Following is the full text of parenting coach Lisa Bunnage’s TEDx Talk: The Unsexy Truth, The Hookup Culture at TEDxSFU.
As a parenting coach, I get to talk to a lot of troubled teenagers.
About six years ago, I had a really interesting conversation with a 16-year-old girl, who was on the phone – this is me with the phone by the way – and it was a coaching session; it was on a Monday.
I said, “Hi sweetie, how are you doing?”
And she says, “I’m doing OK.”
I said, “That’s good, how was your weekend?”
She said, “It was OK. I partied and the usual I drank a bit, and I met a new guy.”
“Oh! What’s he like?”
“He’s OK. I didn’t really like him that much, so I wouldn’t let him kiss me.”
“Good for you. I’m really proud of you!”
“So, I just gave him a blow job instead.”
True story, true story. I always say that I could never be shocked because I’ve heard everything, but that was the first time I’ve ever heard anything quite like that.
I was really glad it wasn’t Skype and that she didn’t see my reaction. It’s really good when you work from home: you don’t care what you look like, so I don’t like it when a client says, “Can we do a video Skype?” Oh, geez, anyway.