Evan Marc Katz: No More Bad Dates at TEDxStJohns (Full Transcript)

Evan Marc Katz

Dating coach Evan Marc Katz presents No More Bad Dates at TEDxStJohns conference (Transcript)

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Evan Marc Katz – Dating coach

Ask a stranger: What do you think of online dating? What are they going to tell you? ‘I hate online dating. Online dating sucks. Men suck, women suck, profile suck. Everybody is stupid, everybody lies. Guys were in such a rush to meet. Nobody has anything interesting to say’. This is the going wisdom about online dating evidently.

Now I understand that. I will acknowledge that. I dated online for many years. I am a dating coach. So I understand. At the same time, complaining that online dating sucks is kind of like complaining that the gym is not helping you lose weight. I mean, it’s not the gym’s job. Think about it. Some gyms have better equipment, some gyms have better classes. But ultimately whether you lose weight is not up to the gym, it’s you — how often do you work out, how effectively, how intensely do you work out?

So as we frame today’s discussion, I just want you to consider not what’s wrong with online dating, which is valid, but rather what am I doing to yield the best possible results in online dating. That’s what we can control.

So I’m an unusual messenger for a number of reasons, not in the least of the fact that I love online dating. I mean I was like I’m that one guy who was like man, I love that crap. I moved to LA, I was 24-25 years old. I was a writer. I worked from home, wasn’t big on the club or the bar scene. So for me this was a natural fit, the same people that I didn’t necessarily have the courage or access to approach in real life, I could talk to them online, just by being cute friendly. And so I dated, no exaggeration, 300 people over the course of 10 years of online dating before I got married. I say with a mixture of pride and embarrassment.

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So I had such a wonderful experience, such a unique experience that I started to coach the stuff. And now for over a decade, I’ve been helping people fall in love using online dating. I work with women, smart strong successful women from around the world of all ages helping them fall in love. I’ve helped a 41-year old woman in a wheelchair, a woman who was 80 pounds over weight, woman of 65 never been on a date before. These are my real clients who fell in love using the online dating system that I’m going to share with you today.

So if I sound somewhat evangelical about my own stuff, the reason why is that I’ve seen it work over and over and over again. And I’m very confident that it’s going to work for you.

So what’s wrong with online dating? To me, it’s not the online portion of online dating, the dating part of online dating. It’s the bad first date. You know what I’m talking about — someone has to know what I’m talking about you. You get dressed up, you drive across town, you sit at the coffee shop, and two minutes into the date, you’re like, ‘Oh my God! What am I doing here? Why does this happen to me over and over again? How do I keep on meeting these freaks?’ I don’t know the answer to that question. I bet you know the answer to that question. It’s instant gratification. We’re an instant gratification society. We’re texting, we’re tinder, how quickly can we make this stuff happen. That’s why you go on bad blind dates over and over and over again.

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