Full text of cross-cultural psychologist Michele Gelfand’s talk titled “The Secret Life of Social Norms” at TEDxPaloAltoSalon conference. In this talk, Michele journeys through human cultures as she describes how tight and loose cultures wire our world.
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Michele Gelfand – Cross-cultural psychologist
For 30 years, I’ve been studying a fascinating puzzle. It’s omnipresent… but it’s invisible. We rarely recognize it. It’s distinctly human… No other species has it. It produces a lot of cooperation… but also a lot of conflict.
This puzzle is culture. Culture is a powerful force all around us, affecting everything from our politics to our parenting, for our nations, to our neurons. And we need to know more about it.
We’ve used our big brains to accomplish many technical feats. We’ve split the atom. We’ve mapped the human genome and we’ve even discovered the laws of gravity.
But what if we could discover the laws of culture, the secret codes that are driving our differences, then maybe we can create a better planet for us all.
Truth be told, I wasn’t always so interested in culture. I was a sheltered kid from Long Island with a classic new Yorker cartoon view of the world. There’s New York. We acknowledge there’s New Jersey, but then there’s basically rocks, the Pacific Ocean and the rest of the world.
This view of the world was challenged when I ventured off to the UK for a semester abroad. And I remember experiencing massive culture shock and calling my father and among other things, I was confiding with him, how puzzled I was that people were traveling from London to Paris or to Amsterdam just for the weekend.
And my dad in his quintessential Brooklyn accent said to me, it’s just like going from New York to Pennsylvania. And that metaphor gave me so much comfort that the very next day I booked a low budget trip to Egypt. I figured it just like going from New York to California. My dad was not very happy.
But in my travels around Egypt and rest of the world, I started to recognize how powerful this forces of culture. But I knew so little about it. And by extension, I knew so little about myself.
So I ditched my plans to become a medical doctor. And I got a PhD in cross-cultural psychology. I wanted to use the tools of science to understand these deeper cultural codes. Since that time I’ve been traveling the world, trying to understand lots of puzzling differences.
So for example, in Singapore, why are people fined for things like chewing gum or not flushing the toilet, or walking around their homes naked with the curtains open?
Go over to New Zealand in contrast, and you’ll see people walking barefoot in banks. You’ll see them decorating their fences with large quantities of bras. New Zealand is also the only place that I know that has its own national wizard. This guy here is actually a fired professor who went to the streets of New Zealand and was lecturing on everything from rugby to religion.
And rather being punished as a deviant, the prime minister asked him to be the official wizard of New Zealand, and he was charged with keeping the country entertained, which he did. He’s found building large nests on libraries and hatching himself from eggs in art museums.
Other puzzling trends can be seen all around the world. Why do Germans wait very patiently at street corners when there’s no cars in sight, when in New York or New Jersey, you see people jaywalking with great frequency, even with kids in tow.
In Germany, they’re also inventing other incentives to keep people staying put. It’s called street punk, and you might not be able to see it right away, but you see this guy here is playing a game of electric Ping-Pong on the street corner with the dude across the street. And actually this game tells them when the light is going to change.