Full text of Paul Washer’s sermon titled ‘A Young Man’s Attitude Towards Women’ – Biblical Manhood Part 3
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Paul Washer – Founder of HeartCry Missionary Society
Yesterday night we finished by determining what a young man must be in order to even begin to think about someone of the opposite sex and entering into a relationship with them. Again, it is something that you earn. It is not yours by some right of privilege. You have to earn this. When you’re awakened to the beauty of the opposite sex, you’re awakened to the desire to have a relationship, then you begin to prepare. You make yourself a man. And you do that primarily by studying the Scriptures, by imitating Jesus Christ, by growing in integrity.
And again, let me say this, one of the most terrifying things for a man is to take to himself a daughter of God. Because God loves His daughter.
Now, before we go on, let me just say something that is very, very important. It may sound kind of just too simple, but you need to hear it. It’s this, you do not treat a girl like you do one of your friends who’s male. I don’t care if you think she’s your best friend in the world, you do not treat her like you would a boy, like you would a man.
And another thing, guys, what are you doing? I know a lot of guys who say, well, my best friend is this girl. What on earth are you doing? That’s wrong. It’s just flat out wrong.
You say, why is it wrong? Here’s something you need to understand. A girl does not listen to what you say. She listens or she looks at what you do. You can tell her all day long, you are just friends. She is not going to believe you if you keep coming around. And even though you probably cannot see it, if she’s still around you and hanging around you as a friend, it’s because that’s the best that she can do right now. And she’s hoping your sentiments toward her will change. You are doing wrong.
When I talked about you enter into a relationship with someone of the opposite sex, you enter into a relationship with a girl, that there is an emotional bond there that’s never going to be erased even if there’s no physical contact, well, it’s even more so for her.
When you are around girls, you treat them with the utmost dignity even though it might even be offensive to them. I mean, honestly. I want to tell you something, we live in an age where I discern many times when I’m in certain situations in the street or whatever, going on a campus, being in a high school, walking through a mall, what has happened to the feminine gender is frightening. The horrible things that I’ve heard them say, the spirit that they carry, many times it’s more dangerous, it’s more frightening than even what you see in young men.
I’m telling you guys, our culture is just totally messed up so that the ideas of purity, innocence, chaseness are just out the window. It’s mocked. Not just among guys. It’s mocked among girls.
But, you are to be different. You are to treat girls completely different. You do not wrestle with them. You do not play with them. You do not punch them. You do not grab them. You do not yell at them. You do not talk to them the way that you may roughhouse around another guy.
God’s will is that you demonstrate the utmost respect and you afford them dignity even if they do not even care. You know, I was teaching in Europe last year and a bunch of girls came into the auditorium and kind of European techno-punk type stuff and pretty wild. And I tell you, my heart went out for them because you could tell immediately they didn’t have a father. And it was a lot of them there.