Here is the full transcript of Mary Ann Sieghart’s talk titled “How to Close the Authority Gap” at TED conference.
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TRANSCRIPT:
At a conference a few years ago, a man asked me what I did, and I led a portfolio life, so I just rattled off a list, and I said, “Well, I write a political column for the independent newspaper, I make radio programmes for the BBC, I chair a think tank, I sit on a couple of commercial boards, I’m on the council of Tate Modern, and I am on the content board of Ofcom, our broadcasting regulator.”
To which he replied, “Wow, you’re a busy little girl.” I was about 50, older than our Prime Minister. Now, this is a classic example of what I call the Authority gap, the way we still take women less seriously than men.
The Authority Gap
We’re still more reluctant to accord authority to women. We still assume a man knows what he’s talking about until he proves otherwise, while for a woman it’s all too often the other way round. Research shows that men have six times more influence in group discussions than women. Women are twice as likely as men to say they have to provide evidence of their competence, or that people are surprised at their abilities.
And women of colour are much more likely than white women to say this. If you’re working class or disabled, the gap gets bigger still. Basically, the further we are from the white, male, middle-class default, the wider the authority gap is.
Now, I bet every woman listening has a tale to tell about being underestimated, ignored, patronised, interrupted or talked over, challenged, or mistaken for someone more junior, right?
Gender Disparity in High Positions
In fact, it doesn’t matter if you are a president of a country, the CEO of a huge corporation, or a justice of the US Supreme Court. Female justices get interrupted three times more than male ones, 96% of the time by men. If you still need proof, though, a great test is to talk to people who’ve lived as both a man and a woman, because they’re exactly the same person, with the same ability, intelligence, personality, experience. And if they’re treated quite differently after they transition, that must be because of their gender.
As scientists would say, we’ve controlled for all the other variables and isolated the only one that matters, whether they’re seen as male or female. Now while I was researching the authority gap, I came across two Stanford science professors who happened to transition at the same time in different directions. Ben Barres, who is a neuroscientist, was astonished by the difference it made to his life once he started living as a man. “I’ve had to thought a million times,” he said, “I’m taken more seriously.”
Personal Accounts of Gender Transition
An academic who didn’t know his history was overheard after one of his seminars saying, “Oh Ben Barres gave a great seminar today, but then his work’s much better than his sister’s.” Right? Meanwhile, Joan Roughgarden, who is an evolutionary biologist, told me that when she was still living as a man, she felt like she was on this conveyor belt to success. Her pay kept going up, she kept getting promoted, when she spoke, people listened.
Once she started living as a woman, all that changed. So she was interrupted, she was challenged, she was personally attacked. She’d make a point and no one took any notice until a man repeated it.
At first, she said, “I was amused. I thought, well, if women are discriminated against, I’m darn well going to be discriminated against the same way.” And then she said, “Well the thrill of that has worn off, I can tell you.” Her conclusion, like mine, was that men are assumed to be competent until they prove otherwise, women are assumed to be incompetent until they prove otherwise.
Benefits of Narrowing the Authority Gap
Now, obviously, I’d like to do something about this, but what’s in it for men? Well, one of the most encouraging things I found while researching the authority gap was that narrowing the gap isn’t like a seesaw in which, as women rise, men just automatically fall. I mean, there might be the odd occasion when, if you’re a man in direct competition with a woman and the bias against her is dissolved, she might just beat you on merit.
But in almost every aspect of your life, greater gender equality is likely to make you happier, healthier, and more satisfied. There’s been some fascinating academic research showing that both in more gender-equal countries and US states, and in more equal, straight relationships, not only are the women happier and healthier, which you’d expect, less resentful, less exhausted, they feel more part of a team, and the children are happier and healthier, they do better at school, they get on much better with their dads, they have fewer behavioural difficulties.
But more surprisingly, perhaps, the men themselves are happier and healthier. So they’re twice as likely to say they’re satisfied with their lives, half as likely to be depressed, they tend to smoke less, drink less, sleep better, take fewer drugs, and here’s the absolute clincher: they get more frequent and better sex.
Taking Action to Close the Gap
So if it’s in all our interests, what can we do to close the authority gap? Well, I counted the other day, I’ve come up with 140 solutions. You’ll be glad to hear I’m not going to share them all with you today, but I’m just going to leave you with a few ideas to take away.
Now, I’m always asked, “Okay, so what should women do?” But it’s not women we need to fix, right? It’s how we all perceive and react to and interact with women.
We need to make changes to ourselves, to our workplaces, and to the world around us. Now, even women are biased against other women.
A few years ago, in Britain, we had a female leader of a political party who had a high voice and sounded almost childish. And when she came on the radio, I’d find it quite hard to take her seriously. But as soon as I had that reflex reaction, I’d say to myself, “Stop it, listen to the content of what she’s saying, and don’t judge her by the pitch of her voice.” We all need to notice when our brains are trying to trick us like that.
It can also help to flip things round, to ask ourselves, “Hmm, would I have thought that or said that or done that if this person had been a man rather than a woman? Would I have mistaken that male CEO for his assistant? Or would I have called a 50-year-old man a busy little boy?” I don’t think so.
When we’re at work, we can actively affirm what a woman says, as long as it’s interesting. Research shows that even if women make up 40% of a group, they’re half as likely as men to gain approval from it, and much more likely to be interrupted. If Evie makes a point at a meeting and no one takes a blind bit of notice until Peter repeats it 10 minutes later and it’s treated like the second coming, we can say to Peter, “Oh, I’m so glad you agree with what Evie said earlier.” If Peter interrupts Rosa, we can say, “Hang on a minute, I was really interested in what Rosa was saying there.”
Employer Responsibilities
And what can employers do? Well, the first thing they must do is to make sure that they genuinely are hiring and promoting on merit. One study found that 70% of men will rate a man more highly than a woman for achieving exactly the same goals. Women with exactly the same qualifications as men are 30% less likely to be called for a job interview. If you have only one woman on a short list, the chances of appointing her are vanishingly small, because it’s telling us that men are the natural holders of this job, and that appointing a woman would be risky.
Adding just one more woman to the short list makes the odds of hiring a woman 79 times greater. Now, companies or employers can also actively encourage talented women to apply for promotion, because we are socialised to be less confident and less self-promoting than men. And if we do act confidently, people often don’t like it, and they start calling us words like strident or pushy.
I was caricatured for years in Britain’s satirical Private Eye magazine as Mary-Anne Bighead, just because I tried to seem as confident as my male colleagues. And that’s why it’s really important not to fall for the confidence trick, to mistake confidence for competence, because they’re absolutely not the same thing.
An academic paper unusually entitled “Bullshitters: Who Are They and What Do We Know About Their Lives,” found that teenage boys are significantly more likely than girls to pretend to understand mathematical concepts that didn’t even exist. And this relative male overconfidence persists into adulthood.
The Role of Media in Closing the Gap
So if we take overconfident men at their word, we’re going to be much more likely to hire or promote them, even if they’re nothing like as competent as their female rivals. Now, representation matters everywhere, but one place that could really make a dent in the authority gap is the media. Because if it’s sending us the signal that men are more authoritative, more expert, more important than women, that’s just going to confirm our biases. At the moment, men are three times more likely to be quoted in news stories than women, and twice as likely to be the protagonists in movies.
Now, the BBC has recently made a push to have 50% female experts on air. And I think that could make a real difference for the next generation. Because once we get used to seeing women as authorities in public, we’re going to find it much easier to accord them equal authority in our daily lives. So let’s work together to close the authority gap.
Conclusion
We’ll all be happier and healthier, we’ll get more sex, and the world will be a better place. As Mary McAleese, the former president of Ireland, put it to me so eloquently, “If men don’t take women equally seriously, then we end up with this world that flies on one wing. And that’s our world flapping about rather sadly, because of the refusal to use the elevation and the direction and the confidence that comes from flying on two wings.” We have to understand that when women flourish, and their talents and their creativity flourish, then the world flourishes, and men flourish. We all flourish. Thank you.
SUMMARY OF THIS TALK:
Mary Ann Sieghart’s enlightening talk, “How to Close the Authority Gap,” addresses the pervasive issue of women being taken less seriously than men, highlighting how this disparity affects women’s influence and authority in various professional and social settings. She shares personal anecdotes and research findings to illustrate the extent of the gap, such as women being interrupted more frequently and needing to prove their competence more than men.
Sieghart points out that the authority gap is even wider for women of color, those from working-class backgrounds, or those with disabilities. The talk also touches on the unique insights gained from individuals who have experienced life as both genders, shedding light on the stark differences in treatment and perception. Sieghart proposes that closing the gap benefits everyone, not just women, by improving happiness, health, and overall life satisfaction across genders.
She offers practical suggestions for individuals and employers to challenge biases and change behaviors, emphasizing the importance of valuing competence over confidence. The talk is a call to action for society to work together to eradicate the authority gap, thereby creating a more equitable and flourishing world for all.