Here is the full transcript of American Buddhist nun Gen Kelsang Nyema’s TEDx Talk: Happiness is All in Your Mind at TEDxGreenville 2014 Conference.
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Gen Kelsang Nyema – American Buddhist nun
All right, my friends. Hello.
So I want to start off with a few questions. And I know a lot of other presenters have already asked you questions, and they’ve been kind of hard questions. But the questions I’m going to ask you are very, very simple. And I promise you’ll be able to answer these.
All right, are you ready? For your first one? Okay. Your first questions is — you don’t have to answer out loud: Are you having a good day? Okay, got your answer? All right.
My second question for you is: Why? If you’re having a good day, why are you having a good day? Or if you’re having a bad day, why are you having a bad day?
So I have one more question for you. This should be the easiest one of all. My last question is: Tomorrow, would you rather have a good day, or would you rather have a bad day? Do you have your answer for that one? What about the day after tomorrow? What about Sunday? Let’s see. Yeah, that’s right. Tomorrow’s Saturday. Sunday. How about Monday? Would you like to have a good day or a bad day on Monday? Tuesday? Wednesday? Thursday? Friday? This time next week? A good day or a bad day?
So that last question, like I said, is probably the easiest one for us to answer, because we know the answer to that, don’t we? We want to have a good day, everyday. Did anyone in the room answer, “Yes, I want to have a bad day on Monday”? Of course, not. We all want to have a good day everyday.
So this is really speaking to the type of happiness that we all wish for in our heart of hearts. We have a good day when we’re happy, and we want to be happy everyday. There’s never a day when we don’t want to be happy.
But whether or not we have good days or bad days really depends upon how we answered the second question. Do you remember the second question? What was the second question? “Why?” Why am I having a good day? Why am I having a bad day? So one thing that my teacher says — his name is Geshe Kelsang Gyatso — and he says that, “Much of the time our mind is like a balloon in the wind, blown here and there by external circumstances.” Do you know that feeling?
He says when things are going well, when they’re going our way, we feel happy. But then if something goes wrong, for example, he says, “If we’re forced to work with a colleague that we dislike,” but I’m sure none of you have colleagues you dislike, right? He says if we’re forced to work with someone we dislike, or if something doesn’t go our way, then our happy feeling disappears.
So as long as our answer to the question “why am I having a good day?”, or “why am I having a bad day?” Because you know, this is a question people ask us like, maybe when you get home today, someone will go, “So how was that TED thing?” “Did you have a good day?” And we’ll say, “Yeah, I did.” “There’s this lady, and she talked to us about how we need to be compassionate towards former inmates, and there’s this performer who did this awesome beat-boxing thing with his mouth, you know, this person, and that person.” As long as our reasons for why we had a good day are a list of external conditions, then we’re not going to have this stable happiness that we all want. Does that make sense to you?