowing why you want to achieve it, knowing the kind of person that you need to become in order to make it happen. And then programming your mind to make it happen.

Because you just have one life, in which to achieve everything you are going to achieve. So you have to act accordingly.

Thank you so much.

 

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