Tom Bilyeu: Hey everybody. Welcome to Impact Theory!
With everything going on in the world right now, we all need to make sure that we’re taking the time to prioritize our own self-care. So on this special episode of Impact Theory, we’ve gathered self-care tips from some of our incredible guests to help you guys incorporate these practices into your own life.
So get ready to prioritize YOU – with our first guest the one and only Les Brown.
Les Brown – Connect with Yourself
Les Brown: The easiest thing I’ve done was to get out from under the labels and to live the life that I live. The most difficult thing I’ve ever done was to believe that I can do it.
Tom Bilyeu: What’s the difference?
Les Brown: The difference is that when you don’t know what’s impacting you and it’s something that’s holding you down and you’re not aware of it. The great anthropologist Margaret Mead was at a restaurant in London. And a guy was serving her and said ‘There’re several Americans here, tonight!’
And she said, ‘Is that right?’
‘Let me know when you serve them dessert, I’ll tell you exactly how many are here,’
He said, ‘Oh you couldn’t possibly!’
And so he came back and said, ‘Okay, I’ve done it!’
And she got up and she walked around and she came back and she said, ‘They’re around 25, here.’
And he looked at the roster, ‘How did you know that?’
‘In America, we eat differently from you when we eat a dessert. You eat it from the crust toward the tip; we eat it from the tip toward the crust.”
When you eat a slice of pie, how do you eat yours?
Tom Bilyeu: I definitely have it from the tip back to the crust, for sure.
Les Brown: Yeah okay. In my situation, when you live in a dominant culture that is designed to destroy your sense of self and your belief in yourself. And you have to learn ways in which you can begin to connect with this power that you have within yourself to handle where you are. The key is to be constantly in a perpetual process of discovering the truth of who you are and fighting constantly to look for ways in which you can escape the inner conversation.
I speak to audiences around the world around and I’ve trained speakers as well. And I tell them that when you speak that — there’s an objective that you want to achieve when you speak to an audience — because how people live their lives is a result of the story they believe about themselves. So you as a speaker when you speak, when people see you, what you do is Distract, Dispute and Inspire!’
You distract people from their current story, with your guests and the questions that you ask, through the process of the ongoing questioning. And the way in which they respond and the things they have learned you dismantle their current belief system and inspire them to create a new chapter with their lives.
And so, but that’s an ongoing process of constantly interrupting that conversation. What psychologists call you ‘Self-explanatory’ style! Because life is going to beat up on you in so many ways. And many things they come back – negative thoughts and how you feel about yourself. They don’t die. They come back once you stop doing the maintenance work on your mind.
Kelly McGonigal – Be Active
Tom Bilyeu: So why is movement specifically so important to mental well-being?
Kelly McGonigal: I almost don’t even know where to begin with this. I mean you can start with the data. If you just look at the data around the world, every country you can imagine that it has been studied in, every age group, every health status, every gender, every socioeconomic status – people who are more physically active are:
- They have better relationships
- They’ve more meaning in life
- They’re less at risk for things like depression and loneliness
If you go further than just sort of that kind of epidemiology and you look at how movement affects the brain and how movement affects mental health… It’s as if humans were born to move. And when we are physically active, it puts us in a state of not just body, but of mind to be the best version of ourselves.
You know, everything from the neurochemistry of the runner’s high which makes us enjoy cooperating with other people more, and gives us hope and optimism. All the way to how, if you are regularly active you have a different brain and nervous system than people who don’t exercise. You have a brain and a nervous system that are more sensitive to pleasure and more resilient to stress.
I could literally just talk for the next hour listing the many ways but I think that the biggest takeaway is that human beings as individuals and as a species, we thrive when we are active. That our brains aren’t just housed in bodies like it’s a suitcase that’s carrying our brains around. Our brains really work best when we are in bodies that are active.
Tom Bilyeu: You actually talk about in the book how it’s quite possible that the very reason we developed large brains was to move. Give us some of the science behind that. One thing that I found in my own life was once I could understand the biological mechanisms, once I knew why things were the way that they were, it became easier not to be a slave to it. Then I sort of understood my sense of agency within the meatsuit, as it were.
So where does the hypothesis that our brains were created to move us come from?
Kelly McGonigal: Yeah. This is an idea that I feel like you can’t even explain it. This is an idea that if you look at the structure and the function of the brain, everything that humans do other than think is a form of movement. You know, communicating language, emotion expressions, labor, finding food, celebration, procreation. It’s all a physical action.
And the idea is basically other than think and ruminate and plan, that there is no other reason to have a brain except to interact with the world. And even like thinking is subservient to our ability to engage with the world.
And so basically we have a brain that scaffolds every type of interaction we have with the world which is movement. And I think it’s not even like a fancy idea. That just is true.