Here is the full transcript of motivational speaker Les Brown’s speech titled “Getting Unstuck.”
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It’s my pleasure to be here this evening, to ask you to join together with me to welcome Les Brown for his third in a series of four classes. Les is one of the most inspiring, motivational teachers in America today. When I heard him three years ago, it actually brought tears to my eyes and I rushed one of my son’s over afterwards to introduce him to Les.
And my feeling was every young person in America needs to hear this man, because if you could start them out young, learning the kinds of ideas that he can put across so beautifully and so enthusiastically, and so from the heart, it would change America.
And I knew when he was here before, we’d be having him back again. You know how you just know some things and so I’m just thrilled tonight to introduce to you Les Brown.
LES BROWN – Motivational Speaker & Author
Good evening. How you doing?
When I ask how you’re doing, I want you to say better than good and better than most. How you doing? I know that’s right. And sometimes even better than that, right.
I like to just let you know I really appreciate the opportunity to share some time with you again. Why don’t you give [Leonor] round of applause please?
I’m very very supportive of this ministry. I think that Jack Poland is ahead of his time and the people here who show a level of concern in terms of empowering people and helping them to develop the skills that are necessary to navigate through some of the treacherous waters of life, it’s something that’s very much needed.
This evening we’re going to be looking at how to get unstuck. I think some of you know what I mean.
Sometimes we have to ask ourselves: what’s using my life? Heard a guy give a lecture one time that says we are today what we were when [yesterday]. And he’s talking about the fact that we, to a great extent, behave, think, react, because of some previous experience that we’ve had.
One of the things that we know about life is that it is always changing. Sometimes you’re up; sometimes you’re down. Sometimes things go real well, and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes you’re happy and sometimes you’re sad. Now that’s that thing called life.
And when we begin to understand and know that, accepting that reality that that we will never ever have things just on an even keel all the time. But you’re going to have some ups, and you’re going to have some downs. But during those down moments, that’s where the growth takes place. That’s where the work is.
Anybody can feel good when they have their health, their bills are paid, they have happy relationships, the children are acting normal. Business is successful; anybody could be positive then. Anybody can have a larger vision then. Anybody can have faith under those kinds of circumstances. Am I correct?
See, but the real challenge — the real challenge of growth mentally, emotionally, and spiritually comes when you get knocked down. Somebody said that that adversity introduces a man to himself or woman. How you handle it, that’s where the growth takes place.
When I was facing some challenges, I had a guy say something to me and I suggest this is one of the first things that you want to do when you’re facing a challenge, you want to get unstuck, evaluate where you are. Look at it. Assess yourself. Assess yourself and assess the situation; what brought you there? What role did you play?
Earl Nightingale had a saying I like. He said, “All of us are self-made but only the successful will admit it.”
What has brought you to this point? What did you learn from it? Are you learning anything or are you doing it over and over and over again? Somebody said that insanity is doing the same thing in the same way expecting a different outcome.
Are you going through it or are you growing through it? Are you bigger and better, because of it? Because it’s not going to leave you until you grow through it.
I was going through a major challenge in my life that was wearing me out, that was using me. And one of my students told me in a class that I was teaching, lessons in truth, she said, “Les, until you handle it with grace, it will stay in your face.” And it stayed there long time.
The challenges of life — how do we get stuck?
A friend of mine went through a divorce, my best friend. He had a wife that did not love him as much as he loved her. It was his first real true love. He was a very religious man, did not believe in divorce. He made a mistake and he paid for his mistake with a lot of pain, a lot of tears.
And there came to a point where he knew he should have gotten a divorce but he was stuck. He was stuck in something called revenge. He said she’s made me so miserable I’m going to pay her back. He was stuck and he stayed in there longer than he should have because it began to attack him, it began to affect him psychologically. And as a result of that, when he eventually did get a divorce he took that same attitude to other relationships looking for something to go wrong.