6 Ways To Be Incredibly Happy Every Day: Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani

Oscar Wilde once said, “Life is too important to be taken seriously.” The question Kristina raises here is simply, “Do you know what is happiness?”

In this talk from Mindvalley University City Campus in Tallinn 2018, Kristina Mänd Lakhiani talks about the one topic often discussed in personal growth but rarely addressed in everyday conversations.

The following is full transcript of Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani’s, co-founder of Mindvalley speech.

Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani –  TRANSCRIPT

  1. GRATITUDE

Gratitude is a beautiful example of long-term strategy over instant gratification, because the thing is that when you express gratitude, you do feel a little bit better. But generally it doesn’t make you feel euphoric, ecstatic, joyful. It just makes you feel a little bit better; it shifts your perspective.

But the thing is that there is a research that shows that if you express gratitude on a daily basis for 30 days, your perception of your own happiness goes up 25%. And that’s exactly what I’m talking about. We have to look into long-term strategies which may be in the instant are not as effective but in the long-term they help you raise your set points of happiness.

And you express gratitude for the things that you are grateful for in your work life, your mission, your purpose, in your personal life and for the things that you’re grateful for in yourself.

So this is the exercise we do on a daily basis to raise our set point of happiness.

  1. BEING PRESENT

Another methodology which I really love is the idea of being present. And the idea here is that in reality time is an illusion. There is no future, and there is no past. And most of the unpleasant emotions that we feel they have something to do with either the future or the past. If we’re scared, if we’re stressed, it is usually because we are afraid about something that might happen in the future, usually.

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And if we feel, let’s say, resentment or anger, this kind of negative emotion is also usually rooted in the past. And the happiness is the emotion that you feel in the present. If you move happiness to the future, it will become excitement. If you move happiness to the past, it will become usually nostalgia. But the truth is that the happiness, the true pure joy, is in the present moment and only in the present moment.

So if you practice consciousness and bringing yourself back to present moment, that actually over time works wonders. You start — your set point of happiness starts going up. You walk out into the nature and you feel the freshness of the air. That’s the moment to be happy about, because how many times we don’t even notice how we breathe, what we see around us. And when we see these things around us, if we don’t bring ourselves back to the now to notice, the life might just pass by without us truly learning what is happiness.

  1. RELATIONSHIPS

You know in personal growth we have the idea that transformation starts with taking on personal responsibility onto yourself. And there is this beautiful thing that says that we don’t need anyone for happiness. Happiness is within you but if you’ve ever had a child sick or a parent sick or I don’t know a fight with a person that you love, with a friend, with your spouse, you know that it is really hard for this wisdom to make sense in that very moment. And in the moment when something is happening to you and your loved ones, it is okay that you do not feel happy. It is okay. Because you are a social being.

And what is I? Is I just this physical body or is I all of this? Is I — perception of me, does it include you? Or does it only include me?

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So in that moment I felt that yes, as long as I have myself I’ll be okay. But it is also okay to not feel so happy when something is wrong with the person who is really close to you. You have to surround yourself by people whom you love, whom you care about, who you’re attached to even though it means that sometimes you might be a little bit unhappy if something happens to them.

So just to sum up that idea about the relationships, scientists have shown that people in relationship, they are healthier, they heal better, and they live longer. And the reverse is true, as Vishen said “Social isolation is the epidemic in the current day society,” and he said “it is despite Facebook and Instagram.” But I would say it is also because of Facebook and Instagram. We are forgetting how to interact. We’re forgetting what it is to truly connect to each other.

Facebook and Instagram is another layer which we put on ourselves. This is another thing we have to learn to deal with and not to lose the social connection.

And I’ve also heard that social isolation is apparently the number one killer in the current day society, because social isolation makes you less likely healed from, let’s say, such things as cancer or cardiovascular disease. So relationships are important not just for happiness but also for our health and longevity.

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