Full transcript of mediator and author Larry C. Rosen’s TEDx Talk: The Secret to Understanding Humans @ TEDxsalinas conference.
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Larry C. Rosen – Mediator/Attorney
Is it possible to understand everyone at a deep and meaningful level, to get what really matters to people, no matter how different they are from you? That proposition sounds a little absurd.
After all, human psychology is really complex. Some people are abused as children, others are loved and supported.
The brain of an 18-year-old girl who sleeps with her cell phone is different than an 80-year-old man who can’t remember the names of his children.
There’s no one way to understand everyone, no broad operating principle. That’s the conventional wisdom, it makes perfect sense, and yet, it’s a myth.
A few years ago, I was watching TV, scenes from Afghanistan. A group of teenage boys was standing in the back of a dusty pickup, waving rifles, and one boy wrapped in a white cloth, with dazzling blue-green eyes, was staring directly into the camera.
He looked intent, menacing, and that was the point of the piece: we should be afraid because young men were passionate about killing Americans.
Let me tell you about another boy: my nephew, Rory. At the time I saw this piece, Rory was a freshman in college, at Harvard. But Rory is not full of himself. In a word, he’s sweet. He’s not a hugger, but he’ll always hug me because he knows that I am.