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Why We Fear And Hold Back From What We Want: Stuti Singh (Transcript)

Here is the full transcript of Stuti Singh’s talk titled “Why We Fear And Hold Back From What We Want” at TEDxSevenoaks 2021 conference.

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Every once in a while, something big happens that changes our lives forever. But if we look carefully, the life-changing moments come to us every day. And one such small but significant and rather embarrassing moment happened to me a few years ago. I was at a leadership development workshop.

I was hard at work in a group task with three other people. We’d been going all day. We’d been given a task that we had to complete by the end of the day. And I’d been working hard.

I’d been concentrating really hard until I started to realize my concentration was waning. Something else was grabbing my attention. Nature was calling me quite urgently, and I needed to go. So what did I do?

Well, I crossed my legs, I sat there, and I held it, and I carried on. There was a slight glitch with this plan, though, because soon I realized I just couldn’t hold it anymore. So then I did the natural thing.

Asking Others to Take a Break

I looked to the lady on my left and said, “Would you like to go to the toilet? I can come with you.” And she looked back at me and said, “No, I’m okay for now.” Darn, that didn’t go according to plan. But not one to give up, I turned to the gentleman on my right and said, “We’ve been going a long time. You must be tired. Should we take a quick break?” And he looked back at me and said, “No, I’m good to carry on. Thank you.”

Oh, dear. In one last desperate attempt, I looked straight across at the man opposite me, and probably with rather watery eyes by now, and said to him, “Would you like to go get a drink? If we leave now, we can be back in a few minutes.” And he looked back at me, said nothing for a moment. He gave me this really strange look. And then he looked me straight in the eye and said, “If you need to go to the loo, why don’t you just say you need to go to the loo?”

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