Full text of lifestyle blogger CeCe Olisa’s talk: How to Build Self Confidence at TEDx Fresno State conference.
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CeCe Olisa – Co-Founder of the CURVYcon
Each morning, I look in the mirror and I tell myself one thing to boost my confidence:
“Don’t wait on your weight to live the life you want.”
My name is CeCe Olisa, I co-founded the CURVYcon, a plus-size fashion convention during New York fashion week. I’m also a lifestyle influencer, which basically means I share my life with thousands of people on the internet.
Growing up, I always wanted to be on stage – dance, theaters, singing… I loved it all. It takes confidence to go out on stage and perform, but luckily for me, there was no shortage of love and validation in my family.
I like to think of confidence as a big red balloon that can either soar or deplete. My parents had the challenge of raising three daughters and making sure that each of our competence balloons with sky high and full. they did a great job.
Baby CeCe had a soaring competence balloon until around elementary school. I was the only Nigerian girl in my class, but that wasn’t a problem. I was significantly taller than the other girls. And instead of long, straight hair, I had big kinky natural hair, but those things weren’t a problem either. The problem was my body.
According to the national report on self-esteem 98% of girls feel that there is an immense pressure from external sources to look a certain way. In elementary school, a teacher pulled my mom aside to let her know that while I was a good dancer, I would not be allowed in our school’s elite dance group because I didn’t have a dancer’s body. For the first time my confidence balloon lost a little bit of air.