Here is the full transcript of author Mary Morrissey’s talk titled “The Hidden Code For Transforming Dreams Into Reality” at TEDxWilmingtonWomen conference. In this talk, Mary explains how to advance confidently in the direction of your dreams.
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Imagine it’s one year from today, and we all agree that we’re going to come back for a reunion. Not maybe, absolutely; we’ll all come back, exactly the same group of us, and we’re to come back for a reunion.
And we’re going to share the things that have happened in our life during the last 12 months of our life. We’re going to share what it is that we dreamed up when we were here at TEDx in October of 2016, and what’s happening in our lives now, 365 days later.
What would you love to be saying about your life? What would you love to say in the four areas where humans actually do create results?
We live in a spiral universe. In a spiral, there’s an ever upward pull of becomingness. A little blade of grass feels it as it presses through cement to become more of itself today than yesterday. A tree presses to the edges of itself to become more of itself today than yesterday.
And humans feel the same thing; we just feel it a little differently. We feel it through longing, and we feel it through discontent.
We feel a longing for greater freedom, we feel a discontent with certain circumstances and situations. And if we just keep breathing another 365 days, we will create results, because that’s what humans do.
Now, we create results in four areas. We create results in health and well-being. You could look at your own results right now in health and well-being.
BUT WHAT WOULD YOU LOVE A YEAR FROM NOW?
Because if you keep breathing, you’re going to have results in that area. Humans create results in RELATIONSHIPS. Some of them are wonderful, some of them are deep, some of them are supportive, and some of them are not.
What would you love in the area of your relationships? Would you love to bring someone special in your life? Would you love to transform a relationship you’re in? Maybe a relationship is on auto-pilot, and you’d love to have it go deeper.
Humans create results in VOCATION. What we do with our time and talent, whether we earn income doing it or not. Because just by our beingness, we’re doing something with our time and talent.
Even if we think, “I’ve made so many mistakes, I’m going to crawl in bed and put the covers over my head.” What I create that day is “covers-over-my-head day in bed.” I don’t get to not create out of my experience.
And humans create results — here we go — humans create results…
Humans create results in time and money, freedom or constraint. So if you think about next year when we come to the reunion, what would you love to be saying?
You know, on my calendar the last 12 months, here’s what were the evidences of more freedom for me, and time. More freedom for me in the economic freedom where I could go where I wanted to go, do what I wanted to do, but maybe even more importantly, and I believe it is, actually give to the things that matter to you. Provide some of the things for those that matter to you as well.
Now, about 40 years ago, I got very, very interested in transformation. I was getting my undergraduate degree, and I cared deeply about kids. It’d been a longing of mine for quite a while to become a schoolteacher.
And while I was getting my undergraduate degree, I wanted to study everything I could in the field of transformation. And the purpose of that point was to help children discover a kind of self-esteem so no matter what their circumstances, no matter what their situations, they could actually believe that they could become the person they wanted to be, and achieve the things they wanted to achieve.
I went on and got a graduate degree in counseling psychology. I earned an honorary doctorate. My first book, “Building Your Field of Dreams,” became a PBS special.
I had the privilege of working with His Holiness the Dalai Lama over the course of seven years, creating week-long conversations. I could just sit right next to him for a week at a time over seven years, three different times. Conversations with world leaders about how to transform our world’s results.
I got very interested in how results happened, and how to transform results. I had the privilege of speaking at the United Nations with the Martin Luther King kids and Gandhi’s grandkids and creating a 64-day season for non-violence, particularly teaching junior high kids about how to solve problems through acts of non-violence and caring.
And I spoke at the UN three different times, one of them with Rosa Parks. And I was building my dreams that mattered to me.
I had the privilege of working and flying to Cape Town, South Africa, and meeting with Nelson Mandela. I had a deep dream to ask him the question: “How did you transform your results? How did you be a man who gets sentenced to life in prison — you served 27 years in hard prison — and then not only do you get out of prison before you die, but you actually then become president of the country that sentences you to life. Who on our planet does this? How did you do that? What was going on inside of you?”
And that has been my quest and my interest and my deep longing so that I could transfer that and offer that to the people that I had the privilege of working with. I’ve had the privilege of working with tens of thousands of people around the world around changing their results.
Does it mean that because every time I’ve studied this, and worked with my own life and others, that every time for me my dreams came true? No. Does it mean everything I did worked out? No.
My first business that I spent 23 years building — I took my eye off the ball, I hired somebody to run the financial side of it. It was totally mismanaged. I lost everything I had built. It was heartbreaking to me.
But there are three steps that dream builders use either consciously or unconsciously to transform their results so that the dream wins over conditions; so that the dream wins over time; so that the dream wins over all kinds of circumstances, situations, and even our history, and even no matter how long it’s been there, and sometimes it’s been there for decades.
About 150 years ago, a man decided to do an experiment with his life. That’s what we’re invited to do over the next 12 months. Keep breathing and do an experiment with life.
He went to the woods, Henry David Thoreau, and he said, prior to his — this quote that’s up here, he said:
“I wanted to learn to suck the marrow out of aliveness. I wanted to live a life I loved living while I was living it. I went to the woods because I wished to deliberately front the only essential facts of life and see if life could not teach me what it had to teach, and not when I came to die discover that I had not even really lived.”
Now, Henry did this two-year, two-month, two-day experiment, and then he wrote an essay about it.
In the conclusion of that essay, he writes a quote that is worldwide known:
“If one advances confidently in the direction of their dream and endeavors to live the life they’ve imagined,” he said, “I learned this at least by my experiment, if one advances confidently in the direction of their dream.”