“Copy & Paste’ – Hidden Asperger’s Girls with Aspergers: Niamh McCann (Transcript)

Niamh McCann – TEDx Talk TRANSCRIPT

What do you think when you hear this phrase: “He bent over backwards”? Or this: “She was on the ball”?

What you probably didn’t imagine was this. Or maybe this. The English language is full of colorful expressions, metaphors, slang, and we use these in the conversations that we have every day.

For 99% of the population, it’s a comfortable means of communication. For the remaining 1%, however, all that colorfulness is not only uncomfortable, but extremely confusing.

And not only because people bend over backwards or are on the ball, but because a simple wink can have different meanings in different contexts.

And sometimes, a friend will say something to another friend which sounds like an insult, but it makes them laugh instead of cry. Who are these people who see funny pictures of flexible men or who can’t understand sarcasm?

These people have a condition called Asperger’s syndrome, which is a type of high-functioning autism.

Now usually, when I say “autism” and I ask people what they understand by it, they tell me it looks something like this, your quirky genius type, stimming, bouncing, flapping, rocking, or my personal favorite: restricted interests.

Yes, it is true that there are people with Asperger’s who display these traits. It is also true that these are only stereotypes and a small part of the entire picture.

If Asperger’s were as easy to spot as this, then there would be no problem at all in diagnosing it. Unfortunately, Asperger’s, like life, is far more complicated. And if you’re a girl with Asperger’s, things get even more tricky because all the diagnostic tools that professionals use were designed to spot Asperger’s in boys.

Now, this gender bias leaves thousands of Asperger girls undiagnosed, unsupported, sometimes even after they’ve taken the test. My younger brother was diagnosed as being on the spectrum when he was three and a half.

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His autism was obvious, or stereotypical. He was late to talk, he bounced and flapped his hands, and he wouldn’t make eye contact. My parents took him to get an assessment done. Within two months, he was diagnosed, and the proper supports were put in place to help him.

Fast-forward eight years, and he’s doing just great. And then, there was me. I didn’t bounce, I didn’t flap. I was a shy but diligent student, I got good grades and I didn’t cause trouble.

But what I did do was hide under the table and cover my ears at lunchtime because the noise of my chatting peers was too much for me to cope with. I was quiet, I let others make up the rules of the games we played, and I shared my sparkly pens when no one else would.

And it took 14 years for anyone to notice that I was struggling, desperately. For many high-functioning girls, it takes even longer. Why is this? Shouldn’t our confusion around other people be obvious to our teachers, our friends, let alone our parents?

And what I find is that there is a very simple, if unfortunate, reason for this. It’s because of something we do to cope. We do it subconsciously, but it results in us camouflaging our autistic traits, and it is called “masking”.

Asperger girls are usually bright and sensitive, and when we’re younger, we use these qualities to achieve a kind of superficial social competence. Like detectives, we watch, and we listen, and we try to make sense of the things people do and why they do them. It’s a hard job. It’s exhausting.

We work both day and night shifts. The clues often lead us wrong. But we don’t have any other choice, because it’s our means of coping in a world which is so socially confusing to us.

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