Here is the full transcript of author and life coach Tony Robbins on How To Train Your Brain To Stay Focused.
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Tony Robbins – Author & Life coach
Today’s whole program is based on the power of focus. We, if you recall, in our last session, we’re talking about how to really direct our states of mind and emotion.
We said that everything that we really want in our lives, no matter what it is, whether it be family or friends or relationship or money or business success or acknowledgement, all those things, the only reason we want them is what we think we’ll get out of them which is a state change, a certain level of feeling within ourselves.
We also found out in our last tape that all emotions, every feeling we have is the result of how we use our body. That emotions literally are nothing but physiological storms in our brains, if you will. And that we learn that by using our bodies in certain ways, by using our voice, our gestures, our breathing, our facial expressions, we could radically change our states. And we also talked about the idea, if you recall, of measuring our states.
Where are we on a scale from zero to 10? 10 being absolutely empowered, unstoppable, passionate, zero being dead, and noticing are we at the appropriate level for what we want to accomplish? And that for most cases, not all in life, but most, wouldn’t it be nice to live at level eight, nine or 10 or above on a consistent basis? How much more juice would you have?
And so, you develop some exercises in discovering how to move your body, not like me, not like somebody else, but like you do when you really are feeling absolutely excellent.
Today, what we want to do is take on the second way we can manage our states. And the second way to change your state at any moment in time as quickly as you can think it is to control and direct the focus of your mind. What do I mean by that? Well, think about this. The only experience that you have of life comes in two forms, what you’re physically feeling because of the condition and use of your body at that moment.
In other words, if you got physical pain, that’s obviously going to affect your state There’s some kind of tension, for example Or if you haven’t had any sleep, that’s certainly going to affect your state as well. Or if you’ve eaten something that’s blown your blood sugar sky-high, then obviously that’s going to affect your emotional states as well. The only other thing that really controls your state is what are you paying attention to right now at this moment? I mean, let’s take an example.
Have you ever had a headache? Maybe even a massive headache that you thought there was no way it would ever go away? You were in really deep pain? Now, what do you do? Well, most people go get an aspirin. What if instead, have you ever had it happen where somebody asked you a question, or something needed to be done, or something required your total focus somewhere else outside of yourself and whammo, immediately, the pain disappeared.
In fact, you forgot about it. And later on when you thought about it, you noticed your headache was gone. Haven’t you had that happen at least once or twice in your life? Now, how did you do that? See, my whole life has been studying what makes people successful? If someone’s able to do something, if they’re able to get rapport with somebody else, if they’re able to create the results they want physically in their life that is, lose weight, feel energized, if they’re able to create the relationships that they really desire, if they’re able to feel as good as they ever wanted to feel, I want to know how did they do that?
And so, I began to study how could somebody get rid of a headache that quickly so we wouldn’t be dependent on some drug like aspirin or Tylenol or anything else? And I began to realize that what it was is we changed our mental focus and that whatever we’re experiencing in our body really comes from what we’re paying attention to.
That’s what really determines how you feel, and of course, how you feel determines usually how you’re going to be behaved. Doesn’t that make sense? And when you’re feeling really lousy, you don’t usually do really well. And I know there are exceptions, but those exceptions are because you control your focus. You don’t focus on feeling lousy. You focus on what’s got to be done.
There is tremendous power in controlling the focus of your mind. Now, what do I mean by this specifically? Well, there are two things we can control in terms of focus. We can control what we’re focusing on, that is, what we’re picturing in our mind, what we’re saying to ourselves, what we’re paying attention to in our physical body, or we can control how we’re focusing. How we’re focusing means let’s say the dimension of the pictures in our mind, the brightness of the colors in our head. The volume of our sounds.
If we change how we’re paying attention to things, not just what, it radically changes our state as well. Let me give you an example. Pretend for a moment that your brain is a camera, and you go to a party. How are you gonna feel at that party? Well, the only thing you’re gonna have feelings about are the things you focus on. I mean, in that room, literally, there are almost unlimited number of activities and probably emotions and conversations and things that are going on.
But, your experience of that party is based on what that camera focuses on. Now, if it focuses on two people that are fighting, and that’s what it focuses on for the entire party, you would leave that party saying “Oh, that party was really intense. I mean, people were really upset with each other.” If your focus was on two people in love who were maybe kissing passionately, and say, “Wow, that party was really moving. I mean, those people were really connected.”
If your focus was on some people that were really boring or bored, you’d say, “Oh, nobody really enjoyed that party.” Here’s the problem. The problem is your camera, that is the focus that you have, does not usually take in everything simultaneously. Your conscious mind can’t. There are only so many things you can consciously focus on.
I mean, think about how many things right now you are not paying attention to that are happening at this moment. There’s the blood pulsating through your right ear. You may not have even paid attention to it. Now that I mention it, you might focus on it. There’s the beat of your heart. Were you even noticing that until I mentioned it?
There’s the feel of maybe some air coming from an air conditioning maybe if you’re nearby, or there’s the heat on your skin. Or there’s the blinking of your eyes. There are unlimited number of things that are happening right now.
But see, here’s the thing about human beings. Since we can’t focus on everything and consciously perceive it all, what most of us do is we become what I call deletion creatures.
What do I mean? I mean that most of the time most of us delete, that is we fail to pay attention to or we ignore most of what’s going on around us at any moment in time. So, what’s the price of all this deletion? Well, the price is we walk around believing or hallucinating might be a better word that our experience with the world is real.