Louise Evans: Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success (Transcript)

Here is the full transcript of behavioral coach Louise Evans’ TEDx Talk: Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success at TEDxGenova conference. This event took place on November 19, 2016 at Genova, Italy. Louise Evans is the author of the book ‘5 Chairs 5 Choices’. To learn more about the speaker, read the bio here.

 

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Louise Evans – Behaviour Coach, Corporate Trainer

I’d like to introduce you to these 5 chairs. Because they’re actually the real protagonists of my talk. And they have a special message to give to all of us. And the message is about what behaviors and attitudes we bring into the world in every moment.

Now to show you what I mean, I have a story to tell you from my personal life. And I was trying to build a stronger relationship with a very important person, the daughter of my partner, 20-year old daughter. And to do that, I thought let’s have a great evening out, just the two girls together and I chose a special venue, the Blue Note Jazz Club in Milan. And that note — that night the Manhattan Transfer which is my favorite jazz group were playing.

So we meet, atmosphere is fantastic, we’re getting on very well and I’m happy and being a big baby boomer loving the music. And I thought, well, is she liking as much as I am. And so in that moment I just turned to look at her to check. And what did I see? I saw this. She was on her iPhone.

Now how to react? I had some choices. First choice: “Excuse me, I mean what is she doing? She’s on her iPhone. I mean, I spent all this time and money thinking of a fantastic evening. I bring her here and what after two minutes I take my eyes off her and she’s on her phone. I mean what is wrong with this generation? I mean they got an attention span of a fruit fly. I am sick, God!”

Choice number 2: “This was a mistake. Why did I bring her here? I mean she’s bored. She’s not interested; she doesn’t like the music. What was I thinking? I mean, why should she like the music? I mean, this is stuff for baby boomers. She probably thinks she’s spending the evening with a dinosaur. Oh, God!”

Choice number 3: “Hold your horses. Count to 10. Take a deep breath. Don’t jump to conclusions. You don’t know what she’s doing on her iPhone. So just relax, take it easy. Have another drink.”

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Choice number 4: “Now, you know what’s really important for me is that that evening, this evening together with it is special that she feels that after this evening she can really open up to me, she can feel safe with me, and that she’s — I’m always an open door for her. That’s what’s really important for me. And I just hope it’s going to happen. I just hope.”

Choice number 5: “What’s important for her? What’s going on in her world right now? What’s important for her? I really would love to connect to her and what do I need to do that?”

You know, I was having real problems trying to answer that question, and in that moment, she turned to me and she said, “Louise, did you know that this is the only Blue Note in the whole of Europe. And there’s one in New York and then there’s two in Japan. But this is the only one here in Milan and that’s incredible. The Italians have got it”. And she said, “Um oh, and I’ve looked up the Manhattan Transfer. Do you know that they’ve been playing and singing together for 40 years? That’s incredible.” Um oh — and she said, “also look”. She handed me her iPhone. She sent a message out on Facebook. It said, “In the Blue Note in Milan with the Manhattan Transfer and Louise, the best.”

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