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Sarah Liberti on Casually Suicidal at TEDxAdelphiUniversity (Transcript)

Sarah Liberti

Sarah Liberti – TRANSCRIPT

I’d like to start off with a joke. What do you call a student of music with a 40? Suicidal. Oh my gosh, you laugh. But I’m sure most of you are very uncomfortable right now. Let’s just linger in this discomfort. I’m also sure I heard your laugh, so some of you found humor in that.

But maybe some of you related to that in one odd way or another. Discomfort, humour, relatability often run hand in hand when we talk about the big scary s-word: suicide.

My name is Sarah, and everything pertaining to that “joke” relates to me. I’m currently in my fourth year studying music here. I really do have a 40 right now, and I have danced with depression and the very dark intrusive thoughts that come along with it.

As I scroll through social media and hear conversations between people, I realize that suicide is something people are actually joking about and people are actually laughing about. It makes me wonder what made suicide such a casual thing to tease about.

Well, have I brought some examples? Let’s take a stroll through our social media together.

Facebook “I’m pre-peared to die”, “I want to pickle-d myself”, “I tomato-ly want to die”, “I have no raisin to live”, “I avocado-n’t want to be alive”, “I want to corn-mit suicide”, All right Onto Yik Yak – an App the allows you to anonymously confess things, You can search by region, and I searched under Adelphi’s tag, “This class is going to be the death of me.” Smiley face gun emoji, that’s a popular one. “I’m so lonely.” “At that point in the semester where I don’t look both ways when I jaywalk”. “I sometimes cut my arms but lately I’ve been thinking about cutting my wrists”.

To Twitter “Every day is just 24 hours of me not trying to kill myself”. “If I kill myself, I’ll stop wishing to die”. “I won’t have to stress about the future if I kill myself”. “I won’t be suicidal anymore if I just kill myself”.

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“Good morning I want to die in December of this year”. “Just reminding everyone that I really want to die in October of this year”. “Maybe you don’t want to die but you don’t care if you lived”. “I’m not even dropping hints that I want to die anymore. Honestly, someone please run me over or stab me already.”, “Sometimes I want to die for a day just to see who really cares.”

So Tumblr SpongeBob, “I’ll kill the first person that moves.” Spongebob again “Me deciding if I want to go to school or kill myself”. Wow Hang in there.

A noose pun Oh Forget me not. From this year, this month actually, “I’ll just kill myself. Bye” And then an Instagram post – I’m not sure if these are lyrics to a song – “If they say to kill yourself then you will try it.” But what intrigued me the most about this Instagram post are the hashtags: suicidal, cutting, depression quotes, bulimia, freak, die, monster. And there were three words in German that I translated at the bottom here: blade, to cut, scratches. I’m a quiet person, so I hear everything. Behind me sat two girls in the class where our professor was always five minutes late.

A says to B, “I’d rather jump out the window than to be here” B replies, “We’re only on the second floor. You’d have to swan dive out, so your head was the first thing that hit the ground, then you’d die”. Sitting in my statistics class this semester, the second week of school, two boys are sitting behind me, and one says to the other, “This class already makes me want to kill myself”. The other one chuckled.

I made the mistake of assuming that in all of these situations the people were fine. That because they were talking about pain with humour, they were okay. That they did it for a laugh; they did it to relate. But it got me thinking: what if that was their flare? What if instead of laughing, they were screaming? What was it about having to present their pain through humour?

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I believe it was because they were uncomfortable actually talking about these hard feelings to discuss. So what do we do if someone actually, boldly says, “I want to kill myself.” We get uncomfortable and retract into our shell, and we don’t know what to do. Discomfort is something that tore an old best friend of mine and I apart.

A few years ago, I actually drove myself to the emergency room in the midst of a panic attack. I learned two things that day. Never drive when you’re having a panic attack. It’s not good. And number two: it feels really good to get help. It feels so relieving and wonderful to tell someone: “I’m hurting, look at me, help me!”

I was released from the psychiatric emergency room at 6:30 in the morning, and I was sitting in this ugly green waiting room, waiting for my parents to come pick me up because I didn’t feel like driving back. And I realized that people were still coming into the emergency room, that the Sun was rising, and people were still going about their day. And because it was 6:30 in the morning, my best friend was getting ready for school to start at 7:00.

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