Being Human in a Digital Age: Joel Comm at TEDxMileHigh (Full Transcript)

Joel Comm – TRANSCRIPT

I was 12 years old when my parents got divorced. It’s not an uncommon story, but like many kids I was left with a lot of pain, a lot of concern, a lot of loss. And not knowing how to deal with it, I did the best I could, and found healthy and unhealthy ways to manage it.

Of course, the unhealthy ways were pretty dysfunctional and that dysfunction led to a number of addictions in my life, and those addictions throughout the years have included workaholism, addiction to food, addiction to video games, addiction to drugs, addiction to pornography. And unfortunately, the dysfunction played forward into my relationships, and after 22 years of marriage, I contributed enough dysfunction to it that my wife left me. With all due respect to her, I take complete ownership for my failure in my half of the marriage, and then probably a good portion more. Had we had social media at the time, I don’t think this is something I would have shared publicly.

In fact, I’m certain I wouldn’t have, because there was great shame. There’s shame in the secrets we carry, and there’s power in the secrets. In fact, the power is found in keeping the secret in. So why do I share this with you? Because right now, this just got raw, this got vulnerable. If I weren’t clothed, I may as well be fully naked. You don’t have to picture it, it’s fine.

But there was a lot of shame, and it’s shame that we can all relate to. There’s a site out there called postsecret.com, and it’s a place where people can anonymously share their secrets and their pain without putting their name on it, by submitting postcards, some of them very beautifully done, and it gives them an opportunity to share their secrets. We hunger to be able to share.

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[Where I work, I’m too lazy to walk to the bathroom so I pee in the kitchen sink]

I’ll let you see that one before I continue.

[I judge people based on how often the post useless crap on Facebook]

We’ve hungered a share, but we’re not very trusting, because we’ve been hurt before. We are so connected now, 72 billion people in the world, billions carrying smartphones, over 2 billion connected on social media, and we have so many friends now. We’re more connected than we’ve ever been. But are we really connected? We like to put up a good front, I’m all for a good selfie. And we love to share the positive things that are happening in our lives, don’t we?

But how do you know what’s real and what’s false? Elan Gale is a producer for the hit TV show “The Bachelor”, and Elan was traveling for Thanksgiving back home, and he was at 36,000 feet with Wi-Fi, and there was an altercation taking place just a few rows up from him. It turns out there was a woman in seat 7A who may as well have been the only person on the plane. She was being very demanding of the flight attendants, and so Elan thought, “I’m going to take matters into my own hands.” He wrote a note on a cocktail napkin, had it sent to the woman, she wasn’t happy about it, she sent one back, he sent another one to her, and before you know it, he’s blowing up Twitter to his 150,000 followers with these shenanigans and this story that was taking place. Of course, it went way beyond his followers and became real viral. You’d have thought for sure when they landed it was going to be a “Come on!” But that didn’t happen.

In fact, Elan confessed, after he landed, that none of it actually happened. He made it all up. He thought it would be entertaining for him while he was on his flight, and he thought it would be entertaining for his followers. How do we know what’s fake and what’s real? And in our own lives, we wear these masks, and we pretend, and now that we’ve got all this technology where we can really be whoever we want to be in social media and appear how we want to, how do we stay human in this digital age? How do we get to the truth? And who’s willing to stand up and say, “You know what? This is the truth, this is all I’ve got, warts and all, flaws and mistakes.” And there’s too many to count with this guy, I’ll say that! How do we get to the bottom? There’s a site on the web that has helped us move in that direction. It’s called dogshaming.com.

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