Following is the full text of author Jill Sherer Murray’s TEDx Talk titled “The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go” at TEDxWilmingtonWomen conference.
In this talk, Jill recounts her story of love, loss and new life, and shares the 5 Steps she took to change what didn’t work and make welcome what she desired in her life and relationships.
Listen to the MP3 audio version here:
Jill Sherer Murray – Author & Speaker
Letting go can make you unstoppable. I know because I let go of a relationship and reclaimed my life.
And I know that letting go can create the best of change for each and every one of you. Let me tell you a story.
When I was 41, the death of a relationship showed me how to truly let go of what wasn’t working.
See, up until that time, I didn’t really think about the future. I kind of lived my life like a dog – moment to moment. I chased balls, I ate whatever I could find on the ground. And life was good.
I had a great job, great friends, a great apartment, a great actual dog, and a great boyfriend. Well, sort of.
See, Hector didn’t have any skin in the game, and I felt that. He danced around the very idea of marriage, and after 12 years, we didn’t even live together. Still, he gave me hope. Well, sometimes.
More like living in a situation that had no hope just felt normal. Don’t get me wrong. I stayed because Hector was a good looking, smart, reliable, and sensitive guy who cared, and while our relationship wasn’t perfect, it worked in theory.