Here is the full transcript of American activist James O’Keefe’s TEDx Talk titled Homosexuality: It’s About Survival – Not Sex at TEDxTallaght conference.
James O’Keefe – American activist
One summer evening, my eighteen-year-old son Jimmy said he wanted to talk. So, after my wife Joan and I got his three much younger siblings tucked in and read their bedtime stories, Joan and I sat down in our bedroom.
Jimmy came in and closed the door behind him. And he sat down on a chair across from the bed where we were sitting, and says, “Mom and Dad, I have something important to tell you, and it’s not a problem, it’s not a bad thing, it’s just different.”
We said, “Okay”.
And he looked at us in earnest, and he said, “I’m gay.”
So, after a few seconds of deafening silence, Joan takes a deep breath and says, “Jimmy, we will love whoever you love.”
That was about 12 years ago when he came out to us, and I’ll have to admit that, at the time, Joan and I did think this could be a problem, for his safety, even. And as his father, I had this feeling that, somehow, I had failed him, and maybe, because of that, he wouldn’t have a chance to have kids of his own.
So, I’m a cardiologist, and I like to imagine the world through the eyes of a hunter-gatherer ancestor for clues about how to thrive in the modern world, but, viewed in the light of evolution, homosexuality seems to be a real self-defeating non-productive strategy.
I mean, gays have 80% fewer kids than heterosexuals. This is a trait that ought to go extinct in a few generations, but down through recorded history, in every culture, and many animal species as well, homosexuality’s been a small, but distinct subgroup.
If this were a genetic error, natural selection should have long ago called this from the gene pool. So, while I was pondering this, this paradox about the natural origins of homosexuality, our babies grew up. Jimmy has three younger siblings who adore him. He has this magnetism and this charming wit that helps them feel happy and relaxed.
And one day, while contemplating this “Jimmy effect,” it suddenly dawned on me: homosexuality is not so much about sex; it’s really more about survival, the family’s survival.
So us, Homo sapiens, we are among the most social species on Earth. For us, it’s not just a kill-or-be-killed struggle for existence. It’s a snuggle for existence, you know. An ability to love our family and bond with our group determines, in many cases, whether we survive or perish. So it’s the survival of the fittest family, not the fittest individual.
So, you share 50% of your DNA with your siblings. Your nieces and nephews share 25% of your DNA. Frоm evolution’s perspective, you have the same genetic success if you raise one child on your own or you enable a sibling to raise two children. Frоm evolution’s perspective, this is all about cooperation and altruism. Homosexuality is genetically-programmed altruism.
Gays are designed by nature to help us be kind to one another, like Ellen DeGeneres says. So, E O Wilson, probably the greatest evolutionary biologist since Darwin himself, says homosexuality gives advantages to the group by specialized talents and unusual qualities of personality. So, a society that condemns homosexuality harms itself.
So, what does professor Wilson mean by “unusual qualities of personality”? Well, let me tell you about our dear family friend Jenny. She is 35, single, straight. She was telling us she is looking for a man who’s smart and funny, who’s sensitive, who’s a good listener. And she says she occasionally meets a guy like that, but she complains, “You know, he usually has a boyfriend already!”
So, although people tend to obsess over what gays do or don’t do in a bedroom, it’s really this distinctive personality and a strong intellect that are more critical, from evolution’s perspective. So, scientific studies do indeed show that people in the sexual minority tend to be intelligent, particularly when it comes to emotional intelligence.
So, this study showed that boys and girls who scored in a very bright IQ range were twice as likely to be homosexual as adults as those children who scored in the low to average range. And, among gay males, on psychological testing, gay males tend to score higher in metrics of compassion and cooperation, and lower in metrics of hostility.
So, if Michelangelo had been straight, he might have just wallpapered the Sistine Chapel. Songwriter Sam Austin says, “Homosexuality is God’s way of ensuring the truly gifted aren’t burdened with children.” But today, in the US, about 2 out of every 25 people are in the sexual minority.