How to Get Healthy Without Dieting: Darya Rose (Full Transcript)

Here is the full transcript of neuroscientist Darya Rose’s talk titled “How to Get Healthy Without Dieting” at TEDxSalem conference.

Darya Rose – TEDx Talk TRANSCRIPT

I started my first diet when I was eleven years old, sixth grade. I wasn’t overweight or anything close to it, but I came into the kitchen before school one morning, and my mom was making herself a chocolate milkshake for breakfast.

If you can remember being eleven, you can imagine how awesome that sounded. When she told me it was a diet shake that was supposed to help her lose weight, I thought that was even better.

Even though I was just a child, I had internalized enough of the early ’90s supermodel culture to know that being thin was a good thing.

My mom agreed to share her SlimFast with me, and 15 years later, I was still struggling every day to be happy with food and with myself.

During that time, I tried every diet that crossed my path. In high school, I wouldn’t touch a food if it had a single gram of fat.

In college, carbs were the forbidden fruit – literally. I’ve eaten more cabbage soup, grapefruit halves and boneless, skinless chicken breasts than any human ever should.

And I have to say, all these diets worked. I mean, I lost that same 10 pounds at least 20 times. So I know how seductive diets are.

I know how good it feels to work hard at something and have everyone tell you how great you look.

But I also know the heartbreak that comes from trying to relax just a little and having your cheat day turn into a cheat week and then a cheat month, leaving you worse off than where you started, only with an extra layer of shame and misery that come with failure.

Restrictive diets can work amazingly well, but only for a short period of time. In the long run, which it turns out is what most of us actually care about, diets make losing weight and getting healthy harder – not easier.

Diets create bad habits, they instill a scarcity mindset around food that often leads to bingeing, and they can even permanently alter your metabolism for the worse. They’re not awesome.

So what should you do instead?

They’re rare, but there are people who manage to lose weight and keep it off indefinitely without dieting. Members of the National Weight Control Registry have lost at least 30 pounds and kept it off for at least a year, but on average, they’ve lost 66 pounds and kept it off for over five years.

What’s their secret? They’ve each adopted a personalized pattern of healthy habits that works for them. The cliché thing to say is that they’ve built a healthy lifestyle. And in fact, this is the only method that seems to consistently help people lose weight and stay healthy.

The problem, the reason most people aren’t able to do this is that making this elusive lifestyle change is actually really hard. But it isn’t impossible, and I believe more people could do it if they knew how to best use their time and energy.

Today, I’m going to give you three ways to do this.

First, the new habits you want to create need to be intrinsically enjoyable, not simply doable or tolerable.

One of the biggest mistakes we make when trying to build healthy habits is choosing activities we don’t actually like, like pushing our workouts way beyond our fitness level or eating flavorless foods because they’re supposed to be healthy.

This approach works in direct opposition to how your brain forms habits and is never sustainable.

For a habit to form, you need a cue or reminder: something that you can see or hear or feel, like the smell of fresh brewing coffee. This creates a desire in you to take a certain action, like getting a cup of coffee.

And you do this action because you anticipate some kind of reward or satisfaction, like that warm tasty beverage and that little hit of energy that comes with it.

Without that feeling of satisfaction, the cue is never reinforced and the behavior never becomes automatic. And if it isn’t automatic, it isn’t a real habit.

So what does it mean that it needs to be intrinsically enjoyable?

This means that the thing you enjoy, the reward, needs to be a property of the activity itself. So you shouldn’t start rewarding yourself for going for a run by watching an extra hour of TV before bed. It’s not going to cut it.

In fact, these extrinsic rewards, rewards that are not directly linked to the activity, have been shown to undermine motivation in the long run by turning something that you might have actually enjoyed into a chore that you can now talk yourself out of.

So you need to like the activity itself. That is your reward.

In my own case, this meant falling in love with the farmers market. I had no idea that simple foods like carrots, cucumbers and tomatoes could taste so much better than the ones I’d been buying my entire life at the grocery store.

I have even started to love foods I used to hate, like beets and Brussels sprouts. All of a sudden, I was excited to learn to cook. Something I’d had zero interest in for my entire life.

Almost overnight, healthy eating became my joy, my defaults and a lifelong new identity. This is what an intrinsically enjoyable habit looks and feels like.

Okay, so what if you don’t like to run? Don’t. Choose a different activity that you do enjoy to get yourself moving.

What if all activity feels a little daunting because you’re out of shape? Start smaller. Choose something less strenuous that is enjoyable, like an evening stroll around the block. Don’t worry about how many calories it burns. Worry about starting a habit that you like.

The second part of your new strategy is cultivating awareness around your thoughts, actions and emotions. The buzzword for this is mindfulness.

The reason mindfulness is so important is that your current habits occur virtually automatically. Remember this is a defining characteristic of habits. You go through your day on autopilot, and before you know it, you’re in front of your computer munching on some chips you grabbed in the break room.

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