Skip to content
Home » Laurie Betito on The Pleasure Principle: The Secret to a Better Sex Life at TEDxMontrealWomen (Transcript)

Laurie Betito on The Pleasure Principle: The Secret to a Better Sex Life at TEDxMontrealWomen (Transcript)

Laurie Betito

Laurie Betito – TRANSCRIPT

Okay. Anyone remember who talked to you about sexual pleasure? Does anyone talk to us about sexual pleasure? Did we learn it in sex education class? Or did we just learn about STDs or how not to become pregnant? Did our parents talk to us about pleasure? No.

Now, as babies, all we know is pleasure. Hands down the pants, it just feels good! It has nothing to do with sex until somebody says, “Don’t touch yourself! Don’t touch yourself.”

Then as we get older, if we’re teenagers and we express an interest in sex, what are we called? Sluts, right? And we still, even today, surprisingly, even today, we still hear those kinds of comments. We celebrate male gratification, but we shame women for the same. We still have negative messages that come to us, from our families, from our culture, from religion; they’re still out there.

And then, as we grow up into adults and have relationships, we’re magically supposed to love it. I cannot tell you how often I see women in my office – and that’s women of all ages – who come in saying they have an issue with orgasm. Either because they’re not seeing fireworks and they expect it, or because they’re not having orgasms with intercourse, and they come in saying, “I have a problem.” And then I ask them about their own pleasure when they self-pleasure, and they say, “Okay, no problem with that.” But yet, they still think they have a problem with orgasm.

Pages: First |1 | ... | Next → | Last | View Full Transcript