Here is the full text of NYC-based sex researcher, writer, and educator Dr. Zhana Vrangalova’s TEDx Talk: Is Casual Sex Bad For You? @ TEDxCollegeofWilliam&Mary.
Listen to the MP3 Audio here: Is Casual Sex Bad For You- – Dr. Zhana Vrangalova – TEDxCollegeofWilliam&Mary
Hi. So our world today is a far more sexually permissive place than it used to be 50 years ago.
These days, for most people, premarital sex is okay, oral sex is okay. In this post “50 Shades of Grey” era, even kinky sex is okay. But we’re still very conflicted as a society and as individuals over whether it’s acceptable and healthy to have casual sex — sex outside the confines of long-term, romantic relationships.
We are constantly surrounded by it, yet we are often told it’s bad for us, we shouldn’t be doing it. By the time we are 25, 70% of us will have hooked up at least once, and yet most of us will worry we shouldn’t really be doing it.
But there’s something that doesn’t make sense here to me about this love-hate relationship we have with casual sex. We all seem to agree that sex with a romantic partner has all these amazing benefits, from longer and healthier lives, to better relationships and greater happiness.
So, how come that same sexual activity has the exact opposite effect if our partner is a stranger or a friend? Is sex somehow good for us only because of the love and commitment we feel for our partners? And without that love and commitment, it automatically turns into a destructive force? Isn’t there something good in just, you know, sex?