Here is the full transcript of former TV anchor Vanessa Vancour’s TEDx Talk: I’m Mexican. Does That Change Your Assumptions About Me? at TEDxUniversityofNevada conference. This event occurred on January 21, 2017.
Vanessa Vancour – Former TV Anchor
I have lost count of the number of times someone asked me, “How come you speak such good Spanish?” Spanish speakers as well as non-Spanish speakers because I know I am not what they imagine when they think of a Latin American. My favorite way to reveal I speak the language, though, is by jumping into conversations happening near me.
Because the other person will usually say, “Hablas español?” usually followed with, “I hope I wasn’t saying anything inappropriate.” We usually assume that we know a person’s background but what I learned at a very young age is that I will never know a person’s story unless I ask. I know that I’m not what most people picture when they imagine a Mexican-American, and I don’t fit the assumptions that some people have about the children of immigrants.
According to a recent study from the Pew Research Center, more than 11 million people living in the U.S. are undocumented immigrants. And according to the Center for Migration Studies, more than 5 million children born in the U.S. live with an undocumented parent. And at one point, I was one of them.
My mum is from Mexico. She was born and raised in the state of Colima, where my brother is also from. I asked her about her experience crossing the U.S. border for the first time last year and recorded our conversation. For the first time in my life, I understood how courageous she is.
I also realized that my generation, the children of these immigrants, we will never know fear or loss as deeply as those who came before us. This story about an illegal crossing is an important part of my family’s history. It has greatly influenced my ability to stand before you today as the American daughter of a Mexican immigrant who is now developing the first bilingual Spanish language media program, as a faculty member at the Reynolds School of Journalism.
In 1976, my mum’s brother was already living in the U.S. so he arranged for her to meet with a Coyote, or a human smuggler, at a motel in Tijuana. Tijuana is a Mexican city bordering California, and it’s a 27-hour drive from Tecoman where my mum was living at the time.
She was only 20 years old when she crossed the border illegally to live with her brother, leaving my brother, who was only two at the time, to live with our grandparents in Mexico. Her first attempt at crossing was not successful. As she ran across the desert, the people around her started yelling, so she threw herself into the bushes and held her breath. She could hear the tires of the border patrol vehicles approaching. They were all detained and sent back.
Just a day or so after that experience, she was connected with a different Coyote, and this time she did enter California successfully. She worked as a nanny for a year in southern California before she moved back to Mexico. Six years after that experience, my mum lived in Tijuana, with my brother, and that’s where she met my dad. She is going to be so mortified, when she realizes that I’m telling this many people how they actually met. Because, growing up, she would make my sister and me say that they met through a “mutual friend.” Sort of think of it as the Mexican match.com of the early 1980s.